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Good morning everyone (hoping it is 'good' in some small way for you all - the sun is shining here which is a change from yesterday's horrible weather so that's good!)
I was watching a drama series yesterday where the main character has deep conversations with a drug dealer who hangs out in the doorway of her apartment block. He comes out with great pearls of wisdom and in this episode the woman (whose husband has just died) says how she isn't coping with her grief. His reply really helped me as I've been struggling with coping lately and worrying in case I fall down some rabbit hole of breaking down, never to return! If we equate our feelings with being a kind of grief for the loss of so much on so many levels (especially so for all you partners but also true for us mums albeit in a different way), then this is what the drug dealer said........
'Grief is an emotion your mind created in response to trauma. It may seem overwhelming at times but your mind would never create something you can't handle. Your mind is not an a***hole.'
Hope that encourages someone as it encouraged me! My mantra today is saying under my breath, as often as needed 'my mind is NOT an a***hole'!! :)
xxx
I was watching a drama series yesterday where the main character has deep conversations with a drug dealer who hangs out in the doorway of her apartment block. He comes out with great pearls of wisdom and in this episode the woman (whose husband has just died) says how she isn't coping with her grief. His reply really helped me as I've been struggling with coping lately and worrying in case I fall down some rabbit hole of breaking down, never to return! If we equate our feelings with being a kind of grief for the loss of so much on so many levels (especially so for all you partners but also true for us mums albeit in a different way), then this is what the drug dealer said........
'Grief is an emotion your mind created in response to trauma. It may seem overwhelming at times but your mind would never create something you can't handle. Your mind is not an a***hole.'
Hope that encourages someone as it encouraged me! My mantra today is saying under my breath, as often as needed 'my mind is NOT an a***hole'!! :)
xxx
Haha - think this will remain with me today!
A much loved family member took his young life several years ago now. We went through the grieving process as a family and to be honest the sadness is never far away even now.
Talking about it with his mum, we mentioned similarities in our grief and she said her son has gone and won't come back. BUT my son, yes we have bereavement emotions but he's still here and will come back. She said she felt my journey was worse than hers, which I found difficult to comprehend or understand.....
A much loved family member took his young life several years ago now. We went through the grieving process as a family and to be honest the sadness is never far away even now.
Talking about it with his mum, we mentioned similarities in our grief and she said her son has gone and won't come back. BUT my son, yes we have bereavement emotions but he's still here and will come back. She said she felt my journey was worse than hers, which I found difficult to comprehend or understand.....
Oh I'm so sorry about your family member, such an awful thing to get through and I can understand how it never really leaves you.
My friend's young son died as a victim of a hit and run driver quite a few years ago now but she says that grief can still come out of nowhere like a tsunami despite life going on and there being happy times and times when he's not at the forefront of her thinking.
I guess it can take many shapes and forms - when my dad was declining into vascular dementia I went through a kind of grief as I was losing the dad I'd known. I think the grief attached to our situations is similar to that as it's a loss of future hopes and dreams and a loss of the person we knew so well.
Goodness, this is turning into an introspective dissertation, sorry!!!
Back to my mantra ...... :)
My friend's young son died as a victim of a hit and run driver quite a few years ago now but she says that grief can still come out of nowhere like a tsunami despite life going on and there being happy times and times when he's not at the forefront of her thinking.
I guess it can take many shapes and forms - when my dad was declining into vascular dementia I went through a kind of grief as I was losing the dad I'd known. I think the grief attached to our situations is similar to that as it's a loss of future hopes and dreams and a loss of the person we knew so well.
Goodness, this is turning into an introspective dissertation, sorry!!!
Back to my mantra ...... :)
Sorry - my fault entirely xxxxxxx