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It's been a little over 2 weeks since we got the knock and I feel like I'm coping much better now. A lot of that is due to this forum and a helpful visit to the GP. Still struggling with a lot of anxiety in public though...it feels like everyone knows somehow, even though they can't possibly!
How does everyone deal with seeing friends/having some form of normality before sentencing? I don't know how to explain to everyone why I've pulled away and don't really want to socialise, especially with the warmer weather now (BBQs etc. And more social gatherings). It feels so difficult putting on that happy mask when I can feel this dark cloud above me, and when I do I'm just exhausted afterwards.
How does everyone deal with seeing friends/having some form of normality before sentencing? I don't know how to explain to everyone why I've pulled away and don't really want to socialise, especially with the warmer weather now (BBQs etc. And more social gatherings). It feels so difficult putting on that happy mask when I can feel this dark cloud above me, and when I do I'm just exhausted afterwards.
I'm not sure I'm the best person to answer because a lot of the time I'm really bitter about seeing happy people which I know is ridiculous.
Our knock was last August and it's really affected me and my oldest daughter. She doesn't know what's happened but her life has been completely changed.
I think it's important to just give ourselves the grace to feel how we want to feel in that moment. We can be happy and when we are let it happen. When we're sad, just take yourself off and be sad. X
Our knock was last August and it's really affected me and my oldest daughter. She doesn't know what's happened but her life has been completely changed.
I think it's important to just give ourselves the grace to feel how we want to feel in that moment. We can be happy and when we are let it happen. When we're sad, just take yourself off and be sad. X
EA, thank you - I think you're right with giving ourselves grace with this. It's so hard at times. Some days I'm okay, and some really aren't.
I did go to a friend's over the weekend and the whole situation with Philip Schofield came up (god knows how I'm avoiding it as much as possible), it was so difficult. My views on everything have changed and where I once would have been able to voice an opinion (I've always prided myself on seeing both sides of the story, not just media spiel) I found myself lost for words for fear of being judged as an empathiser.
Someone despite giving very little on the topic it still ended up coming back around and it turns out that they know someone who worked on the teams that review Iioc involved in Internet crimes. Again, how the hell do you act normal when this comes up. I feel like the topic is everywhere and unavoidable, which really speaks to what a state we're in as a society given I'm sure so much of this could be avoidable if the police worked with Internet providers etc. To remove this stuff before offending could even happen.
Sorry bit of a rant I know. I just really struggle with how I conduct myself around this when I just want to walk away and cry but I can't explain that at the time as it would just cause more questions.
This hand we have been dealt is so very difficult to navigate.
I hope your daughter is coping the best she can, sending big hugs to you. I can't imagine what this would be like with children involved, it must be so much harder.
I did go to a friend's over the weekend and the whole situation with Philip Schofield came up (god knows how I'm avoiding it as much as possible), it was so difficult. My views on everything have changed and where I once would have been able to voice an opinion (I've always prided myself on seeing both sides of the story, not just media spiel) I found myself lost for words for fear of being judged as an empathiser.
Someone despite giving very little on the topic it still ended up coming back around and it turns out that they know someone who worked on the teams that review Iioc involved in Internet crimes. Again, how the hell do you act normal when this comes up. I feel like the topic is everywhere and unavoidable, which really speaks to what a state we're in as a society given I'm sure so much of this could be avoidable if the police worked with Internet providers etc. To remove this stuff before offending could even happen.
Sorry bit of a rant I know. I just really struggle with how I conduct myself around this when I just want to walk away and cry but I can't explain that at the time as it would just cause more questions.
This hand we have been dealt is so very difficult to navigate.
I hope your daughter is coping the best she can, sending big hugs to you. I can't imagine what this would be like with children involved, it must be so much harder.
Omg yesss I remember that feeling well especially at the beginning. You're in for a long frustrating wait make sure your person is doing everything to get help , get help for yourself and self care and taking a days break from it all definitely helps me . Me and my persons connected deeply during the 'limbo 'time he worked so hard and still dues now on himself. We couldn't see a lot of each other as he wasn't allowed near my house , but we found ways round that far away . Just take things one day at a time , one thing at a time . It's ok to say you can't deal with it all for a day or two ,however long you need xx