Ex now threatening with court
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I have no factual advice but I'm guessing because you are the main carer, he wouldn't stand a chance and it would be down to you to agree to who you think is going to protect your child the most. He wouldn't be able to do personal care so it would have to be someone that would have to have the biggest safeguarding understanding to help x
Hi,
I don't know the answer to your question regarding family court and anyone on the register as a whole. If you have documentation from ss stating that you are the one to supervise then him taking you to court is a pretty pointless exercise. In order for someone else to take over supervision ss would need to meet and assess that person and fully explain the role to them. They also like to have consistency for the child so it's unlikely that they will consider more than two people to take on this responsibility. Gather together any documentation you have, copy it and send him a letter explaining that he will have to approach ss as a starting point. I would think that if you have it in writing that ss would support you at court if it got that far. You could also contact a solicitor for a free consultation, I believe this is only half an hour so make sure you take everything you have and have questions written down xxx
I don't know the answer to your question regarding family court and anyone on the register as a whole. If you have documentation from ss stating that you are the one to supervise then him taking you to court is a pretty pointless exercise. In order for someone else to take over supervision ss would need to meet and assess that person and fully explain the role to them. They also like to have consistency for the child so it's unlikely that they will consider more than two people to take on this responsibility. Gather together any documentation you have, copy it and send him a letter explaining that he will have to approach ss as a starting point. I would think that if you have it in writing that ss would support you at court if it got that far. You could also contact a solicitor for a free consultation, I believe this is only half an hour so make sure you take everything you have and have questions written down xxx
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I have been through family court ... but not for access ... my ex is unique!
But he did threaten court days after his arrest, supposedly when he was mentally unwell.... not well enough to speak to his children but well enough to instruct solicitors....
I remember your post from before and I thought he would take this approach.
Solicitors will cost, but.... use social services, they were really helpful with me. Get them on side. Mine were fab. Even 2 years later I can still approach them for queriesx
supervisors will need to be trained and it has to be agreed. Contact centres may be the best option. Log everything. Diaries.
thw police will tell you zilch but keep them informed as I was started harassment allegations.
MxKwnziw friends are fab. But use free consultations first. And be prepared.
the main thing for you so that you aren't denying access, but it has to be safe.
of he has funds siliicitors will fill his head with stupid things. Honestly the letters I got....
But I have been through 3 family court processes and a trial... and represented myself.
you will need strength. But let's face it. On this group we all do, and we have it... we will do anything for the kids... and protection of them and that kept me going in my dark days and those to come. Message me if you have any queries x
But he did threaten court days after his arrest, supposedly when he was mentally unwell.... not well enough to speak to his children but well enough to instruct solicitors....
I remember your post from before and I thought he would take this approach.
Solicitors will cost, but.... use social services, they were really helpful with me. Get them on side. Mine were fab. Even 2 years later I can still approach them for queriesx
supervisors will need to be trained and it has to be agreed. Contact centres may be the best option. Log everything. Diaries.
thw police will tell you zilch but keep them informed as I was started harassment allegations.
MxKwnziw friends are fab. But use free consultations first. And be prepared.
the main thing for you so that you aren't denying access, but it has to be safe.
of he has funds siliicitors will fill his head with stupid things. Honestly the letters I got....
But I have been through 3 family court processes and a trial... and represented myself.
you will need strength. But let's face it. On this group we all do, and we have it... we will do anything for the kids... and protection of them and that kept me going in my dark days and those to come. Message me if you have any queries x
Only to say.... don't be afraid of family court....
barristers have nothing on them when it comes to an argument with a mum.... fighting for her kids... and judges were normal .... just people at the end of the day
barristers have nothing on them when it comes to an argument with a mum.... fighting for her kids... and judges were normal .... just people at the end of the day
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My partner is going through the courts to get supervised contact. The scenario is different however, as his ex stopped all contract in day of the knock.
We havent had an outcome yet, but the proposal is to ha e contact center and then future supervision from a friend of the ex. I do t believe the ex wants to be around my partner at all.
I can only speculate, but if you are not stopping supervised contact (just setting boundaries on who can supervise) then your ex will have a hard time to get the courts to agree and set requirements for alternative supervision.
Tho the ex's opinions are takes into consideration, the feedback on my partner's case is that the courts are looking at the risk he poses, and the risk to the kids wellbeing - is it right to enforce supervision basically.
We havent had an outcome yet, but the proposal is to ha e contact center and then future supervision from a friend of the ex. I do t believe the ex wants to be around my partner at all.
I can only speculate, but if you are not stopping supervised contact (just setting boundaries on who can supervise) then your ex will have a hard time to get the courts to agree and set requirements for alternative supervision.
Tho the ex's opinions are takes into consideration, the feedback on my partner's case is that the courts are looking at the risk he poses, and the risk to the kids wellbeing - is it right to enforce supervision basically.