Threats of suicide
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Today's the day sentencing for my son, he has said he will be heading to the train station after court. If people find out that's his life over anyway and at least if he's gone people won't turn on the rest of the family.
Dad's walked out this morning, he can't cope with it and I don't know if he is going to do something stupid.
It's hell right now, it's eating us up and I don't know when it'll spit us back out. Families are affected so much, it's unreal.
Dad's walked out this morning, he can't cope with it and I don't know if he is going to do something stupid.
It's hell right now, it's eating us up and I don't know when it'll spit us back out. Families are affected so much, it's unreal.
Thinking of you. X
I hope to hear back from you later with your son safely home.
There has to be hope. X x x
I hope to hear back from you later with your son safely home.
There has to be hope. X x x
Hi, I am so sorry about what you are going through.
Can you pick him up after court?
If it's a credible risk of suicide, you should inform the police about this.
Can you pick him up after court?
If it's a credible risk of suicide, you should inform the police about this.
I am so sorry this is happening to you. My heart really goes out to you. I can only echo to tell the police if you suspect your son is at risk to suicide. Cling on to the fact that there is light at the end of this awful traumatic situation others on here have shown that. Sending you all the love and strength you need to get through.
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I hope you are ok x
We're home, things went a little better than we had thought they would.
Judge ignored guidelines for the offence and changed the SHPO to fit my son.
Recommended was a 24 month sentence if suspended and community 10 year SOR SHPO 2 year probation,300hrs unpaid work and 6 month rehabilitation.
He gave 8 months suspended. 24month probation, 150hrs unpaid, 35 days rehabilitation course, 5 year SOR and SHPO and changed the communication part as there never was any sort of communication or active searching or engaging with the people putting in the links.
However had he of contacted the police rather than delete the hidden content from the link it would of never come to this.
No media at the court at all, so hopefully they won't obtain it later on. I'm praying that's the case and we will see if he can do his probation and community service in a different town.
Thank you all for the support
Judge ignored guidelines for the offence and changed the SHPO to fit my son.
Recommended was a 24 month sentence if suspended and community 10 year SOR SHPO 2 year probation,300hrs unpaid work and 6 month rehabilitation.
He gave 8 months suspended. 24month probation, 150hrs unpaid, 35 days rehabilitation course, 5 year SOR and SHPO and changed the communication part as there never was any sort of communication or active searching or engaging with the people putting in the links.
However had he of contacted the police rather than delete the hidden content from the link it would of never come to this.
No media at the court at all, so hopefully they won't obtain it later on. I'm praying that's the case and we will see if he can do his probation and community service in a different town.
Thank you all for the support
Hope that father and son are able to get past this now. Hugs to you and well done on getting through the day
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Phew......
Close to giving up
What a stressful day you have had! (and indeed the lead up with the delays and poor communication) So pleased to hear the judge took a reasonable approach, and keeping my fingers crossed for you regarding the media. Wishing you all the best and hope you can all sleep a bit easier tonight.
What a stressful day you have had! (and indeed the lead up with the delays and poor communication) So pleased to hear the judge took a reasonable approach, and keeping my fingers crossed for you regarding the media. Wishing you all the best and hope you can all sleep a bit easier tonight.
And breathe.... xxxx
He has finally slept, we got home he sorted some washing, had dinner and went to bed he is sparko, snoring and dribbling. I'm not sure when the last time he slept like this was.
It's a long road ahead but it's such a weight off your chest walking out of the court, yes we're still worried about media reports, the court sends a weekly round up to local news on a Friday afternoon so we're not out of the woods yet but SENTENCING IS OVER.
Thank you all for reaching out, I will update on media if it comes xx
It's a long road ahead but it's such a weight off your chest walking out of the court, yes we're still worried about media reports, the court sends a weekly round up to local news on a Friday afternoon so we're not out of the woods yet but SENTENCING IS OVER.
Thank you all for reaching out, I will update on media if it comes xx
This morning looked so different to your baby being home a snoring... a lesson to us all - push through. Xx I'm incredibly pleased for you. X
Close x
My heart really went out to you xx
To have him home was a blessing x
The day of the knock after my son was held all day from 7am until 23 00 he came home tired, withdrawn, we sat up until 2am just him talking and me listening, he finally managed to have a shower, I spent the night just laying on the edge of his bed with him resting his head on my shoulder and listening to him cry in to me just broke me, the last time I slept on his bed was when he was 9 yrs old and had been unwell and yet here we were he was 26 , I told him no matter how difficult this journey is I will be bu his side always, he was suicidal every day , I lived on my nerves but now we are past sentancing, we have a long way to go, the media reported just the most horrendous report, but we are here, he is doing ok considering and I am ok , and I stand by my son every step of the way xx
My heart really went out to you xx
To have him home was a blessing x
The day of the knock after my son was held all day from 7am until 23 00 he came home tired, withdrawn, we sat up until 2am just him talking and me listening, he finally managed to have a shower, I spent the night just laying on the edge of his bed with him resting his head on my shoulder and listening to him cry in to me just broke me, the last time I slept on his bed was when he was 9 yrs old and had been unwell and yet here we were he was 26 , I told him no matter how difficult this journey is I will be bu his side always, he was suicidal every day , I lived on my nerves but now we are past sentancing, we have a long way to go, the media reported just the most horrendous report, but we are here, he is doing ok considering and I am ok , and I stand by my son every step of the way xx
Ahhhh Upset. I did exactly the same with my son. Slept near him for a full night for comfort. These men are people not monsters it hurts SO much that people just don't see this....... and pain caused by the media with their shit / ex my language......
Another thing that broke me was not hearing my son laugh. He has a giggly sense of humour and wit. Accompanied by a loud laugh. The house fell silent, it was dreadful....
But it's returned and we often have a laugh on our calls and it's music to my ears to hear that laugh once again. It proves these horrible blips and experiences do not last forever.....
Another thing that broke me was not hearing my son laugh. He has a giggly sense of humour and wit. Accompanied by a loud laugh. The house fell silent, it was dreadful....
But it's returned and we often have a laugh on our calls and it's music to my ears to hear that laugh once again. It proves these horrible blips and experiences do not last forever.....
Close I'm so pleased to hear that you had a good outcome and a judge who sounds reasonable-hopefully both Dad and son will now be able to move forward.
I completely understand your stress and anxiety as I had the same thing with my son and yes like Smile and Upset I lay next to him on the night after the knock and the night before sentencing hugging him whilst he sobbed.
Try to relax now and move forward together- we are 8 months post sentencing now and although it's not all plain sailing the worst is over.
Sending you love strength and hugs xx
I completely understand your stress and anxiety as I had the same thing with my son and yes like Smile and Upset I lay next to him on the night after the knock and the night before sentencing hugging him whilst he sobbed.
Try to relax now and move forward together- we are 8 months post sentencing now and although it's not all plain sailing the worst is over.
Sending you love strength and hugs xx