Dissociation Disorder
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Hi, well we're still hanging around in limbo... just waiting, stressing, feeling sick, my person feeling so low and both of us feeling so sad, this past two years have been horrific and still the horrificness continues and we can't move on , anywhere!
Does anyone have experience of Disassociation Disorder? My person is going through the process of being diagnosed, when I'm talking to him he can be positive but then negative and when I ask him he says "it depends which one of us you're talking to" which I find a bit disturbing. When he did what he did he sometimes doesn't even recall it so I question does another "personality" take over, does he even have control over the badness this other personality does?? Would this be mitigating circumstances?
We've been told that dissociation disorder happens to black out and escape major trauma in life, especially when a child, which my person was when sexually abused outside of the family home :( xxx
Does anyone have experience of Disassociation Disorder? My person is going through the process of being diagnosed, when I'm talking to him he can be positive but then negative and when I ask him he says "it depends which one of us you're talking to" which I find a bit disturbing. When he did what he did he sometimes doesn't even recall it so I question does another "personality" take over, does he even have control over the badness this other personality does?? Would this be mitigating circumstances?
We've been told that dissociation disorder happens to black out and escape major trauma in life, especially when a child, which my person was when sexually abused outside of the family home :( xxx
Hello,
Thank you for posting on the Family and Friends forum, we understand that it is not easy to post on a forum about these difficult situations. I can see that you have not yet had a reply on your post, hopefully someone else in a similar situation can reply soon with some support.
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Take care,
Lucy
Thank you for posting on the Family and Friends forum, we understand that it is not easy to post on a forum about these difficult situations. I can see that you have not yet had a reply on your post, hopefully someone else in a similar situation can reply soon with some support.
If you haven't already done so, I would also encourage you to contact our Stop it Now! helpline. The helpline is anonymous, confidential and free, on 0808 1000 900. One of our trained advisors will then be able to explore your situation in detail and provide some support and do their best to answer your questions. Our trained advisors deal with similar concerns to yours every day and will be able to talk these through with you and offer you the best advice we can.
I hope this has been helpful.
Take care,
Lucy
Hello BettyBoo,
I am so sorry to hear you are both struggling atm, this is one place non of us want to be in. I struggled in the early days to understand why my husband could not remember uploading/downloading images onto his mobile, I would shout and scream at him trying to get him to admit to doing something that he had absolutely no recall of, somebody did suggest to me he may have disassociated syndrome and I looked into it further however on further forensic evidence we found out that stuff had uploaded in the background on his device so he would not have any recall because he hadn't physically uploaded things himself, it is so complex because I thought at the time he was just in denial but further studies have proved otherwise. He was still convicted despite evidence that wasn't challenged and the fact we had disgustingly bad legal representation who did not challenge a single charge, I am still traumatised by the whole situation despite both of us doing our best to move forward. My husband has done so well since he was sentenced, it has driven him mad that he had no recall and he actually thought he was developing some sort of dementia, we had lots of therapy and psychological assessments to help him understand what was going on in his head. He has now transferred all of his energy into volunteering and helping other probationers in the same situation as himself, he has done everything he can to contribute positive actions back to the community and his volunteering has given him a great sense of purpose.
I wish you both well in your journey, it's a treacherous one that you have to be vigilant at every twist and turn. Things are very different for us now, family and friend dynamics's have changed, but we deal with each situation as it arises.
I would imagine if he was diagnosed with disassociated syndrome whether it could be used as mitigation as the conviction would weigh heavily on evidence and not memory. I don't want to paint a bleak picture but you may need to speak to your legal team to get more advice.
Katie x
I am so sorry to hear you are both struggling atm, this is one place non of us want to be in. I struggled in the early days to understand why my husband could not remember uploading/downloading images onto his mobile, I would shout and scream at him trying to get him to admit to doing something that he had absolutely no recall of, somebody did suggest to me he may have disassociated syndrome and I looked into it further however on further forensic evidence we found out that stuff had uploaded in the background on his device so he would not have any recall because he hadn't physically uploaded things himself, it is so complex because I thought at the time he was just in denial but further studies have proved otherwise. He was still convicted despite evidence that wasn't challenged and the fact we had disgustingly bad legal representation who did not challenge a single charge, I am still traumatised by the whole situation despite both of us doing our best to move forward. My husband has done so well since he was sentenced, it has driven him mad that he had no recall and he actually thought he was developing some sort of dementia, we had lots of therapy and psychological assessments to help him understand what was going on in his head. He has now transferred all of his energy into volunteering and helping other probationers in the same situation as himself, he has done everything he can to contribute positive actions back to the community and his volunteering has given him a great sense of purpose.
I wish you both well in your journey, it's a treacherous one that you have to be vigilant at every twist and turn. Things are very different for us now, family and friend dynamics's have changed, but we deal with each situation as it arises.
I would imagine if he was diagnosed with disassociated syndrome whether it could be used as mitigation as the conviction would weigh heavily on evidence and not memory. I don't want to paint a bleak picture but you may need to speak to your legal team to get more advice.
Katie x
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