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Dawn19

Member since
June 2023

147 posts

Posted Sat July 15, 2023 8:39pmReport post

Hi, does anyone else get nervous every time there's a knock at the door? Last night there was a knock at the door at 10.45pm ( who would be calling at that time unless it was bad news!). It was only a pizza delivery bloke who had got the wrong house number, but we were frightened that it was the police again x

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2547 posts

Posted Sat July 15, 2023 9:10pmReport post

Yes Dawn I'm with you on this one. Also each time I open my front door and walk towards my car I feel fear.
Its not a nice place to be......

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2396 posts

Posted Sat July 15, 2023 9:13pmReport post

Dawn

I think we all have the same feelings regarding the knock, 3 years later and I still get the anxiety when the door goes and I hate Thursdays as that was the day it all happened xx

Bettyboo65

Member since
June 2022

339 posts

Posted Sat July 15, 2023 9:24pmReport post

Hi, yes I'm exactly the same, I hate knocks on the door, hearing car doors open and hearing noises outside in the early hours, I get palpitations and freeze at police sirens, I think most on here are the very same, not a nice way to feel at all xxx

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2547 posts

Posted Sat July 15, 2023 9:44pmReport post

I also feel extremely sad if I see emergency vehicles outside anyone's house......

Seaside

Member since
July 2022

560 posts

Posted Sat July 15, 2023 9:46pmReport post

Yes Dawn I feel exactly the same any time there's a knock at the door or a car I don't recognise I panic it's not a nice place to be mentally.

rainyday52

Member since
April 2023

447 posts

Posted Sat July 15, 2023 10:17pmReport post

This happened at our son's family home a long way from us but I react to knocks on the door until I hear who it is (I refuse to answer myself) or unknown cars stopping outside our house. Also seeing police officers in uniform anywhere.....crazy when it wasn't my personal experience so I can well imagine how traumatic it must be for all of you xx

A.

Member since
April 2023

43 posts

Posted Sat July 15, 2023 10:59pmReport post

I feel the exact same. The anxiety it brings is really quite suffocating.

K4

Member since
October 2022

611 posts

Posted Sun July 16, 2023 7:17amReport post

It's horrid.



I did the PTSD app that was recommended on here, and that really helped me.



It's called "PTSD healing after the knock"



you can also visit



https://theknock.club/restore-me/PTSD

Dawn19

Member since
June 2023

147 posts

Posted Sun July 16, 2023 10:33amReport post

Our houses are supposed to be safe places. On the day it all happened, when my daughter went to bed and I looked out of her bedroom window, there was a silver van parked outside our house with 2 men sat in it. I thought they were looking at our house and I thought we were under surveillance (I watch too many cop shows!) as I hadn't seen it before. I've seen the same van many times since parked round the back outside my neighbour's house, so must be a relative but it makes me so nervous being there x

BaffledB

Member since
July 2021

876 posts

Posted Sun July 16, 2023 2:50pmReport post

It's over 2 years on and my partner was acquitted but even now I will not open the door unless I know who it is without screening the knocker from my bedroom window and until confirmed I panic. It's a horrible thing to live with but all I can say is at least I would be stronger if it did ever happen again, I know my rights, I know how to deal with the police and I certainly would not give them the satisfaction of crying in front of them again! The likelihood of it ever happening again is very slim but I guess we all feel like it could happen again because this journey makes you extremely pessimistic. Big hugs to everyone xx

DevastatedWife

Member since
December 2022

40 posts

Posted Sun July 16, 2023 3:05pmReport post

Yes I panic every time there's a knock at the door or the doorbell rings. If I see a police car in the area, I think they're coming for my husband again. It's so horrible!

Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Posted Sun July 16, 2023 4:32pmReport post

Omg yes but it's getting better , I got a ring door bell camera which has really helped , so maybe consider that x

Livinginanightmare

Member since
May 2023

14 posts

Posted Sun July 16, 2023 6:16pmReport post

This is exactly why I got a ring doorbell, so I can always see who is outside. It's really helped