A Good Man
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I keep reading on posts on here how their OH is a "good man". Then I think how can good men do such bad things? It's hard to fathom out.
Then I think about my OH and I too can say he is a good man. He has never turned his back on others with addictions and has always gone that extra mile to help. So God knows what happened for him to end up in this situation.
The problem for me is my good man will now always be known as a bad man so how do I come to terms with that and support him? Is there a way through all this?
Then I think about my OH and I too can say he is a good man. He has never turned his back on others with addictions and has always gone that extra mile to help. So God knows what happened for him to end up in this situation.
The problem for me is my good man will now always be known as a bad man so how do I come to terms with that and support him? Is there a way through all this?
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Lee thanks for your thoughts. I agree it's important now that he is doing the right things and equally important that he is open with me even though it may upset me to hear it. There have been too many lies since the knock so yes my gut feeling will kick in now. I hate it that he is going through this alone so I need to reflect on what to do next.
Lee we are currently living apart. Can't make up my mind to support him or not. The love is still there but the trust has gone.
Trust is key I think. I tried to trust my (ex partner) after the second investigation into him (no arrest) he denied all knowledge of why he'd been investigated) - used the line that he received unsolicited images..
3rd investigation and arrest was 10 weeks ago - is still in denial about doing anything wrong.
I've seen some of the police intelligence that tells me this is definitely linked to him. I will never be able to trust him and he's still on denial. Such a shame. Without trust we have no relationship- I lied to myself about this after the second time.
I don't think he will ever admit anything to me.
I am so pleased for all of you where your men have admitted what they have done.
3rd investigation and arrest was 10 weeks ago - is still in denial about doing anything wrong.
I've seen some of the police intelligence that tells me this is definitely linked to him. I will never be able to trust him and he's still on denial. Such a shame. Without trust we have no relationship- I lied to myself about this after the second time.
I don't think he will ever admit anything to me.
I am so pleased for all of you where your men have admitted what they have done.
I have described my person as a good man because overall he is, not perfect, but who is :) I don't think that he is a bad man now because he made a bad choice. Everyone is on a different journey and that's just my personal thoughts about my person.