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Close to giving up

Member since
July 2022

21 posts

Posted Wed August 9, 2023 9:56amReport post

Today's the day sentencing for my son, he has said he will be heading to the train station after court. If people find out that's his life over anyway and at least if he's gone people won't turn on the rest of the family.

Dad's walked out this morning, he can't cope with it and I don't know if he is going to do something stupid.

It's hell right now, it's eating us up and I don't know when it'll spit us back out. Families are affected so much, it's unreal.

Polly Pocket

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May 2022

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Posted Wed August 9, 2023 10:34amReport post

Thinking of you. X

I hope to hear back from you later with your son safely home.

There has to be hope. X x x

hpl111

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November 2022

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Posted Wed August 9, 2023 10:52amReport post

Hi, I am so sorry about what you are going through.

Can you pick him up after court?

If it's a credible risk of suicide, you should inform the police about this.

Another worried mum

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December 2022

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Posted Wed August 9, 2023 11:44amReport post

I am so sorry this is happening to you. My heart really goes out to you. I can only echo to tell the police if you suspect your son is at risk to suicide. Cling on to the fact that there is light at the end of this awful traumatic situation others on here have shown that. Sending you all the love and strength you need to get through.

Smile through tears

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September 2021

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Posted Wed August 9, 2023 2:21pmReport post

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Edited Wed August 9, 2023 5:07pm

Muggle2023

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Posted Wed August 9, 2023 3:40pmReport post

I hope you are ok x

Close to giving up

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July 2022

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Posted Wed August 9, 2023 4:03pmReport post

We're home, things went a little better than we had thought they would.



Judge ignored guidelines for the offence and changed the SHPO to fit my son.

Recommended was a 24 month sentence if suspended and community 10 year SOR SHPO 2 year probation,300hrs unpaid work and 6 month rehabilitation.



He gave 8 months suspended. 24month probation, 150hrs unpaid, 35 days rehabilitation course, 5 year SOR and SHPO and changed the communication part as there never was any sort of communication or active searching or engaging with the people putting in the links.



However had he of contacted the police rather than delete the hidden content from the link it would of never come to this.



No media at the court at all, so hopefully they won't obtain it later on. I'm praying that's the case and we will see if he can do his probation and community service in a different town.





Thank you all for the support

K4

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October 2022

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Posted Wed August 9, 2023 4:39pmReport post

Hope that father and son are able to get past this now. Hugs to you and well done on getting through the day





xxx

Smile through tears

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September 2021

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Posted Wed August 9, 2023 5:07pmReport post

Phew......

Bitterbean

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Posted Wed August 9, 2023 6:22pmReport post

Close to giving up

What a stressful day you have had! (and indeed the lead up with the delays and poor communication) So pleased to hear the judge took a reasonable approach, and keeping my fingers crossed for you regarding the media. Wishing you all the best and hope you can all sleep a bit easier tonight.

Polly Pocket

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May 2022

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Posted Wed August 9, 2023 6:43pmReport post

And breathe.... xxxx

Close to giving up

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Posted Wed August 9, 2023 8:27pmReport post

He has finally slept, we got home he sorted some washing, had dinner and went to bed he is sparko, snoring and dribbling. I'm not sure when the last time he slept like this was.

It's a long road ahead but it's such a weight off your chest walking out of the court, yes we're still worried about media reports, the court sends a weekly round up to local news on a Friday afternoon so we're not out of the woods yet but SENTENCING IS OVER.

Thank you all for reaching out, I will update on media if it comes xx

Polly Pocket

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May 2022

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Posted Wed August 9, 2023 10:46pmReport post

This morning looked so different to your baby being home a snoring... a lesson to us all - push through. Xx I'm incredibly pleased for you. X

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Thu August 10, 2023 10:37pmReport post

Close x

My heart really went out to you xx

To have him home was a blessing x

The day of the knock after my son was held all day from 7am until 23 00 he came home tired, withdrawn, we sat up until 2am just him talking and me listening, he finally managed to have a shower, I spent the night just laying on the edge of his bed with him resting his head on my shoulder and listening to him cry in to me just broke me, the last time I slept on his bed was when he was 9 yrs old and had been unwell and yet here we were he was 26 , I told him no matter how difficult this journey is I will be bu his side always, he was suicidal every day , I lived on my nerves but now we are past sentancing, we have a long way to go, the media reported just the most horrendous report, but we are here, he is doing ok considering and I am ok , and I stand by my son every step of the way xx

Smile through tears

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September 2021

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Posted Fri August 11, 2023 7:17amReport post

Ahhhh Upset. I did exactly the same with my son. Slept near him for a full night for comfort. These men are people not monsters it hurts SO much that people just don't see this....... and pain caused by the media with their shit / ex my language......

Another thing that broke me was not hearing my son laugh. He has a giggly sense of humour and wit. Accompanied by a loud laugh. The house fell silent, it was dreadful....

But it's returned and we often have a laugh on our calls and it's music to my ears to hear that laugh once again. It proves these horrible blips and experiences do not last forever.....

Edited Fri August 11, 2023 7:22am

Seaside

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Posted Fri August 11, 2023 8:59amReport post

Close I'm so pleased to hear that you had a good outcome and a judge who sounds reasonable-hopefully both Dad and son will now be able to move forward.

I completely understand your stress and anxiety as I had the same thing with my son and yes like Smile and Upset I lay next to him on the night after the knock and the night before sentencing hugging him whilst he sobbed.

Try to relax now and move forward together- we are 8 months post sentencing now and although it's not all plain sailing the worst is over.

Sending you love strength and hugs xx