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Upset mum

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Posted Fri August 4, 2023 4:29pmReport post

Afternoon lovlies x

Hope you have all managed to get through the week ok xx

A non eventual week so far for me and a very quiet weekend ahead ( this rain really does need to do one now)

I was chatting to a friend at work today she just got from 9 days in Turkey, she has a lovely tan and looks really well, she was telling me how she had her eyebrows tattooed for only £50 she said it costs about £200 here, I think if I had mine done I would end up looking like the Marxs brothers (for those old enough you will know what I mean)lol x

I really dont pamper myself at all apart from the occasional face mask and that hasn't made a difference :-)

But she got me thinking as she said we all need a bit of self care and love which is so true xx

I hope you all remember that self care is so important on this journey xx

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Smile through tears

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Posted Fri August 4, 2023 6:03pmReport post

Hi Upset. Very quiet week for me - the sort I like but don't always get. Weather is crap - let's see what storm Antoni brings tomorrow...

A pamper is always good. I always try to keep my hair looking tidy. My eyebrows are terrible, but think tattoos- err no too much of a coward!

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rainyday52

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Posted Fri August 4, 2023 6:42pmReport post

Hi everyone, my week has been OK'ish but wild stormy weather has been a pain!

Highlight was yet another theatre visit to The Globe in London to see A midsummer Night's Dream. First ever visit and the production was wonderful, totally classic Shakespeare but done so well that you just forgot that it was written so long ago. It has the wonderful quote 'though she be but little, she is fierce', made all the better because the actress it was about was little. Seeing so many teenagers loving every minute was great too. BUT I opted for a seat and my haemorrhoids are still complaining :) A wooden bench, even with a cushion, is not fun!

On a minus side i had my hair cut and for some reason the hairdresser put some layers in it which I'm not sure about so my vanity has been having an anxious episode!

I was on the rota for my volunteering at the Courts today (supporting witnesses) and as it was rather quiet I had a read of some brochures I found there. One was about sentencing and it stressed that, wherever you were in the UK, judges and magistrates would all give the same sentence for a crime. From people's stories on here I know that just isn't true so I came home feeling a bit cross!

Have a good weekend everyone xxx

Seaside

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Posted Fri August 4, 2023 6:46pmReport post

Hi Upset,

Quiet week here apart from the weather which has been dreadful-where did summer go?

I'm off to meet up for a few days with a very close friend who has been an absolute rock during all this time -we've known each other for over 50 years !!! You're so right about self care too I haven't been taking as much care of myself as I should lately and I need to start prioritising that.

Love to all the lovely people on here as always xx

Muggle2023

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July 2023

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Posted Fri August 4, 2023 7:07pmReport post

I've only been here since last weekend so have been catching up on all the posts. A quiet week here, went to see the Barbie movie with friends which was nice. Some days feeling really positive and strong and other days just a mess. Glad it's the weekend though, hope everyone gets to indulge in some self care, we all deserve it.

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Fri August 4, 2023 7:09pmReport post

Rainyday

Ouch I can imagine sitting on a wooden bench would not be ideal ;-)

So glad you enjoyed the production, I have never read his work but I can imagine it been very thought provoking x

Well we all know what bollocks the sentancing outcome can be no case on this journey is judged the same , all you can do is wait until sentancing, plan for the worst and hope for the best, but what ever the outcome is you will get through this journey xx

Upset mum

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Posted Fri August 4, 2023 7:13pmReport post

Seaside x

So glad you are having a few days with your rock I can imagine how lovely it will be, and you can be just you for a change xx

Leave this journey as you walk out the door and think only of you and your dear friend, enjoy letting the laughter come back , these few days are about you xx

Upset mum

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Posted Fri August 4, 2023 7:15pmReport post

Smile my dear friend x

Enjoy your weekend, I haven't had my hair cut for 2 years lol but I am so tempted to get it done xx

Upset mum

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Posted Fri August 4, 2023 7:18pmReport post

Muggle

I have heard it's a good film I think me and my daughter will plan to see it over the next couple of weeks x

Take a day at a time, some days will be good and some not so but that is understandable on this journey, just be kind to yourself xx

Seaside

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Posted Fri August 4, 2023 7:23pmReport post

Thanks Upset I'm really looking forward to seeing my friend again.

