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Cloehelen

Member since
May 2023

17 posts

Posted Wed July 12, 2023 3:06pmReport post

Hello

its been a while since last time i posted on here. My last post was me telling i was leaving the situation and my oh. But i took that decision because i was getting so much pain and pressure from my family. Its been 1 month since my oh was done sentencing. He has lived with me and my kids since. And we are soon moving to another home. The new home has loads of kids in the neighborhood, wich i think is great for my kids. So they dont isolate. I just feel like i dont deserve to live normal, just act like nothing have happened to these new neighbors. If i let my kids have visiting from their new friends etc... What if the neighbors finds out what my oh has done, will they think i am horrible Mom, and person. To let kids visit our home? My oh was sentenced for chatting with a 10 y/o on Snapchat. 1 year ago. To make clear to you what the case is. He has been going to a psycoligist since desember, once a week. Due to porn addiction/sex addiction. I dont know what i want with my post.. just writing out these things helps to clear my mind.. We are living in Norway, so things are problaby different here due to uk/ us ?



hope your all doing fine, and take one day as it comes. I also really hope that this post gives you hope, that one day you can actually start living again, and start living the new normal. I feel so much better now, 8 months past knock. The first months was a living hell. But now everything is calming down. We have been honest with our closest friends and family. My family is barely there anymore, but i have a few. But all of our friends are still here for us and wants to meet up. I am just so scared of getting new friends in the new town we are moving to. Just pretend that this has never happened, never say anything to them. Feels like i am doing something illegal????

Cloehelen

Member since
May 2023

17 posts

Posted Wed July 12, 2023 3:08pmReport post

Forgot to mention that my oh was sending that girl pictures / videos. And also recieved some. To make that clear.

K4

Member since
October 2022

611 posts

Posted Wed July 12, 2023 4:31pmReport post

Thank you so much for sharing your story, and it is so heartening to hear that you've been able to move on as a family.



good luck with your move to the new town, I hope the kids settle quickly and you are able to find peace for yourself



x

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2547 posts

Posted Wed July 12, 2023 4:35pmReport post

Hi - it's good your family are moving forward. You need to be congratulated as you have been through hell and now reach a new calm.

Don't feel guilty - you don't owe anyone explanations - (try to) leave the past behind and embrace your new life. It's your business and you don't have to explain to anyone.

Dont let the past haunt you xxxxxx

Losteverything

Member since
September 2022

216 posts

Posted Wed July 12, 2023 6:37pmReport post

It's a difficult situation..... I wouldn't want my children anywhere near your partner and I'd be furious if I found out and hadn't been told. Having said that you haven't done anything wrong and if you are following the law in Norway then you can just get on with your lives.

Louise74

Member since
June 2023

45 posts

Posted Thu July 13, 2023 1:06pmReport post

Hi, you don't need to tell anyone, nothing positive could come from it. But, I would be very careful about having children in your home. Mainly to protect your partner, you need to ensure he's never put in a position that could look in anyway suspicious, especially now that you as a family have come so far.