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Its been 13 months since the knock

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Anxietyknocks

Member since
July 2022

6 posts

Posted Mon August 14, 2023 9:24amReport post

Hi,

It's been 13 months. I'm now divorced and living with a new partner. I've severed all ties. Ex husband is still released under investigation and working. I've heard nothing.

It sounds selfish, but I love to play video games on my laptop - I'd only had it for around 7 months before it got taken away - and I'm desperate to get it back. I can't afford a new one and it's been so long since I've been able to enjoy my hobby.

How much longer will I wait? I'm exhausted of the waiting. It's like I can't cut this final tie to him until its all done and I find out what will happen to him. I don't want him to go to prison, I don't want him to suffer. But I need it done.

Life feels over

Member since
September 2022

412 posts

Posted Mon August 14, 2023 4:46pmReport post

We were 18 months from arrest to sentencing but it was then a real battle trying to get our property back. The police were particularly obstructive and challenging. It may be further complicated for you given you are now divorced. I'm unsure if the police would have any requirement to contact you directly. I could be wrong and hope someone can clarify for you. I also hope this is brought to a conclusion quickly for you.

Losteverything

Member since
September 2022

216 posts

Posted Mon August 14, 2023 8:46pmReport post

It's also 13 months since the knock for me. I've also ended my very happy relationship which was the right thing for me. I don't know when I'll be ready to date again. I feel that none of this nightmare will be over until his devices have been checked. I also don't want him to go to prison but i want him to be found guilty as he deserves to be punished ( the police say there are 4 images but who knows if there are more??!!!)

JulieM

Member since
July 2023

76 posts

Posted Mon August 14, 2023 11:38pmReport post

It's been over a year and a half since The Knock. My OH is now in the second bedroom and looking for somewhere else to live. I finally got my laptop back in June, but that was down to him hassling the detective overseeing the case. To be honest, now that it's back I don't use it as I got fed up with waiting and bought another one before the police released mine. It feels tainted, so I'll probably give it to charity. The police also broke the cd/dvd holder.

Parkerpoo1

Member since
July 2022

252 posts

Posted Wed August 16, 2023 6:21amReport post

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Shattered123

Member since
September 2022

7 posts

Posted Wed August 16, 2023 1:40pmReport post

Also 13 months since the knock for me too. Soon to be ex- husband RUI, but to be honest although I'm cross they took my cameras and laptop, I don't want them back- it will be yet another reminder.

Embarrassed GF

Member since
August 2023

10 posts

Posted Wed August 16, 2023 7:09pmReport post

9 month in, no date for court. I don't know what to do, I love my OH to bits. But feel deflated and downtrodden.
how did you all cope from the knock to the court?

Parkerpoo1

Member since
July 2022

252 posts

Posted Wed August 16, 2023 8:49pmReport post

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