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I have private messaged you, i hope you're ok x
I am so sorry.
I was sick when my pal rang me to say it was public as I hadn't been near the phone. My phone has many messages..
I contacted the school that night, the head was fully aware of the situation for many reasons, and she she had also seen it, and been contacted for many reasons.
she put safeguarding arrangements in about entry and exit, but in the first few days it was ironic as I wasn't doing pick ups, it was his family. The school mums thought they were my parents and support so they only got the occasional nods and doidnt get any problems. If they had knwin who they were my pals said it would have been different.
the looks etc are inevitable as will be the comments, but you will sorvive it. I got a lot from students .... he was well known .... and I am not going to lie, it is hard.
one mum later asked me how I could t not know... how I must have been stupid.... al the things I had thought..
I did read all the comments but some don't, so do what is best for you.
I really feel for you, but you are strong, so you will get through this stage. Look after yourself x
I was sick when my pal rang me to say it was public as I hadn't been near the phone. My phone has many messages..
I contacted the school that night, the head was fully aware of the situation for many reasons, and she she had also seen it, and been contacted for many reasons.
she put safeguarding arrangements in about entry and exit, but in the first few days it was ironic as I wasn't doing pick ups, it was his family. The school mums thought they were my parents and support so they only got the occasional nods and doidnt get any problems. If they had knwin who they were my pals said it would have been different.
the looks etc are inevitable as will be the comments, but you will sorvive it. I got a lot from students .... he was well known .... and I am not going to lie, it is hard.
one mum later asked me how I could t not know... how I must have been stupid.... al the things I had thought..
I did read all the comments but some don't, so do what is best for you.
I really feel for you, but you are strong, so you will get through this stage. Look after yourself x
Hi Always,
We had horrendous press coverage not just where we live but the whole of our region involving quite a few towns as well as the internet. My husbands photo and full history of his life and employment was splashed across x 2 pages of all regional newspapers. My initial reaction was to run away to the other end of the country and change names, thankfully throughout this madnes I have an amazing sister who insisted we stayed put as she emphasized the need for stability throughout the turmoil. We don't look at or speak to our neighbours, not sure whether or not we are fortunate but we live in a small close but do not have to face anyone when we leave our house as it's facing fields. The press are vile in their write ups, they forget there are other innocent family who have to deal with the fallout. 20 months since it went public for the first time as there was an even bigger write up post sentencing we are still in our home that we have both worked hard for. As I have said in previous posts I now surround us both with sincere and loyal family and friends (we have lost alot of both though since this) and we keep the toxic ones at arms length. We installed cameras around our house for fear of vigilantes but so far we have been okay and not suffered any adverse events. I am glad we stayed here now, our familiar home is our haven where we feel safe and secure. I still worry if people know and want confrontation but I have had alot of therapy and counseling to deal with this situation and I have to say it has made me a stronger, assertive and more determined to get on with our lives and not be disrupted by the toxic gossipers. This anxiety will pass, Lee documented a fabulous quote on this site by a guy called Bernard Baruch, it goes:
Be who you are and say what you feel because Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind!
I think of this mantra when I feel anxious, it helped me when my husbands entire life and totally exaggerated and sensationalised article was published for the public to read and judge.
I hope things work out for you and you make the right decision.
Best wishes
Katie xxx
We had horrendous press coverage not just where we live but the whole of our region involving quite a few towns as well as the internet. My husbands photo and full history of his life and employment was splashed across x 2 pages of all regional newspapers. My initial reaction was to run away to the other end of the country and change names, thankfully throughout this madnes I have an amazing sister who insisted we stayed put as she emphasized the need for stability throughout the turmoil. We don't look at or speak to our neighbours, not sure whether or not we are fortunate but we live in a small close but do not have to face anyone when we leave our house as it's facing fields. The press are vile in their write ups, they forget there are other innocent family who have to deal with the fallout. 20 months since it went public for the first time as there was an even bigger write up post sentencing we are still in our home that we have both worked hard for. As I have said in previous posts I now surround us both with sincere and loyal family and friends (we have lost alot of both though since this) and we keep the toxic ones at arms length. We installed cameras around our house for fear of vigilantes but so far we have been okay and not suffered any adverse events. I am glad we stayed here now, our familiar home is our haven where we feel safe and secure. I still worry if people know and want confrontation but I have had alot of therapy and counseling to deal with this situation and I have to say it has made me a stronger, assertive and more determined to get on with our lives and not be disrupted by the toxic gossipers. This anxiety will pass, Lee documented a fabulous quote on this site by a guy called Bernard Baruch, it goes:
Be who you are and say what you feel because Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind!
I think of this mantra when I feel anxious, it helped me when my husbands entire life and totally exaggerated and sensationalised article was published for the public to read and judge.
I hope things work out for you and you make the right decision.
Best wishes
Katie xxx
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