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For those who can remember my son had just turned 16 when we first got the knock .Straight away I got help for him with Lucy faithful,safeguarded my house against suicide no wires,tablets in safe etc ,checked my son's computers for years ....after an agonising 10 months he was given a caution .I never brushed anything under the carpet with him ,many a time I told him if ever you are struggling again you can tell me or reach out for help .He had girlfriends as time went by ,and a brilliant well paid job that he excelled in ,and was really going places .Then last year a second knock .My son swore it was nothing to do with him ,and everything came back clear .THEN a few months ago a third knock ,I presumed it would be nothing again ,but unfortunately this wasn't the case .All that therapy about how behind EVERY image is abuse ,and then the SHOCK to find out my son has groomed a young child and blackmailed her to send pictures of her younger sister !!!Thank god that child had the courage to tell her father .I feel I gave birth to a monster ,behind every rapist ,murder etc is a parent ,and I feel I am that parent .

I told one person ,who then blabbed and my neighbour put it all over FB .I have since had petrol thrown at my house and lit ,bricks through windows ,car vandalised ,petrol taken out my car ,abuse in the street .Full page article in the paper.prejudice is everywhere,a neighbour was given threats that her house was going to be blown up and was moved in 3days .Me ,being his mum have been told an emergency move will take months ,I can't go back to my house and have terrible PTSD .My son is protected in prison and just says he didbt know why he did it !!!wtf ...he's destroyed my life ,lied to me and I can't even live in my home .Sometimes I think if I killed myself he might finally understand how many lives he's ruined .I worked with children before the first knock ,a business I built up over 10 years ,but stopped after as it didn't feel right .My life is completely ruined and I just don't know how I will ever recover .I'm so broken by what my son has done ,and now everyone is punishing me for it

Sapphire thank you for your reply .I'm so sorry that we are both in the same situation,it's just the worst ,when we thought it couldn't get worse !!! It seems to be a common theme that these boys/men don't know why .My son just gives nothing away ,I've only seen him cry once ,he has admitted that even though he has feelings ,hes aware that they are different to other people .When I research autism I realise that he has so many traits but I never got him diagnosed because he was doing well .Nothing will ever make me believe that somehow I've failed as a parent .....but I just didn't see it ....he lied to me .My only hope now is that prison reforms him,and he learns from this x