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Where do I start my whole world fell apart 27 months ago when I found out my son had been sending sexual messages and attempted to kiss a minor he claimed he was under the influence of drugs
He got clean I believed him I supported him I paid his legal fees I kept him out of prison it was all settled in April,this year and I thought it was over we could move on with our lives
how wrong was I
3 weeks ago came the knock a spot check as he's on licence so they said he wasn't in I told them where he was they arrested him. Two days later I sat in court as they read out the charges of cat A B C images on his phone remanded pending further investigation as he's a danger too children my 23 year old son a danger to children. 8 days later he calls me as it took that long for security checks 8 days of not knowing where he was but why would I care I'm struggling with my emotions it's like a death but I can't talk about it too anyone the stigma it's awful
I keep crying my emotions consume me I've 3 other children and grandchildren but I don't wake up in a morning even though I'm not sleeping I don't want to care about him but I do it's all so hard
He got clean I believed him I supported him I paid his legal fees I kept him out of prison it was all settled in April,this year and I thought it was over we could move on with our lives
how wrong was I
3 weeks ago came the knock a spot check as he's on licence so they said he wasn't in I told them where he was they arrested him. Two days later I sat in court as they read out the charges of cat A B C images on his phone remanded pending further investigation as he's a danger too children my 23 year old son a danger to children. 8 days later he calls me as it took that long for security checks 8 days of not knowing where he was but why would I care I'm struggling with my emotions it's like a death but I can't talk about it too anyone the stigma it's awful
I keep crying my emotions consume me I've 3 other children and grandchildren but I don't wake up in a morning even though I'm not sleeping I don't want to care about him but I do it's all so hard
Bless you VictoriaCake - not a whole lot to offer but can understand your turmoil esp as it's happening all over again.
My son is in prison for his offences and I feel I shouldn't love him - the devastation he has caused us - BUT no one can stop that love ..
just let each day unfold and try not to take it all onboard at once...... big hug sent x
My son is in prison for his offences and I feel I shouldn't love him - the devastation he has caused us - BUT no one can stop that love ..
just let each day unfold and try not to take it all onboard at once...... big hug sent x
Aww Victoriacake
I to have a son in prison for his offending it is an awful journey to be on but please try to be kind to yourself first xx
Not much advise but totally understand how you are feeling
Sending hugs and strength to you xx
I to have a son in prison for his offending it is an awful journey to be on but please try to be kind to yourself first xx
Not much advise but totally understand how you are feeling
Sending hugs and strength to you xx
Hi Victoriacake, I'm also the mum of an offender and just wanted to say how sorry I am and that I understand the pain you're going through. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and take good care of your own physical and mental health xx