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whyus

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May 2019

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Posted Mon June 10, 2019 8:07amReport post

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Sillyac

Member since
June 2019

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Posted Mon June 10, 2019 8:36amReport post

Hi whyus

So SS haven’t been involved at all in my ex-husbands investigation, so I’m feeling a bit in limbo. He’d already left the family home when arrested, so maybe that’s why?

I’m sure someone on here can advise you

whyus

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May 2019

56 posts

Posted Mon June 10, 2019 8:53amReport post

Hey sillyac

Does your husband still see the children? Im so mad i might get made out to be a bad parent by SS because of something hes done! Today is the last day of their 45 day assessment on us but even if they let us go now i can guarentee theyll be back when its been to court and i just need to be prepared.

Big sigh

Member since
December 2018

244 posts

Posted Mon June 10, 2019 7:50pmReport post

Hi. My partner still currently in home tho kids on a CP plan. I think it is highly unusual for this to happen but we worked hard to make it work. Investigation still ongoing so don’t know what will happen at outcome of investigation

Sillyac

Member since
June 2019

56 posts

Posted Mon June 10, 2019 8:12pmReport post

Hi

So, I have absolutely no idea what my

ex-husband has or hasn’t been told throughout the investigation, other than advised to have supervised contact with children.

At that point, I decided he should only see them in my home.

My eldest wasn’t happy anyway as he moved in with someone new in May 2017 and left our family home in November 2016. There’s a few reasons they weren’t happy, so this helped in a way. But has not helped my children at all.

As I told him to see them at mine(which was the family home where the children were comfortable) he decided not to bother. He was always adamant to have his girlfriend with him and that was a step too far for me. He basically saw them once in a year I think, but FaceTimed when he felt like it, so I organised calls.

He was constantly told to come and see them and rebuild his relationship with them both. Sadly his Grandma passed away in the August 2018 and it was like he did the decent thing and agreed to come over and tell our eldest the sad news.

Matter a week or 2 he started coming over for an hour on the same evening each week. He chose an hour and that’s how it stayed until before we moved house in April 2019. The policeman I am in contact with knows all of this, so would that be another reason SS haven’t been in contact?

Such a surreal time...How are you doing?

whyus

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May 2019

56 posts

Posted Wed June 12, 2019 12:57pmReport post

Well we are now on day 47 of the 45 day assessment.... Ive been calling SS every day for the past week and a half and ive not heard from the social worker in four weeks. I understand they have huge case loads but all itd take is a phone call just to give me an update. :(

He is moving out soon and im hoping that will lessen SS involvement if they decide to keep us on but you can never tell with them! Some families just get a phone call and some seem to get a child protection order! This is stressing me out far too much!

Rainbow

Member since
January 2019

282 posts

Posted Wed June 12, 2019 3:51pmReport post

That is not fair on you. They only seem to flag things up when its important to them. I hope you get things sorted. My husband moved out after the knock so my case was closed. Whilst waiting though he did move back as our wait was over a year and a half however ss still closed the case. X