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Hi everyone,
Its now been 4 weeks since the knock and I am exhausted from having to manage the children alone. I have one who can't sleep and the other who won't stay asleep so only managing 5-6 hours a night.
How have your kids managed with their father being away? Oldest knows her dad was arrested and is being investigated so is an emotional wreck at times, mostly at night. The 3 Yr old just lashes out and hits out of frustration but can also just be because he is 3.
Looking for some advice.
Its now been 4 weeks since the knock and I am exhausted from having to manage the children alone. I have one who can't sleep and the other who won't stay asleep so only managing 5-6 hours a night.
How have your kids managed with their father being away? Oldest knows her dad was arrested and is being investigated so is an emotional wreck at times, mostly at night. The 3 Yr old just lashes out and hits out of frustration but can also just be because he is 3.
Looking for some advice.
Hi I know what you are going through with the kids, mine are teen and 3. Not going to lie it's something I am very resentful about. We don't get brakes now.
teen slept relatively well but was up super early every day (and thankfully helped with youngest) teen knew everything that was going on and kept teen well informed. I think this helped to settle teen, though teen very annoyed by Ss constantly being a major pain in side.
3 year old was 2 at the time, holy crap that's a totally different story, would sleep between 3-4 hours at a time, jumped into bed with me every night and sometimes liked to stay awake for hours on end in the very early hours of the morning. very aggressive, lashed out at everything and everyone and became super clingy. Refused to nap. Was a nightmare.
but don't worry it does get better, sleep will get better, once kids feel that things settle a bit. And don't forget that kids feel your emotions. The more stressed and anxious you feel the more they do. Once you start to stabilise they will do.
hope you get some rest soon xx
teen slept relatively well but was up super early every day (and thankfully helped with youngest) teen knew everything that was going on and kept teen well informed. I think this helped to settle teen, though teen very annoyed by Ss constantly being a major pain in side.
3 year old was 2 at the time, holy crap that's a totally different story, would sleep between 3-4 hours at a time, jumped into bed with me every night and sometimes liked to stay awake for hours on end in the very early hours of the morning. very aggressive, lashed out at everything and everyone and became super clingy. Refused to nap. Was a nightmare.
but don't worry it does get better, sleep will get better, once kids feel that things settle a bit. And don't forget that kids feel your emotions. The more stressed and anxious you feel the more they do. Once you start to stabilise they will do.
hope you get some rest soon xx
Thank you Dragonmama,
Great to hear it will get better. Will try to remember to stay calm around them.
Thank you for writing back.
Great to hear it will get better. Will try to remember to stay calm around them.
Thank you for writing back.
My children were 9 months and a 2 year old luckily neither new due to age took a while for oldest to adjust but we said he was working nights as he came round every day until they went to bed. Going through all the challenges of the situation and having two very small children was really hard it's abit of a blur now and I wonder how I got through it. Teething, changing from cot to bed , poorly in middle of the night my youngest is on waiting lists for absolutely everything so the last two years have been fun. Try and sleep when you can I wasn't sleeping and then when I managed to one of the kids woke up which was at least 4/5 times a night between them. Lasting on a hour or two for over a year was a killer. I'm still up with one or both of them now even though my oh is back home and luckily allowed unsupervised now but they have got used to the routine we made.if it's any help my oldest around 3 ish had alot of anger due to being tired from starting nursery and I think all of this because he new something was wrong having ss and everyone else suddenly involved. My babies are still toddlers now I don't think the sleepless nights will ever stop