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My OH was arrested a few weeks ago for downloading indecent images and sexual communication with a child.
After some long talks he tells he that he downloaded lots of files via emule over a period of time viewed some and then deleted to the bin on the pc and emptied the bin each time. He didn't store any files anywhere and they were never accessible on the pc once deleted.
He also said he talked to girls on Snapchat of about 14 to 16 and often the talks were sexual. A couple of girls sent him topless pictures and he sent them naked pictures he got from a website of a boy of about 20. He never video talked or talked just texts and never talked about meeting or wanted to meet.
His duty solicitor told him to admit the crimes in interview which he did and and he was released on bail under investigation.
He has since got a private solicitor who said he shouldn't of admitted anything and is telling him not to take any courses or therapy at this time as it shows his guilt and just wait until the charges are made before doing any of this.
We don't know what to do at the moment as he's clearly depressed and has been for a while but doesn't know what to do for the best.
What do people think his chances are of avoiding prison ? It's his first offence and he's in his late 50's and has always been well respected and has worked with children all his life with no issues at all until this.
Is there anywhere online he can talk to others going through what he's going through as he's just isolating himself.
Ang help would be most appreciated.
My OH was arrested a few weeks ago for downloading indecent images and sexual communication with a child.
After some long talks he tells he that he downloaded lots of files via emule over a period of time viewed some and then deleted to the bin on the pc and emptied the bin each time. He didn't store any files anywhere and they were never accessible on the pc once deleted.
He also said he talked to girls on Snapchat of about 14 to 16 and often the talks were sexual. A couple of girls sent him topless pictures and he sent them naked pictures he got from a website of a boy of about 20. He never video talked or talked just texts and never talked about meeting or wanted to meet.
His duty solicitor told him to admit the crimes in interview which he did and and he was released on bail under investigation.
He has since got a private solicitor who said he shouldn't of admitted anything and is telling him not to take any courses or therapy at this time as it shows his guilt and just wait until the charges are made before doing any of this.
We don't know what to do at the moment as he's clearly depressed and has been for a while but doesn't know what to do for the best.
What do people think his chances are of avoiding prison ? It's his first offence and he's in his late 50's and has always been well respected and has worked with children all his life with no issues at all until this.
Is there anywhere online he can talk to others going through what he's going through as he's just isolating himself.
Ang help would be most appreciated.
I am so sorry that you find yourself here.
My OH was advised to give a no comment interview first and then admitted once the evidence came back. The police have technology that means they may be able to retrieve even deleted stuff.
My opinion on therapy and courses is that a person who commits these offences needs support and treatment to help them to understand why they did these things and prevent it from happening in the future. To me it is more than just about how it appears to the courts.
Whether they find evidence or not, you partner has done these things and he should be getting the help he needs.
My OH was advised to give a no comment interview first and then admitted once the evidence came back. The police have technology that means they may be able to retrieve even deleted stuff.
My opinion on therapy and courses is that a person who commits these offences needs support and treatment to help them to understand why they did these things and prevent it from happening in the future. To me it is more than just about how it appears to the courts.
Whether they find evidence or not, you partner has done these things and he should be getting the help he needs.