7 months since the Knock
Notifications OFF
Yesterday my husband was given another 3 month bail extension. It was gut wrenching to say the least especially as the kids now break up from school for the summer and he is still living at another address and obviously can't go on days out with us etc.
Today we have received an email from his solicitor saying his phone is now in forensics. When the knock came they only took his phone and tablet. Not his work laptop or any of my devices.
my husband has always protested his innocence. We know that someone who holds a grudge against him had access to all his iCloud backups of photos etc and I have always believed that it is potential a revenge thing. They also distributed images of me around social media and local businesses (police aren't interested in that!)
I suppose now I am contemplating that very soon I am going to get confirmation that if I have been naive all along and my world falls apart all over or whether my intuition was right all along. Massive anxiety. What was everyone else's experience in this period of time?!
Today we have received an email from his solicitor saying his phone is now in forensics. When the knock came they only took his phone and tablet. Not his work laptop or any of my devices.
my husband has always protested his innocence. We know that someone who holds a grudge against him had access to all his iCloud backups of photos etc and I have always believed that it is potential a revenge thing. They also distributed images of me around social media and local businesses (police aren't interested in that!)
I suppose now I am contemplating that very soon I am going to get confirmation that if I have been naive all along and my world falls apart all over or whether my intuition was right all along. Massive anxiety. What was everyone else's experience in this period of time?!
Hi Wolf Pack,
My OH got his bail extended so many times that they eventually lifted his bail conditions as I think there's a time limit on how long you can be on bail. It took 5 years for his case to go to trial, although I know from this forum that's unusually long.
The only advice I can give you is to try to live in the moment and don't torture yourself worrying about the future or dwelling on the past. All we have is this moment in time. I studied the book The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle and it really helped me. There's so many books on audible that I listened to constantly that got me through that period, message me if you'd like a list of them.
Try to focus on what's going right in your life and find joy in the little things. You've no control over if and when the case goes to trial so just focus on what you can control. My heart goes out to you, I remember so well that period of waiting, but Im out the other end now, stronger, more positive and happier than Ive ever been and this will be you as well. Believe me you will find joy again xx
My OH got his bail extended so many times that they eventually lifted his bail conditions as I think there's a time limit on how long you can be on bail. It took 5 years for his case to go to trial, although I know from this forum that's unusually long.
The only advice I can give you is to try to live in the moment and don't torture yourself worrying about the future or dwelling on the past. All we have is this moment in time. I studied the book The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle and it really helped me. There's so many books on audible that I listened to constantly that got me through that period, message me if you'd like a list of them.
Try to focus on what's going right in your life and find joy in the little things. You've no control over if and when the case goes to trial so just focus on what you can control. My heart goes out to you, I remember so well that period of waiting, but Im out the other end now, stronger, more positive and happier than Ive ever been and this will be you as well. Believe me you will find joy again xx