Friday check in x
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Evening lovlies x
I hope you are all bearing up ok xx
I had today of work so potted about in the garden, painted the fence ,
The sun has decided to come out better late than never I guess :-)
Just having a cuppa and some chill out time xx
I hope whatever you all have planned for the weekend will bring a bit of happiness to you all xx
I hope you are all bearing up ok xx
I had today of work so potted about in the garden, painted the fence ,
The sun has decided to come out better late than never I guess :-)
Just having a cuppa and some chill out time xx
I hope whatever you all have planned for the weekend will bring a bit of happiness to you all xx
Had a better week, spent the last 5 days in a cottage in the middle of nowhere just walking, eating, drinking and god have I slept. It's been a long time since my head felt a bit clearer. I actually didn't check the papers for 3 whole days to see if my son's case had been reported (believe me this is a major thing for me as I was constantly checking numerous times a day) :-)
just a bit worried that it's 3 weeks post sentencing and we've still not heard from probation. Is this normal?
Xx
just a bit worried that it's 3 weeks post sentencing and we've still not heard from probation. Is this normal?
Xx
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My person got sentanced today for breaching his SHPO. I should say ex person as we will be divorcing. I had supported him up until the breach of his SHPO and he was at home with us.
He received a suspended.
Feel very down and quite lonely at the min.
We have a little one born 2 days after original sentancing for first offence so I'm glad they will still be able to see their dad and financially it is better for me if he's out if prison but I'm appalled at the lack of accountability and remorse he's shown in recent months. He's Been absolutely vile to me at times & it's been very difficult to deal with.
I was the one that called the police when I found him breaking his SHPO so his family don't really want to know anymore which hurts.
No media fingers crossed, unlike the first offence so that's a positive but I'm struggling with it all.
I've put little one to bed & just sat with my kindle & doggy in the peace & quiet with just my thoughts for company.
Hope everyone is OK x
He received a suspended.
Feel very down and quite lonely at the min.
We have a little one born 2 days after original sentancing for first offence so I'm glad they will still be able to see their dad and financially it is better for me if he's out if prison but I'm appalled at the lack of accountability and remorse he's shown in recent months. He's Been absolutely vile to me at times & it's been very difficult to deal with.
I was the one that called the police when I found him breaking his SHPO so his family don't really want to know anymore which hurts.
No media fingers crossed, unlike the first offence so that's a positive but I'm struggling with it all.
I've put little one to bed & just sat with my kindle & doggy in the peace & quiet with just my thoughts for company.
Hope everyone is OK x
Things are moving here work-wise which might not be a good thing. I don't want to say too much for fear of being identified. Chances are slim, I know, but I can't do it nonetheless. Essentially, I'm worried about my person losing his job. We will see. Hopefully I'm worrying about nothing.
No plans for the weekend especially. Maybe I will do some clearing out.
No plans for the weekend especially. Maybe I will do some clearing out.
Cuddled up in bed at the moment with my peacefully sleeping almost 3 year old son.
Luckily my children are small, so have no idea what's going on.
I had a good week at work and I'm now so looking forward to the weekend.
My husband's solicitor has informed him that his phones have been searched and that the report has been sent off to the police.
Right now we don't know what's going to happen and I feel quite anxious, even had a little cry today.
Luckily my children are small, so have no idea what's going on.
I had a good week at work and I'm now so looking forward to the weekend.
My husband's solicitor has informed him that his phones have been searched and that the report has been sent off to the police.
Right now we don't know what's going to happen and I feel quite anxious, even had a little cry today.
Just wanted to say hi I'm new here needing some support in this lonely situation. I would not wish this on anyone but its nice to see I'm not as alone as I feel
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Hi,
im enjoying some ME time with the pets,watching Top Gun & had a lovely Indian takeaway
This week I've felt like I'm moving on & accepting my stepsons arrest back in April.I've heard he's going to do the young persons inform course next month so I'm hopeful this will support him moving on & never looking at indecent photos again
Take care everyone x
im enjoying some ME time with the pets,watching Top Gun & had a lovely Indian takeaway
This week I've felt like I'm moving on & accepting my stepsons arrest back in April.I've heard he's going to do the young persons inform course next month so I'm hopeful this will support him moving on & never looking at indecent photos again
Take care everyone x
Hello friday check in
I have had an up and down week but generally feeling better. I still get angry when I am working and OH is chilling reading his book. But I have some time off work so feeling better for that. Seen a few friends this week which was good and hoping to see a friend i have not seen since this all started. I have been delaying seeing her as she is a teacher, but have decided to see her. I am trying to remember that it is not me who did this crime.
This situation has made me closer to my kids. My eldest even agreed to go to the cinema with me, which was lovely. (Not sure he agreed though, lol)
I still get down days but trying to not let them define me.
Beyonce have got Top Gun out to watch tomorrow. Love that film. Perhaps we could start a vitual film or book club......
Hope everyone has a good week.
I have had an up and down week but generally feeling better. I still get angry when I am working and OH is chilling reading his book. But I have some time off work so feeling better for that. Seen a few friends this week which was good and hoping to see a friend i have not seen since this all started. I have been delaying seeing her as she is a teacher, but have decided to see her. I am trying to remember that it is not me who did this crime.
