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Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2396 posts

Posted Fri June 23, 2023 2:20pmReport post

Afternoon lovlies xx

I first wanted to just say I have read some new posts just now and I am so sorry to all you incredibly wonderful ladies that are really struggling with everything, this journey really does test us all, please remember to he kind to yourselves first and foremost, and just wanted to send a huge fluffy hug engulfed with strength and love xx

My week as usual has been busy at work,

I am so fed up of packing I have no idea where all the stuff has come from but it has been a good reason to throw out or donate , I got the keys today for the new rental house so will be over there the weekend sorting it out but still so much to do in my current home,

No visit this weekend with my hungry catappiler but hopefully in the next 2 weeks we can book a visit xx

Sending strength and hugs as always xx

MywholeWorld

Member since
February 2023

37 posts

Posted Fri June 23, 2023 3:06pmReport post

Upset Mum - I agree with you it is so important to focus on our own wellbeing too as well as those we choose to support. This is a horrible road to travel filled with so many emotions.

Work has been busy for me and I am constantly being ask to help out and assist which means I am a valued member of my team and thankfully my boss supports me 100%. Work has been a lifesaver it occupies my mind and gives me the opportunity to not be around my husband 24/7.

I am getting the house valued next week and I have said we will put the house on the market in the next 3 to 4 weeks. I want to move on with my life I have been in limbo for nearly a year now due to him dragging his heels. And I do not accept that behaviour from him any longer. I told him to suck it up and get on with the process.

I feel strong and purposeful at the moment. No doubt a wobble will creep in but right now I live in the moment.

I wish you all well.

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2396 posts

Posted Fri June 23, 2023 3:13pmReport post

Myholeworld x

I am so pleased your manager is supportive and so they should be xx

You will he busy over the next few weeks if putting the house up for sale have you any idea where you want to move to?

You are doing amazing and as you said yes there will be days where you feel down etc this is the horrendous journey we have found ourselves on xx

Anne20

Member since
March 2021

141 posts

Posted Fri June 23, 2023 4:34pmReport post

Good luck in your new home. I sometimes wonder where all the stuff comes from in our homes.

I really need to start decluttering.

Been a busy week in work, I also feel well valued and have great support from my boss.

Virtual hugs all.

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2396 posts

Posted Fri June 23, 2023 4:55pmReport post

Anne20

Dosent it feel good to have support on this journey x

My senior manager has been fantastic, and as a manager I totally understand also the importance of not judging x there are some great people who do understand and dont label us x

Honestly I can't believe how much stuff I have and it feels great to declutter lol xx

I hope you are doing ok x

Confused&worried

Member since
June 2022

326 posts

Posted Fri June 23, 2023 6:08pmReport post

Tough week.

I had my interviews with LFF for my risk assessment. It was actually very therapeutic but so tough. Had a difficult week professionally too, so glad it's Friday.

I have a day out with friends tomorrow and the kids are having sleepover with grandparents, so I have that to look forward too.

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2396 posts

Posted Fri June 23, 2023 6:20pmReport post

Confused&worried x

Sorry it's been a tough week for you, hope your ok though x

Enjoy your day out what do you have planned?

I bet the kids will love having a sleepover with nanny & grandad x

Mandymoo

Member since
September 2021

295 posts

Posted Fri June 23, 2023 7:30pmReport post

Good luck in your new home.



It was my best friend's funeral this week and it's hit me so hard. Just can't get my head round a few weeks ago we were laughing (the only friend that knew about my son) and now not here anymore. My anxiety through the roof again and I'm not sleeping as it's my son's sentencing next week. It's all I can think about and just feel sick as each day ticks closer, with media reporting being my main fear. I wasn't going to go to court on the day but my son has begged me to so I feel I have to. Just don't know what to expect and just so full of fear xx

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2396 posts

Posted Fri June 23, 2023 8:27pmReport post

Aww Mandymoo x

What an awful week I cant imagine how hard it has been losing your dear friend x

I hope his sentancing goes as well as it can for you both x

Honestly if you cant face going then please don't force yourself to go, it is truly a surreal and painful experience BUT we get through it so do what is right for you x

I went with my son but he was on remand before court, I did it because I needed to show him I was there every step of the way but that was my choice, but it dosent mean by not going your not supporting him, it is really difficult and with what you have had to deal with it could be just to much xx

As for the media honestly this was my worst fear, we have no say or control and in all honesty my mind was in overdrive at the sheer thought and it was reported horrifically fabricated beyond belief but we have had no repercussions, and do you know what I honestly could not waste any more of my time worrying about it today's news then by the next day it's old news, we worry so much but that is natural xx

Parkerpoo1

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July 2022

252 posts

Posted Fri June 23, 2023 8:45pmReport post

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Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Fri June 23, 2023 9:06pmReport post

Parkerpoo1

The bike scheme seems a wonderful idea, meeting new people, seeing the sights so enjoy xx

My sons prison has 600 inmates and on his wing alone there are 80 men , some are fortunate to have visitors but a lot dont also only you can made the decision to visit maybe not now, maybe one day you will want to but consitrate on you first xx

Webb89

Member since
July 2022

438 posts

Posted Fri June 23, 2023 10:57pmReport post

Week has been ok. Looking at joining a gym, but have not yet made the leap. Been walking loads and taking my dogs out. Puppy is keeping me sane.



Been also a little stressed as one child has been made reduntant this week, the other was down as he has not got a job he had an interview for, and the other has just started a new job and he lacks confidence so thinks he is rubbish. So it has been quite mentally tough this week. But got through it. Been watching the tennis that i enjoy. And a lovely weekend weather wise to look forward to.

OH booked an afternoon tea for us as he knows i love them. It is on the anniversary of the knock. A nice thought but have not been out with him except walking the dogs for a year so will feel strange. X

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2547 posts

Posted Sat June 24, 2023 6:10amReport post

Hi friends. I'm all good. Had a very positive week and feeling positive....... spending time with my grandkids is a real tonic for me, love it - normality!

As regards visiting a loved one in prison as you know I haven't seen my son approaching 2 years and it hurts like hell at times. But he understands my reasons, I do everything else I can to support him, regular phone calls, financially and send e mails/photos and gifts. It's 'where we are'. He is a long distance and says hardly any of them have visits. Don't feel guilty, think of yourself...... you have to.....

I've felt sad this week reading all the desperate posts - all the families in turmoil and agony felt. Just wanted to reach out to give them a hug and reassure them they will reach some kinda peace in their lives as they move forward. It's so bad the process is so dragged out and they have such long timelines to face, bloody cruel for all.

As for my laddo - he's fine and apparently has a fantastic suntan, in the past he hated the outdoors but how being a trusted gardener has changed him! He's enjoying eating the produce as he works. App all that is grown is sold on the outside.....

So have a good weekend and enjoy the weather.