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Unsureaboutlife

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July 2023

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Posted Mon July 31, 2023 8:40amReport post

My OH is currently being investigated by the police we have 2 small children 1 and 3. I wanted know if anyone has stayed with there partner if they went on the SAR, with young children? Not sure how I feel as it's still early days for me but wanted to know what my options are. Being currently seen by ss, had the child protection meeting which was horrible. Cried all day after that, been feeling very low since.

scaredandconfused

Member since
June 2021

437 posts

Posted Mon July 31, 2023 10:13amReport post

I've stayed with my oh we have two toddlers one was tiny when it first happened. We are just past the two year mark and past sentencing. We just made out my oh was having to work nights so the oldest didn't question where he was. We are now all back to living together but our oldest always wants me on a night time as it's what they are used to. It can work if you decide to. Not going to lie it's hard work cin plan for two years loads of safe guarding courses pants work with the oldest. My oh as done loads of work too and continues to. Any questions just ask I can try answer if I can x

Unsureaboutlife

Member since
July 2023

5 posts

Posted Mon July 31, 2023 2:10pmReport post

Was your oh able to live back in the house while being on the SAR? How long did he get on it? Sorry for asking all these questions have no idea what's happening, still waiting.

scaredandconfused

Member since
June 2021

437 posts

Posted Mon July 31, 2023 4:45pmReport post

Investigation to sentencing took 18 months, he was then allowed a phased return home at 21 months I've worked hard to get us to where we are and I've now got him unsupervised too. His on sor got 5 years and shpo but I also made sure he had the least restrictive rules on there as it was internet based only so it is only software on his phone no restrictions on where we go or anything