This situation has made me closer to my kids. My eldest even agreed to go to the cinema with me, which was lovely. (Not sure he agreed though, lol)
I still get down days but trying to not let them define me.
Beyonce have got Top Gun out to watch tomorrow. Love that film. Perhaps we could start a vitual film or book club......
Hope everyone has a good week.
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Ladies x
As always you remain strong even when sometimes it is incredibly hard xx
Talking of films etc I binged watched Hannibal the series on Netflix, for a series it was really gory and I dont usually do gore but what a really good sometimes a bit confusing but for anyone who has seen the films worth a watch even though I had to look away a few times lol xx
Been out and done a bit of shopping this morning and home with a cuppa now
I have my daughter and her boyfriend over later and I am doggy sitting this eve so a nice walk later over the field if the rain decides to stop!xx
As always you remain strong even when sometimes it is incredibly hard xx
Talking of films etc I binged watched Hannibal the series on Netflix, for a series it was really gory and I dont usually do gore but what a really good sometimes a bit confusing but for anyone who has seen the films worth a watch even though I had to look away a few times lol xx
Been out and done a bit of shopping this morning and home with a cuppa now
I have my daughter and her boyfriend over later and I am doggy sitting this eve so a nice walk later over the field if the rain decides to stop!xx
Hiya Upsetmum
Hope you are keeping well ?
xx
Hope you are keeping well ?
xx
Very chilled weekend, hopefully it stays likes this.
Going to get OH to bake a cake, my favourite part is the cake mixture In one way I do like the rain, it's a great excuse to do nothing. Sometimes we always feel guilty/ lazy if we don't do anything.
Webb great idea about the virtual film/ book club. I'm reading the seven sisters there are 8 books in total and 800 pages each. Waiting for the last one to come down in price, I do love a proper book.
Virtual hugs all
Anne
Going to get OH to bake a cake, my favourite part is the cake mixture In one way I do like the rain, it's a great excuse to do nothing. Sometimes we always feel guilty/ lazy if we don't do anything.
Webb great idea about the virtual film/ book club. I'm reading the seven sisters there are 8 books in total and 800 pages each. Waiting for the last one to come down in price, I do love a proper book.
Virtual hugs all
Anne
Smile through tears
tv
desperate housewives got me through the inital knock i love cop shows but could not watch them for months afterwards
old Hercule Poirot
I watched Designated Surviver ( again)
Jack Ryan
Brigerton
I now love my cop shows The Rookie, Blue Bloods, Vera, Endeavour, Forgotten and many more.
film i love action films, Mission Impossibel, Top Gun and Maverick, The fast and furious films, Jurassic World films. I like Red and Red 2, Liar with Helen Mirran, Taken films, Die Hard.
i like the odd scary film but cannot remember any at this time.
music I like a collection, Rod Stewart, Amy Macdonld, but i usually just set up lists on spotify. Books, I can lost in a book for hours. Too many to mention, i would be here all day. Lol....I am just about to start reading The Marlow Murder Club. Just finished the The Botanist which is a thriller.
upset mum, so glad you get to see your dog. Just been out in the rain this morning with one of my dogs and will have to go out later to take the pup. I might look up Hannibal though and the books Severn sister.
Who is watching a film this weekend and what are they watching. I am watching the new Jurassic World film I got for my birthday but cannot remember the title, its the third film.
tv
desperate housewives got me through the inital knock i love cop shows but could not watch them for months afterwards
old Hercule Poirot
I watched Designated Surviver ( again)
Jack Ryan
Brigerton
I now love my cop shows The Rookie, Blue Bloods, Vera, Endeavour, Forgotten and many more.
film i love action films, Mission Impossibel, Top Gun and Maverick, The fast and furious films, Jurassic World films. I like Red and Red 2, Liar with Helen Mirran, Taken films, Die Hard.
i like the odd scary film but cannot remember any at this time.
music I like a collection, Rod Stewart, Amy Macdonld, but i usually just set up lists on spotify. Books, I can lost in a book for hours. Too many to mention, i would be here all day. Lol....I am just about to start reading The Marlow Murder Club. Just finished the The Botanist which is a thriller.
upset mum, so glad you get to see your dog. Just been out in the rain this morning with one of my dogs and will have to go out later to take the pup. I might look up Hannibal though and the books Severn sister.
Who is watching a film this weekend and what are they watching. I am watching the new Jurassic World film I got for my birthday but cannot remember the title, its the third film.
Hi, I've had a busy week at work. Only got 3 days left before I break up for the summer. Can't wait even with everything hanging over our heads. My 15 year old daughter had an audition for a development programme for an American company that works with agencies in the UK and USA. She needed 3 yeses which she got and then decided to tell us it will cost us, which they never mentioned before.
TV shows I have been losing myself in:
Classic coronation street, Waterloo road (old and new), spin city, love my cop shows the rookie, rookie feds. Magnum PI, blue bloods, death in paradise, Chicago PD, med and fire.
We've been watching the marvel films, Shrek, toy story, night at the museum (got the third one to watch tonight).
