How do you carry on?
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When you have lost everything and you dread the future how do you carry on?
What I've done is work backwards... work out what you want in the future and how you can achieve it.
For me that's meant leaving my partner cos I couldn't have the life I wanted with someone who had watched young children being raped ( sorry to be blunt but that's how I've coped and I've got strength from the belief that the're no excuses for what he's done )
of course everyone has the right to do what they want but for me I see more happiness in a future away from all this nightmare
For me that's meant leaving my partner cos I couldn't have the life I wanted with someone who had watched young children being raped ( sorry to be blunt but that's how I've coped and I've got strength from the belief that the're no excuses for what he's done )
of course everyone has the right to do what they want but for me I see more happiness in a future away from all this nightmare
Don't know
You grab everything in life that you enjoy, things in life that give you purpose. You think of the people that love and support you.
It's hard, but we fight the struggle each and every day. All of us fighting different battles but linked with the same emotions.
Not easy - especially when the rug has been pulled from under your feet by someone you love/loved.......
It's hard, but we fight the struggle each and every day. All of us fighting different battles but linked with the same emotions.
Not easy - especially when the rug has been pulled from under your feet by someone you love/loved.......
Because I have a young son who needs me and if it comes to his world crumbling because his Dad will no longer be a big part of his life, I will be the one to wipe away his tears and make sure he is ok. Even when all I want to do is crawl away and hide most days, I have to do my best to plaster a smile on and act like everything is normal for his sake, as hard and exhausting as that is
I think in this situation we all find strength we didn't know we had, simply because we have to x
I think in this situation we all find strength we didn't know we had, simply because we have to x
I am sorry I don't know your situation
i lost my house, job, friends, the life that I knew
but.... i learnt the truth of a relationship and I gained the strength to stand up and represent myself in front of 3 judges, a trial... (long story) and I got my children safe.... safe and away from harm.
Through that legal process (not directly linked to the crime) I learnt more about the lies... and the hatred of him and his family against me. But I learnt the truth.
And that is priceless in ensuring the children are safe.
I never wanted the crime to define me, and it hasn't, it has made me stronger. So take the time, do what you need to do and what is right for you. And be kind to yourself
i lost my house, job, friends, the life that I knew
but.... i learnt the truth of a relationship and I gained the strength to stand up and represent myself in front of 3 judges, a trial... (long story) and I got my children safe.... safe and away from harm.
Through that legal process (not directly linked to the crime) I learnt more about the lies... and the hatred of him and his family against me. But I learnt the truth.
And that is priceless in ensuring the children are safe.
I never wanted the crime to define me, and it hasn't, it has made me stronger. So take the time, do what you need to do and what is right for you. And be kind to yourself
Nemesis, I don't know if this helps, but I've been seeing your history and I wish I had a mother like yourself. You're amazing x
As for the OP, not thinking about the future at all. Just one day at a time. Going extreme on the love bombing with myself and my kids, exercising, eating nutrition good food, doing my hair, getting nice potions and lotions, making myself feel good. One day at a time.
As for the OP, not thinking about the future at all. Just one day at a time. Going extreme on the love bombing with myself and my kids, exercising, eating nutrition good food, doing my hair, getting nice potions and lotions, making myself feel good. One day at a time.
Definitely one day at a time..
one hurdle ... and then another
ans thanks Green. That made me shed a tear as I failed my girls. I didn't protect them in their own home. But the decoy ... protected them and got us safe. Someone said I was the luckiest woman ... and to some extent she was right. He got caught x
one hurdle ... and then another
ans thanks Green. That made me shed a tear as I failed my girls. I didn't protect them in their own home. But the decoy ... protected them and got us safe. Someone said I was the luckiest woman ... and to some extent she was right. He got caught x
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For me, the things that make me carry on are:
the fact that I personally have done nothing wrong
That, despite the things I've lost and/or may yet lose, there are lots of things I can still do with my life that can make it enjoyable and feel worthwhile
That this is my life and it's the only one I've got, if I give up on that I really do have nothing left
I think, finally, that this whole situation has made me so very angry; it's this anger that I tap into, and that makes me feel defiant and know that I still have a lot of fight left in me. I'm not letting anyone take away my anger, defiance and willingness to fight for myself.
For me, the things that make me carry on are:
the fact that I personally have done nothing wrong
That, despite the things I've lost and/or may yet lose, there are lots of things I can still do with my life that can make it enjoyable and feel worthwhile
That this is my life and it's the only one I've got, if I give up on that I really do have nothing left
I think, finally, that this whole situation has made me so very angry; it's this anger that I tap into, and that makes me feel defiant and know that I still have a lot of fight left in me. I'm not letting anyone take away my anger, defiance and willingness to fight for myself.