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Every thursday i always so surprised how quick the week has gone as i think, tomorrow is the weekly check in. The one thing it does make me do it live in the here and now. My councillor has said i do not live in the here and now. I worry about the future, I worry about what has happened in the past, but this means my life is passing me by. This makes me think of what i do in the here and now.

I have been off on leave from work and have taken the time to spend with my dogs. I have started walking again. Went on a long walk last weekend and planning one tomorrow. It is what brings me peace, walking in the woodlands and hills. I have been reading and catching up on my sleep. This has made me feel less stressed. Me and my OH have been getting on better. Nothing resolved there though, but feeling better about my life atm.

Thank you for this check in. X

Upset mum thank you for doing this Friday check in every week. It certainly helps me to feel a bit more grounded and less alone.

Webb89 I know what you mean about thinking about the future. I think you counsellor is dead right, we should be living in the now and I have also been doing this over the last couple of weeks, doing things that are fun and absorbing and with different groups of friends and other people, and surprise, surprise, I have had some moments when I have completely forgot not only about this whole sh**storm we find ourselves in but also my fears about the future.

The sunny weather has helped a great deal, plus I have finally started to accept that I have no control over future events relating to this mess we are in, so there is no point trying to control it nor in worrying about it. Neither will make any difference to whatever the outcome may be.

Hoping everyone here has a lovely sunny weekend and is able to enjoy themselves without stress and worry. I have some nice things planned.

Thank you upset, and Webb I hear you!



I quite like the weekends because I know that nothing can develop for 48 hours (no emails will get replied to or calls returned from oic etc). It allows me to live in the present.

I hope that we are all able to enjoy some sunshine and let our worries ebb away for just a while.



upset, I love the check ins. Xx

Hi,

I've had a bit of a rough week tbh. Caught a bug that put me as out of action as you can be with a toddler and emotionally had a couple of setbacks with a family member and an ex friend. Had a massive dose of imposter syndrome in my career choice due to feeling guilty for trying to help others when my own life is currently a shower of the brown stuff.
I will respond to my message when I have the headspace to, sorry to my friend for dropping off the face of the earth the past few days.

I hope that everyone is doing ok and those with children have survived half term and bonus points if you still have any snacks left at this point lol xxx

Bitterbean, I agree i think the weather is helping my mood. I am trying hard to let go of things that i cannot control. It is hard but i am slowly getting there i think.



Upset mum, i have been on annual leave this week so its all good. Pup is growing fast. She is already half the weight of my adult dog, but she is a ray of sunshine in this horrible situation. Dogs dont judge you, look at you with pity nor give unwanted advise. They just love you for your kindness towards them.

How is your son?



Distressed and Pregnant, are you feeling better from your bug?

Yes thank you Webb. Normal eating since yesterday which is always good xxx

Thank you Upset for your kind words. I won't ever lose my heart for helping people xxx

Upset, I'm sorry to hear about dog, but weekend access is probably perfect as can indulge you both and don't have to fit in walks and cuddles around work??



distressed - I have HEALTHY snacks left but not a decent crisp or biscuit to be had. Let me know if you want some sour cream sunbites or strawberries that are on the turn??



I always think imposter syndrome means you're probably doing a good job, it shows you're thinking about it a lot. But it is also tiresome for you, especially when your headspace is already full



x

K4,

That sounds about right and made me laugh. As appetising as the strawberries sound I think I'd prefer the sun bites thanks.

Thank you for the vote of confidence too, I'm sure I'll get through it xxx

Upset thank you for these weekly check ins I think they help all of us to be able to express our feelings and worries and also to celebrate the small steps made.

I have had a good week as I had a visit from my closest friend who has been an incredible support to me throughout this whole nightmare-we had a lovely time exploring the area where I now live and, although I always knew that we made the right decision to relocate, it has made me realise that there is a life for me here and I need to live in the present.

Son continues to do well and to see him chatting happily with my friend just filled my heart with joy- despite everything I will never give up on him and am proud of all his efforts to learn and move on from his mistake.

Have a lovely weekend everyone and enjoy the lovely sunshine xx

Hi Ladies, it's been a relatively quiet week for me. Nice weather has meant I've made time to go out on long walks just me and the dog in the Peak District and just process what's been happen over the last few weeks. It gives me some peace just for a few hours. It's strange the minute I get back home all the anxiety and worry comes flooding back. Xx

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Upset, I think you're one of the most lovely people. I love these weekly check ins. Haven't been on much recently due to work and feel bad for not engaging but then also, this forum feels like one of the oldest friendships. You do what you have to do; but you're always there for one another. We've had a phenomenal day in terms of the FSP and SS assessment that I will share when it sinks in but, feeling validated against all other outside agencies. Xxx

Hi all - not a bad week for me - got together with family yesterday which is always good.

My son is fine, he's been busy picking peas in the gardens, I'm sure he'll eat most of what he picks - he loves fresh peas! App got quite a sun tan - been hot there / while I got my thicker coat back out again here!

chin up everyone, your doin good xxxxxx have fun in the sun....

Hello everyone!

I love reading your check ins, Upset :) it reminds me that you're all still here :)

A quiet week here - we're doing OK. The sun I'd shining and with all the talk of living in the present, I'm going to give it a good go today :)

Big hug x