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Lois34

Member since
April 2023

89 posts

Posted Fri June 30, 2023 4:09pmReport post

Hi all.

My person has a 2 year suspended sentence, 5 years SHPO and 10 year SOR. We have decided to stay together and have lived together thtough most of the investigation period and all post sentencing.

I work in a local hospital in a clinical role with patients. I'm not a nurse nor do i deliver personal care. I see patients of all ages.

He saw the probation and MAPPA teams this morning. They have told him that if I ever need an enhanced DBS for work that something 'may' come up 'FOR ME!' in the foot notes of the DBS because we are living together.

I am shocked, angry and upset. This has nothing to do with me. I have worked incredibly hard to build my career and am good at my job. I don't understand this. How is this fair and what does him living with me got to do with my job. I am not the criminal here!? I know this will affect me going for new jobs in the future as I will live in fear of having to explain this to a potential employer.

Has anyone got any experience with this? Has it happened to you?

I'm feeling incredibly flat today and I've been doing really well for the last couple of weeks. I cried when he told me :-(

Edited Fri June 30, 2023 4:10pm

Seaside

Member since
July 2022

561 posts

Posted Fri June 30, 2023 4:37pmReport post

Send me a private message and I answer your question I don't want to put anything on here that might identify me

rainyday52

Member since
April 2023

447 posts

Posted Fri June 30, 2023 4:37pmReport post

Hi Lois, no wisdom to impart or good news that it's not true although hopefully I may have been misinformed too. I volunteer at our Lawcourts supporting witnesses through their day. Sometimes the witnesses are under 18 too. I love doing it but we've just been asked to check our details so our DBS enhanced check can be renewed yearly.Our son is living with us and will probably stay here after charging and sentencing so will share our address and I'm already thinking that as soon as his sentencing is over I will leave my volunteering as I certainly don't want the team leader knowing about our son. I will of course make up an excuse and feel bad about going as we're a close little band of people who really work well together.

I can therefore understand how you must feel (100 times worse than me) as my role is really just a way to fill my retirement years and not a career that I've worked hard for like you. I'm so sorry about this, it's so unfair and unecessary x

Edited Fri June 30, 2023 4:39pm

Rachel2022

Member since
August 2022

119 posts

Posted Fri June 30, 2023 6:20pmReport post

Hi,

I work in NHS HR. If a disclosure comes back with something on it then we have to get the candidate to give a statement around what has happen and steps they have taken to address things. In 99% of cases the candidate starts posts and there is never an issue. It's very unfair that something would come up for you. Hope you are doing ok.

Worldupsidedown

Member since
April 2023

11 posts

Posted Fri June 30, 2023 7:38pmReport post

Hi Lois34



I understand how you're feeling. I work with vulnerable young children and have made the hardest decision to not allow my son to return home not just for my job but also for his two younger siblings as it would result in Social Services completing an assessment as they view this as me placing my younger children at risk.

But also I need to take into account a LADO referral would be made if I allowed him home. I sought advice and appreciate if I did allow him to live at home I would not be accepting the risk this would pose to his younger siblings (he viewed and shared cat a-c iioc whilst living in the family home and distributed images) he remains RUI but even if the police take NFA I fear for my younger children as I believe he did offend. I also couldn't afford to lose my job as I'm the main wage earner.



I know my circumstances are different and it seems unfair that we are flagged through the DBS process when we've not offended but I do understand the reasons why. I hope you get a positive outcome with the DBS and everything works out for you x

Smile through tears

Member since
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Heroine failing

Member since
May 2022

34 posts

Posted Sun July 9, 2023 8:57amReport post

Hi. I fully understand this. If I can give any comfort. I received my enhanced DBS back yesterday with no issues. So you may be OK.

Lois34

Member since
April 2023

89 posts

Posted Sun July 9, 2023 11:09amReport post

Thank you all. Really appreciate your advice and sharing experiences. I spoke with our SW about it and she doesn't think it will come up but was going to contact probation/MAPPA people and ask them to talk with me directly as it is unfair that this sort of comment has been made about me but not to me without any explanation. My person didn't distribute images, hasn't communicated, hasn't committed contact offenses and is now having unsupervised contact with the kids and we're all living together. Seems very unfair for me to be caught up in it with my professional career as it has absolutely no baring on the job I do or care I give my patients. I know it's the police who make the decision but I'd like to hear their explanation as to why they feel it appropriate for my DBS. I feel they put all offenders in the same category and will do anything possible to punish them and their family with out thought on the repercussions. I'm really struggling with my mental health and this just adds to it. I've done nothing wrong :-(

FeelingLostandLonely

Member since
October 2023

3 posts

Posted Sun December 17, 2023 6:53pmReport post

Hello, have you had any update on this? It's something I'm very worried about :(

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sadso

Member since
December 2023

89 posts

Posted Sun December 17, 2023 7:13pmReport post

can a dbs affect the you if the person is not my child or partner but a family member??

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1001 posts

Posted Sun December 17, 2023 10:12pmReport post

Hi, if they live with you then it can. It may come up for roles that need advanced clearance like the police or national crime agency if it's a sibling or anyone from grandparents down I believe xxx

Scaredmumof3

Member since
July 2023

100 posts

Posted Mon December 18, 2023 7:54amReport post

I am in the middle of this right now for a voluntary role as my husband in on bail / soon hopefully to be RUI for viewing images.

I submitted enhanced DBS in Aug and it was referred to local police and sat with them for a few months due to their back log.

In late Nov I was contacted by the police to give my point of view. I contacted unlock and put together a long email about his offence being online only, I didn't know about the offence, chidren never come to the house, the role being my thing only and he is not involved etc

Now I am waiting again...... for them to decide what they will do. They have said they may say something or they may not.

I am so angry :( and it is so unfair for someone who 100% innocent.

My teenage children (not his children but live with us) are lifeguards as PT jobs with enhanced DBS so likely this will happen to them too as I asked the police about it.

Though if it is on the DBS it does mean I will still hopefully do the role but I will have to speak to the local safeguarding lead of the local club and explain which is just auwfull. Luckily the voluntary team is so large they haven't noticed how slow mine is being. Also the safeguarding lead is a safeguarding lead from a large secondary school so I am hopeful he will understand.