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Cloehelen

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May 2023

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Posted Fri May 19, 2023 2:15pmReport post

Hello, and first of all i have to say that this forum really helps me get through my days. And i appreciate everyone if you strong people telling about your experiences. I am from Norway, and there is no help for us here about this theme..

I live in a very small town. The roumors about my husband and father of my kids spread through my Mom, after i told her she unfortunely couldnt hold it to herself. There is no online info about his case, and no one except me and my husband has evidence. But people are takling about this, and someone has even made a post online anonymous calling him out as a pedophile. I can tell its only roumors without evidence because the ones who are spreading them are telling a whole different story then what really happened. But i am so afraid of walking out my door, espesially with him. Does anyone have some tips or something that may helped you getting through this? Do i have to move because of the roumors? Change school and everything for my kids..? I am so worried. Its been 5 months since the knock. He is now in jail and is home again in 1 month. I am starting to think that we will have to move but i am so unsure.

Parkerpoo1

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Cloehelen

Member since
May 2023

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Posted Fri May 19, 2023 7:18pmReport post

Help me:

Hello, and thank u so much for writing to me.
Ss have closed the case with my first daugther. But they re opened one now, as i just gave birth for about 2 months ago. He is allowed living with us, and have lived with us even after our second baby girl came. I was expecting more struggle with them, but for now it seems like he is allowed being with the girls and living with us.



again, thanks for writing back

Cloehelen

Member since
May 2023

17 posts

Posted Fri May 19, 2023 7:24pmReport post

Parkerpoo:

i am so so sorry you are going through this. Its awful how much we innocent have to go trough.. I really hope you have some family still left on your side or someone who can protect you, have you called or talked to the police about the tagging on your house? Maybe they can help with something. I really dont know myself.. Thank u for writing to me. I really appreciate that you will share your ecsperience with me.



(also my english isnt the best, so its very hard trying to get out my Words the right way)

K4

Member since
October 2022

611 posts

Posted Sat May 20, 2023 6:49amReport post

Is there any chance you're being paranoid? I know that I am incredibly paranoid since this all happened.



but if the detail of what is being spread is materially different to your husband, maybe there is someone else?? Statistically, it would have to be a VERY small town for your OH to be the only one?



I am aware of at least two other people, not because they've told me, but because I am half aware of restrictions put on their families (which are the same as mine).



Also, while these remain rumours that is all they are.

Wishing you strength and support at this horrible time.



xx

Cloehelen

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May 2023

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Posted Sun May 21, 2023 12:29pmReport post

The case has been leaked now, and everyone knowing its seems. Have anyone sucseed in moving to another country? Living as normal as you can? Have it helped..??

i am so scared and consurned..

- Helen

K4

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October 2022

611 posts

Posted Mon May 22, 2023 5:07pmReport post

Oh you poor thing, that's so hard for you.



lots of people on here have moved.



i know Norway isn't in the EU but you might still have the "right to be forgotten" online - it still applies here, so you may be able to ask for news stories etc to be taken down from Google.

I haven't moved, but I have made contingency plans to change our names and move in a worst case scenario. I'm guessing this might be a good course of action for you?

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