Rainyday the Globe is amazing but those seats are very hard aren't they?

I actually have a t-shirt with the Though she be but little she is fierce on it and my god we learn to be fierce on this journey don't we?

Smile I decided to stop colouring my hair and embrace the silver but I'm finding that people treat me more like an old lady so will probably go mad and dye it pink now

Webb89

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Posted Fri August 4, 2023 7:39pmReport post

Afternoon friday club.

I had to have a procedure at the hospital. So all my energy has been going into dreading that. It was worse than can be imagined and they could not do it, so had the after pain of an operation but not the result. But, it has not been a bad week besides.



Am going away with my sister next week only for a couple of nights, but to me it feels like i am going on holiday. Havent been on holiday since before lockdown, so quite depressing, and no longer able to abroad with OH. But I have been watching telly, reading books. But the best is i went to a line dancing class on Monday. The best fun i have had since the knock. I loved it and cannot wait til Monday night for the next class. I have been out loads walking my dogs and seeing a couple of friends. So a little more positive for me this week.



my little star of my 6 month puppy continues to put a smile on my face, she is as mad as a hatter and even the older dogs are looking at me to ask, why is she here, this is your fault? But she brings a chaos that i can cope with and makes me forget my situation. Hope everyone has a good week.



Ps my friend went to see Barbie and she loved it and she is older than me. So might give that a go this week.

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Upset mum

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Posted Fri August 4, 2023 8:24pmReport post

Webb89

Oh so sorry lovely I hope it wasnt anything serious xx 2 years ago in June I had my retina totally detached in my right eye lost my sight totally, but thankfully the eye hospital in London was able to repair it, the op was so scary as I was awake the whole time but they managed to save my sight it's not perfect but I can still get by xx

Line dancing is something I have wanted to do you are so incredibly strong hun xx

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Dawn19

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Posted Fri August 4, 2023 8:35pmReport post

Hi everyone, we've had a disastrous Friday. We should be in a B&B in Scotland now but the car had other ideas. 2 hours into our 5 hour journey, the clutch went and had to call the AA. We struggled to get a recovery truck out to us, so the AA brought me and my 15 year old daughter home, he's now on his way back to pick up my oh and 18 year old daughter and tow the car back. I am so disappointed as this holiday has been booked since 2019 for us to go away in 2020. x

Upset mum

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Posted Fri August 4, 2023 8:42pmReport post

Hi Polly x

I definitely need to see the film x

Glad to see you back here and your doing ok xx

My furbaby is 13 but still thinks she is a puppy, I have her next weekend, due to us moving and the circumstances changed with my daughter working from home since covid it would have been unfair to bring her with my and my eldest so she stayed with my daughter but at least she is happy, something else I have had to adjust to xx

Upset mum

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Posted Fri August 4, 2023 8:47pmReport post

Parkerpoo1 x

You have coped with so much so hold your head high you have done nothing wrong, yes it hurts like hell but we cant control what others do , dry your eyes,

I am glad you had a nice break and enjoyed the motor racing, remember your self worth is far more than other people's opinions and yes it hurts like hell but don't let anyones actions bring you down

Sending hugs and strength to you xx

Upset mum

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Posted Fri August 4, 2023 8:55pmReport post

Aww Dawn x

How dissapointng for you all xx

But it is out of your control hun, bloody cars eh

So you may not be able to be in the B&B but you can still have a lovely weekend, swap bedrooms , have breakfast in bed, lazy Sat just chilling watching girly films, takeaways, its not the same but it can still be a mini take your mind of the situation xx

Confusedwife

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Posted Fri August 4, 2023 8:56pmReport post

Hi upset mum,



we've just hit a year since the knock now and still no phone back.... I wish I knew how much longer but I know by reading on here it could be next week or even next year!!



funny you mention turkey Iv actually no long ago booked a holiday for us for next year no idea if my husband will be able to go or not but I booked 2 rooms so just in case he can he can have a room on his own. Probably wishfull thinking... but I like to have something to look forward too.



we went to watch the barbie movie also and I just absolutely loved it I thought it was amazing and very emotional!! Now I'm obsessed with the barbie soundtrack.

