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Hi, my partner committed an offence in mid 2021 and we met at end of 2021. He told me what he'd done when we first met and I accepted him for who he was, not what he'd done and appreciated him opening up as he did. It's a very low amount of Cat C images, from catalogues. Now the thing I'm worried about is we went court together beginning of this month and media have posted it all on social media and website with false information and branding him the P word for everyone to see. Luckily he lives 90 miles from me so it's not mentioned he lives here which he doesn't at minute anyway due to me having a 12 year old son and social being involved. Only our families know what he's done in the past and his ex and her family. What I'm worried about is can people find out where I live and know he's on the register? I don't want my home getting targeted or my son being punished. My sons home educated so no risk of bullying from school side. But just don't want our safe space being made unsafe when he's allowed home again. He was in a very bad position, very low, couldn't speak to anyone and he made a very bad mistake in his life. We all make mistakes, some more stupid and idiotic than others but I've seen how he's regretted what he's done and how it's affected him. Has anyone been in the same position and can give advice please? Thanks
There are the obvious Google searches on his name that someone could do and this could bring up media results. There are some websites that have made their own database of offenders based on news reports, but someone would have to go looking for this.
Regarding any authorities sharing the information, this shouldn't be done unless there are reasons for concern and this would be through Sarah's Law.
I think part choosing to support someone on this journey means also accepting some risks. If you are in a different area to where he use to live and he intends to move to your area, would he consider changing his name?
Regarding any authorities sharing the information, this shouldn't be done unless there are reasons for concern and this would be through Sarah's Law.
I think part choosing to support someone on this journey means also accepting some risks. If you are in a different area to where he use to live and he intends to move to your area, would he consider changing his name?
I think if I were in your position, I'd be more concerned about SS's getting involved with you. All the best to you. X
I'm several years on from my ex offending and even though he's my ex, I've still experienced issues recently when the news article was leaked all over again by a neighbour. This is the result of just one news article being out there on the internet and despite us changing our surname.
Unfortunatley, sex offences (not matter the severity) are the least accepted type as far as society is concerned. Make sure you think about all the implications for yourself and, more importantly, your son before you make a final decision.
Sending strength.
Unfortunatley, sex offences (not matter the severity) are the least accepted type as far as society is concerned. Make sure you think about all the implications for yourself and, more importantly, your son before you make a final decision.
Sending strength.
We have had no problems despite the case being in the media twice both in the local paper and on line. My person was also branded a 'P' by the media but we are now 7 months post sentencing and there have been no repercussions.