Leaving..
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6 months since "the knock" i have now finally found myself making a decision. I have wanted so badly to stay with my oh, and i have tried so hard since the knock to think that it would be an oppurtunity. But i have now comed to therms that for me that life isnt realistic. I cant live with his restrictions and fear of my children never having friends over etc.. I feel relieved and also so sad at the same time. The life i so badly wanted has take is turn totally, and my life will never be the same. My feelings for him havent dissapeared but this is the best choice for my children as i see it. I really fully understand the ones that choose to stay, and i really have to say that you are so so strong for pushing through, i admire you. I recently got a newborn baby with my OH. His realise will be in 2 weeks. And he has no restrictions according ss. He will get to see his baby and i think that is good and great because i see the great father he was to here before he went to prison. His therapist and ss dont see that there is a fear of him doing something towards her. That would be a complete different thing, incest wich isnt the same. I have a daugther from before i met my oh, and she will stay with me and never come to his place when he moves, that i think is for the best. I am scared 24/7 now for him to take his own life.. I know the only thing he is living for now is the hope of coming home to his family again after sentencing. Now that that isnt the case anymore, i am so consurned for his life.. I do still love him and care about him.
You're so brave to make the huge decision.
As long as that is what you 100% want, don't feel guilty. You can still support from afar if you choose to. You could maybe prepare by speaking to his parents/family etc. Maybe probation to ensure he has extra support. Of course you you don't have to, I just know I would want to.
If you have doubts don't feel pressured into making any decision yet.
I chose to stay but have doubts at least weekly that I can live like this. We've been together years and I do love him but still so hurt by it all and scared about things we will come up again in the future.
I wouldn't be surprised if he can't have your baby on his own though, SS have a way of going back on their word so just be prepared for that. Good luck x
As long as that is what you 100% want, don't feel guilty. You can still support from afar if you choose to. You could maybe prepare by speaking to his parents/family etc. Maybe probation to ensure he has extra support. Of course you you don't have to, I just know I would want to.
If you have doubts don't feel pressured into making any decision yet.
I chose to stay but have doubts at least weekly that I can live like this. We've been together years and I do love him but still so hurt by it all and scared about things we will come up again in the future.
I wouldn't be surprised if he can't have your baby on his own though, SS have a way of going back on their word so just be prepared for that. Good luck x
Hi,
Obviously I'm not telling u u have to stay with ur partner, I don't no the full story or wat has happened, I no I commented on ur other post, I hope I haven't put u off, if he has no restrictions then there shouldn't be a problem, but I no people try to avoid as so there doesn't create a problem ( sorry not sounding very clear but it's so ur oh can't be falsely accused, if that makes sense )
I hope u r OK and at any point u can change ur mind nothing is ever set in stone xxxx
Obviously I'm not telling u u have to stay with ur partner, I don't no the full story or wat has happened, I no I commented on ur other post, I hope I haven't put u off, if he has no restrictions then there shouldn't be a problem, but I no people try to avoid as so there doesn't create a problem ( sorry not sounding very clear but it's so ur oh can't be falsely accused, if that makes sense )
I hope u r OK and at any point u can change ur mind nothing is ever set in stone xxxx
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