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Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

912 posts

Hiya darlings.



First of all I hope we are all doing ok.
Just wanna say hello to you all.



So we are now One year on from his sentencing. Looking back on the day it was shocking. Always something that will stick with me for a very long time.
He got charged with 24 photos acrosss all settings and got suspended for 2 years and 240 community service and 5 years on SOR and SHPO. It wasn't in the media or anywhere.

So one year on what's changed. He has completed his community service. Got that out of the way very quickly and the online studies he did. Nearly finished his probation program.
We have had the visor meetings which where ever 3 months now because he is classed as a medium case he gets visits ever 6 months. Routine how we doing stuff and checking his phone etc.

Been on holidays but only uk. But then again we like uk holidays. Been only on one 7 day one which we told visor team and they said ok straight away. Been on little breaks and no issues.

He hasn't applied for work yet gonna leave that until probation is finished doing one thing at a time.

We are very much together. Yes he has been a idiot and he knows it but he is my idiot.



If anybody has any questions more than happy to help..

Thank you xx

Posted Thu June 1, 2023 9:27amReport post

K4

Member since
October 2022

623 posts

Hello!



well done on coming so far.



I have loads of questions.



1) did he change his name?



2) have you disclosed to insurers etc?



3) have you disclosed to anyone since sentencing?



4) how are YOU? Do your feelings towards him change? Or have you firmly forgiven etc??

are you on meds/therapy etc?



sorry if too personal, don't feel obligated to answer any/all



xx

Posted Thu June 1, 2023 10:14amReport post

Jayjay

Member since
December 2021

695 posts

Good to hear from you Chelsea. I know our journeys were similar timewise.
My hubby got a job quite quickly thankfully or we wouldn't have been able to survive. Also thankfully probation work around this and give him a late night appointment once a month, this will finish at Xmas.
xx

Posted Thu June 1, 2023 11:19amReport post

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

912 posts

Hiya K4.



Off course I don't mind the questions.



1/. Nope no need to change our names due to it not being in the media.



2/. Nope I take care of all the insurance stuff so no changes.



3/. Havnt disclosed to anybody and not going to either.



4/. I am doing ok thank you few health issues which we are working. We have to move on otherwise we will not get on and we might aswell finish it. But we are doing ok.
Was under new meds at the very start because I was having panic attacks but ok now.



How's you hun ?



x

Posted Thu June 1, 2023 6:55pmReport post

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

912 posts

Hiya Jayjay.



Yes I know from before we where on the same timeline with everything.



So if you don't mind me asking what kind of jobs is he doing now ?



xx

Posted Thu June 1, 2023 6:57pmReport post

K4

Member since
October 2022

623 posts

Thank you for your response, I think your response to q4 is wise and I am pleased to hear you're getting meds sorted.



I have had a bad day and so hearing from people on the other side is wonderful.



I really really appreciate it



xx

Posted Thu June 1, 2023 7:02pmReport post

Jayjay

Member since
December 2021

695 posts

Hi Chelsea.

Factory/warehouse/engineering jobs. They didn't ask for references or dbs. One did and when he disclosed they withdraw the offer which was another kick in the teeth but the smaller companies don't seem too. Just need to make sure they only employ over 18s xx

Posted Thu June 1, 2023 10:17pmReport post

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

912 posts

Hiya Jayjay.



That's great news on the job front. Onwards and upwards.



Xx

Posted Fri June 2, 2023 6:37pmReport post

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2490 posts

Chelsea x

So pleased to hear from you and all is ok xx

Posted Fri June 2, 2023 7:13pmReport post

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

912 posts

Hiya Upsetmum.



How's you hunni. How's your boy getting on ?



We are doing ok thank you.



x

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