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I haven't watched the documentary, but just the headlines in the media has been enough of a trigger for me. It is just having the upsetting reminder that the family, friends and partners are so heavily affected, judged, and left alone with little support. We obviously don't know all the ins and outs of this as with anything, but these type of things are bound to trigger something. I hope you're ok, sending love x

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There are reports and I believe confirmed via the court proceedings that Schofield was aware hos brother was messaging an underage boy. He may not have known the content but he didnt act on it- just told his brother to stop. In my opinion he should have done something, tho I know it is hard for people to report people close to them to the police - it is the right thing to do tho.

I haven't seen the documentary yet but will give it ago. I have recently been watching alot of episodes of an American TV show called intervention. Where an addict or couple who are addicts show their stories on how they got addicted (focus is on drugs and booze) and then thier family do an intervention and the addicts are offered a 70+ day rehab, paid by he show.

Alot of these addicts have common themes and alot didn't want to end up as bad as they did. I have seen a few times in this forum that some offenders appear to have drug and booze problems, but I don't think alot of these shows and media outlets emphasis that substance abuse can contribute to other offending , including iioc. Not saying all that have substance abuse issues go done the horrible road of iioc but I do wonder what the link could be.

One key difference between substance addicts and porn addicts is that those that use substances most of the time you can physically see it as their health is deteriorated and more reflected in their behaviour. No one had any idea my partner was watching iioc and extreme porn, on the outside he was a typical married man with kids.

I had asked him did he ever consider getting help before he was arrested, but he said he had no idea who or how to go about it. Tho I think he didn't get help because he knew he would be arrested, which would be the ring thing to do ofc. I wish he never did it ofc, but I feel if he got help sooner the consequences of his actions may have been less (less time on SOR for example). By the time he was caught he was a heavy user of porn and had 1,000s of all categories.

Not really sure what my point is now....but I don't think we will ever have the same comparison to how substance addicts are treated and rehabilited- best that can be done is educate on the signs of addiction and how to prevent it taking hold.

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My Mum and I previously attended a family support group for families of those struggling with drug addiction, it was based upon the 12 steps programme also used for alcohol addiction. The steps can be used generally in life irrelevant of the reasons for the struggle.It would be wonderful to think that in the future the same support will be given to those affected by the knock. We can live in hope. I tend towards media limitation these days and have opted out of most social media platforms. My mental well-being despite my current situation is increasing. I went for coffee with my daughter last week and left my mobile at home. It felt liberating which is incredibly concerning. I intend revisiting the 12 steps.

Give me the grace to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference xx

I have not seen the Emma Willis programme, but I have seen the stories around Philip schofield. What actually got me is that this has happened to him the week his brother has been sentenced. Also, whenever an acticle was written abouth this feud with Holly the papers always brought in the story about his brother, and in one paper put it in bold, just in case the public had not read about his brother. So not only was there an article was in during the arrest & trails & sentencing it was in every acticle about Philip. His poor mother and wider family. The papers are relentless in their reporting about a man innocent of any crime ( that we know of) and yet contantly having his brother crimes in an article about him. I know they do this with other crimes but the papers do not let anyone move forward. Something needs to be done.
sorry this has also turned out a rant!

I think the Schofield thing feeds into my worst fears about the media. That they will twist everything about our lives and make it sound as if we are all culpable for my person's behaviour.



I suspect there are other reasons why This Morning/Holly haven't stuck by him, but I am very triggered by it all.

Philip Schofield's brother was convicted of abusing a child and he belongs in jail. I think that the rift between Philip and Holly Willoughby is probably due to the fact that he knew and didn't report it rather than about being associated with him.
I wouldn't be surprised if there's more to come about Philips dodgy private life.

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Lee, I completely agree.

My colleagues were talking about it in work yesterday and I snapped, I let rip about my feeling towards the media, the lies they tell and clickbait headlines and everyone jumping on the bandwagon to crucify Philip scofield and the affect this must be having on his family, also the fact that the media sadly won't be happy until Philip decides he just can't take it anymore. After my rant my colleagues actually saw it from another side and ended up agreeing with me.

The media hyenas attack....... :-(

The media are evil x

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As the mother of a SO I've been thinking of PS's mother. How is she feeling having 2 sons involved now and is she wondering if it was anything to do with the way they were brought up, worry for any grandchildren who are being affected, working out her own feelings towards her sons......I'm assuming that she was unaware of either scenario as I know from this forum how common that can be.

Lee I totally agree and feel so sad for PS Mother, wife and children who are now having to go through this nightmare.
When the news came out about his brother I commented to my OH that I thought the media would try to link his being gay to his brothers crime and now I feel that they won't rest until they have totally destroyed him.

I don't subscribe to the view that just because he is a public figure he deserves what he gets -yes he made a very grave error of judgment and regardless of whether it was a consensual relationship or not he was in a position of power over the man concerned he should have known better but he's still a human being and both a son and a Father.

All of us on here know how it feels to be judged by others and I hope his family are getting the support they need.

When it comes to being judgemental and just plain nasty, the media (print and online news, TV and radio) are awful, and social media is even worse. It's the modern equivalent of giving everyone a megaphone, it brings out the worse in people because they do not stop to think before they type and many do not stop to filter their thoughts at all, and it goes round the world in the blink of an eye. :-(

Sadly we all know of people who have got themselves into trouble being mean online too.

Lee

Hahaha no I didn't mean know personally I should have said know of.

I was thinking about celebrities who have said stuff eg on twitter that has been unpleasant, and then they have in turn had people pile onto them. I think social media can be a very unpleasant environment

Lee yeah the genie is out of the bottle with the Internet and we can't uninvent social media, but it does have it's good points in terms of information dissemination. I think the rules of thumb are, tune out the haters, attention seekers and monetisers, and check the sources of things you read. Oh and on the Internet, no one knows if you're a dog!

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Hi all. Hope everyone is doing ok. I think I'm realising that all of the recent media is definitely adding a background of anxiety and stress to me at the moment. I haven't been sleeping well, not feeling great, and I do think it's that drip drip effect of all the awful media and the unbelievably cruel and vicious comments people seem to feel justified to spout when this sort of topic is mentioned, regardless they know nothing of any facts or truths to the sensationalised headlines. Even though the reports of these celebrities don't compare to my partners own history it's the hatred people spout that really gets to me and upsets me. My partners old flat was vandalised badly before he eventually moved in with me. I always have a small fear in the back of my mind something like that could happen now he lives with me, but this sort of media really shakes me up.