Upset mum

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Posted Fri August 4, 2023 9:26pmReport post

Evening Confused x

Glad you enjoyed the film:-)

This journey is horrendous, we were told the day of the knock it would be done within 3 months, 18 months later!

We have no say, no control over this but remember you cannot allow it to overwhelm you, easier said than done x

So glad you have booked a holiday we all need something to look forward to hun xx

Webb89

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Posted Fri August 4, 2023 11:48pmReport post

Polly pocket - just arranged to go to the Barbie movie with my daughter. So now have something to look forward to this weekend. I spent many hours wondering if having a puppy in this mess was the best way to go. But it has been a life saver. The pup gives me the distraction i need and she is such a joy. She has also made the older dogs move more etc so given us all a new lease of life

Parkerpoo1 a 'friend' of 34 years dropped me like a hot potatoe after 1.5 weeks after the knock. My OH was still on remand so i was home feeling isolated and alone and she did this to me. I think my life was made so much harder because of this, as she also left my adult children who have known her all of their lives. She left them when they needed her the most. I felt her loss so much this last year until my councillor pointed out she was never a friend. A friend would not do this. No matter what people say I still miss my friend, i miss who i thought she was but, take comfort with the people who have stayed with you, they are the ones who deserve you, your time and your friendship your loyalty. Sorry gone on a bit. As you see a year later I am still hurt by her actions but mostly i put her to the back of my mind to not give her my energy. I hope this helps.

upset mum...i really recommend line dancing. It is something you can do on your own or with friends. Once the music starts your only thought in the whole world is where do i have to put my foot next! All the other thoughts go out of the window. And if people let you down then you can still go.

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JulieM

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Posted Sat August 5, 2023 11:32amReport post

Hi everyone!

Webb89, I'm wondering if your friend who dropped you might be a victim of sexual abuse, and just can't handle what is happening in your life? I'm away visiting family and have been told not to contact a friend because she's in court over her own child sex abuse and she can't handle dealing with the fact I'm 'with' someone who did what he did. Actually, my telling some of my friends has triggered them with their own horrific memories, and I feel horrible about it.

Besides that, I'm getting some distance from my OH looking at places to eventually move away to. I met up with some dear friends and had a wonderful 2 hour horse ride on one of the less rainy days this week. My friends and in-laws (not my OH's family) have been hugely supportive.

Try to stay dry everyone!!!

Distressed and pregnant

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Posted Sat August 5, 2023 12:15pmReport post

Hi everyone,

Well, Summer still hasn't got the memo that's it meant to be here by now. Craft supplies and patience running low with a very bored toddler to entertain. We've managed to go swimming and spend a few hours at the park this week but that's about it.

All of the dog stories made me smile, the bit about how the older dogs think of the puppy reminds me of how my dog looks at my toddler when she's being examined by a drs kit lol.



Hoping for a brighter week for all of us this week. Love and strength to everyone as always xxx

Webb89

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Posted Sat August 5, 2023 6:20pmReport post

JulieM As far as i know my friend has not suffered abuse. Though this has not occured to me before. All she would say is she cannot handle that i entertain the fact that i am speaking to my OH. At the time as he was on remand, the only things we had talked about was how was i going to pay the bills. We had a huge bill due which he was using a savings plan in his name to pay for and as i did not know how long he would be away i was panicking. We had only spoken once when she dropped me. I explained to her the reasons but she just said we are now on different life journeys. She had done this to family members in the past when they did something she did not agree with.

Polly pocket. Been to see Barbie so now understand about your comment about 'the speech' and yes i also felt like cheering afterwards. Fab film but not for little ones.