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Hi, this is the same as us and it's soul destroying isn't it ????. Ours was also sent to CPS in March and we were told 4 weeks but still nothing, 3 months will be 2 years for us

We're trying to carry on each day but then remember and it feels like the end of everything is coming. If it were a different crime I know the wait wouldn't be this long until the end of the matter, sometimes I wish the weight would take me into the earth and help me disappear, it's been almost 2 years of hell on earth and it's not right or humane xxx

I'm the same, my person was getting through everything and building himself back up but March took him straight back to square one with suicidal thoughts and feelings.

Do the authorities and police know the torment and heartbreak they cause, I've seen on here that lives have been lost due to how these matters are dealt with and worry about media/public etc.



My person is an amazing person who did one wrong But at least now he's talking with his therapist about his own significant childhood trauma , that breaks my heart even more xx

I'm commenting on this thread as someone who's out the other side. I had 5 years of limbo as apparently everything was held up because of covid, and yes it could have been 5 years of hell and at times it was. But I made the decision that it wasn't going to destroy me. I started counting my blessings and at the beginning it was hard to find one thing to be grateful for, but the more you do it, the more you'll find good things in your life to be grateful for. I do a gratitude list every single day now, as it does help shift your mindset.

I made a playlist of songs that I would put on and sing at the top of my voice every time I felt low, songs like survivor, unstoppable etc. it really does help.



I studied so many self help books, listened to podcasts, and this lead me to change my career and become a certified hypnotherapist. I was determined that something good would come from this dire situation and I would help others because I felt there was no one to help me but myself.



Unfortunately you can't change the situation you're in and there's no control in timings, sentences etc. But you can control how you respond to it, and while it's not a journey I would wish on anyone you can come out the other end a better person, I certainly did. I can promise each of you who are stuck in this limbo, that one day it will all be a memory and you'll be so bloody proud of yourselves that you survived it. Also, you'll find things that would have really bothered you and caused you so much anxiety pre knock, don't affect you any more because of the strength you've gained due to your situation. You'll feel invincible and that's priceless.

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I love that Louise74, thank you. Just what I needed to read today. I also try and stay relatively positive, not let it get to me, but sometimes I am taken straight back to 'knock day', and that's what all this recent media chat has done for me. Time to put the phone down and get outside.

PS I am so glad it worked out for you in a positive way

5 years? We are at 3 years and a few months with no news so far

Hi Ghost hunter, yes it was 5 long years. After 3 years of nothing we tried to kid ourselves that nothing was going to come of it and 2 weeks before my mum passed it reared it's ugly head again, with SS getting back involved etc and they were anything but helpful and nice this time round. It was the middle of covid and they put impossible rules for contact in place. I actually don't know how I got through it, and no one knew anything. I lost my mum, my husband, my job all in the space of a few weeks. BUT I did get through it, and I'm out the other end more content and at peace than I've ever been. This will be you one day as well, and indeed all of the unfortunate members of this club. Just hold on to that xx