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Inturmoil1974

Member since
November 2022

275 posts

Posted Sun May 21, 2023 5:15pmReport post

7 months in to this nightmare and I finally have to admit I can't be the strong one, I feel like I have hit a brick wall I am always the strong one

Cloehelen

Member since
May 2023

17 posts

Posted Sun May 21, 2023 6:26pmReport post

Feel the exact same way now.. 5 months since knock. Will my life ever be something? I am a wreck, been since last week. Thinking about the future. Stay strong.

- Helen

StressedWife

Member since
January 2023

47 posts

Posted Sun May 21, 2023 7:22pmReport post

You are stronger than you are giving yourself credit for.

You have been through hell for 7 months, having a breakdown is completely ok and normal. Your strength isn't gone, it's just allowing your other feelings to show right now. It will resurface and you'll be able to continue fighting soon enough, but for now allow every other emotion out

InTatters

Member since
June 2022

175 posts

Posted Sun May 21, 2023 7:56pmReport post

I also have always been the strong, sensible, pragmatic fixer. At any given moment in time now, I could easily succumb to a mental/physical/emotional breakdown.

Given what we're going through, please remember it's OK to not feel OK. Your feelings are totally normal in light of these abnormal circumstances.

I haven't found any solution yet other than to just ride the wave - all things pass, including how you feel today. Tomorrow will bring different feelings (hopefully better rather than worse!).

There are many, many stages to work through on this roller coaster of horror - we have no choice but to deal with them as they arise.

If you haven't already, perhaps take a look at my 'Planet Knock' post pinned at the top of the forum. You (and we!) are not alone. Lonely, traumatised, hurt, scared, shamed and heartbroken, but not alone.

And awful as our situation is, there are others facing even worse (I am aware this is of limited comfort, but there are even people who would swop their own problems with ours!!!). Hang it there, take care, and we will be happy again.

Anxious mummy

Member since
February 2023

99 posts

Posted Sun May 21, 2023 10:22pmReport post

All my friends and family call me the "strong one" but half the time I feel like I am heading for a breakdown and half the time like I am doing ok. I had a dreadful day yesterday weeping and crying and then today got myself out of bed and outside straight away. Different days bring different mental states and I think we just have to ride the waves of it. Sending love x