Like driving on my own so I get to listen to my own music: meatloaf, wet wet wet, soul asylum, Olly murs, Michael Bublé (very eclectic taste).
I always have a book with me wherever I go and I'm reading a funny thing happened on the way to the future by Michael j fox.
Hope everyone okay x
TV shows I have been losing myself in:
Classic coronation street, Waterloo road (old and new), spin city, love my cop shows the rookie, rookie feds. Magnum PI, blue bloods, death in paradise, Chicago PD, med and fire.
We've been watching the marvel films, Shrek, toy story, night at the museum (got the third one to watch tonight).
Like driving on my own so I get to listen to my own music: meatloaf, wet wet wet, soul asylum, Olly murs, Michael Bublé (very eclectic taste).
I always have a book with me wherever I go and I'm reading a funny thing happened on the way to the future by Michael j fox.
Hope everyone okay x
Awful day yesterday, Child protection conference, she's been put on a child protection plan. When my person came to collect me for meeting he accidentally run our cat over. Luckily just a dislocated hip, cost £1300 though.
one positive GP has signed me off work for 3 weeks, so I get to spend some time with my daughter.
one positive GP has signed me off work for 3 weeks, so I get to spend some time with my daughter.
Aww Livvy x
How awful, just horrendous x
How awful, just horrendous x
@Bluebell77. How awful . I'm not surprised you feel lonely and let down. But still you manage to be positive that your little one can see her dad. You must have super strength to manage that x
A bit late for the Friday check in! I had a lovely day Friday at a local stately home having scones in the tea room and a walk round the glorious gardens with a dear friend of mine who has known about this horrific ordeal from Day 1 and has supported both of us. Today we had two members of VISOR on their first visit to introduce themselves and get to know us. They were both very kind. I felt a huge sense of relief when they installed the tracking software on my OH's tablet. That should be an incentive to keep him from looking at dodgy websites or corresponding with nasty people, especially as I'm getting ready to go on my first of three breaks away from him to visit family and friends over the next few months.
Livvy - so sorry about your cat. Ours dislocated a hip and it cost a small fortune too. We took out insurance after that which was lucky as a year later he had a weirdly swollen paw and the vet thought it was TB from a rat perhaps, which can be passed to humans so we had 6 months of quarantine for him and lots of meds and dressing changes weekly - eventually transpired he had 'feline leprosy' which isn't passed to humans so panic over. His case is now used at Vet School at a local University so he's famous!
Re Child Protection, our grandsons are on a plan too and at first I was horrified but actually it's not so bad as it really is meant to help families stay together. My only fear is that the OIC who attends will give out more info than allowed in a meeting like that because at the Initial one that's what happened and we made a complaint - we assume there was an element of self importance about being there but it was so unprofessional and upsetting as it was all hypothetical maybes which painted our son as a monster, instead of just 'devices still being checked so no updates'. I'm dreading when there is an update.
Re Child Protection, our grandsons are on a plan too and at first I was horrified but actually it's not so bad as it really is meant to help families stay together. My only fear is that the OIC who attends will give out more info than allowed in a meeting like that because at the Initial one that's what happened and we made a complaint - we assume there was an element of self importance about being there but it was so unprofessional and upsetting as it was all hypothetical maybes which painted our son as a monster, instead of just 'devices still being checked so no updates'. I'm dreading when there is an update.
My week has been a bit Groundhog Day'ish which is appropriate as I went to see a musical based on the film at the Old Vic. It was really good, written by Tim Minchin so very clever lyrics and a bit like the music in Matilda.
Then I saw Crazy For You in the West End and actually enjoyed being on my own doing something I love. I enjoy going to the theatre with friends too but sometimes being on my own is good as I don't have to worry in case they're not enjoying it. Plus at the moment I don't have to worry about disclosing anything accidentally or talking about things if the friend knows. I can be safe and anonymous for a few hours. Anyway, if you like old school Hollywood with a corny storyline but fabulous costumes and amazing dancing, and some lovely Gershwin songs, then I'd really recommend Crazy for You.
Also wanted to recommend a podcast by Jack Whitehall's parents, Hilary and Michael. It's called 'The Whittering Whitehalls' and is very funny, at least I think so! It's one of the few things lately that can make me laugh and we all know how good it is for our mental health to have a chuckle now and then. Makes a change from tears!
Then I saw Crazy For You in the West End and actually enjoyed being on my own doing something I love. I enjoy going to the theatre with friends too but sometimes being on my own is good as I don't have to worry in case they're not enjoying it. Plus at the moment I don't have to worry about disclosing anything accidentally or talking about things if the friend knows. I can be safe and anonymous for a few hours. Anyway, if you like old school Hollywood with a corny storyline but fabulous costumes and amazing dancing, and some lovely Gershwin songs, then I'd really recommend Crazy for You.
Also wanted to recommend a podcast by Jack Whitehall's parents, Hilary and Michael. It's called 'The Whittering Whitehalls' and is very funny, at least I think so! It's one of the few things lately that can make me laugh and we all know how good it is for our mental health to have a chuckle now and then. Makes a change from tears!