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Bitterbean, my OH has plead guilty, more and more people are receiving these things without ever having searched for it and it seems there is no way to explain yourself which is so frustrating.

Your husband will be feeling stressed and low and scared aswell, but your feelings are also valid. You are not only a shoulder to cry on but you also are carrying all the weight. I know because I feel it too, like I am the one holding my family together. They are worried about the outcome but you are the one worrying about EVERYTHING else and that's a lot.

Being open and honest in communication really helps, take some time to sit down purposely to talk (without yelling) about how you both are feeling and hopefully you will feel a bit better afterwards.

It's a bit like bringing up a family, you seem to do everything for everyone. You nurse your kids when unwell and carry on even when worn out yourself, having no rest or sleep. As they grow up this devotion never waivers..... you continue to support them through their stresses etc.

sometime you want to jump up and shout "what the hell about me, I'm a person, who cares about MY needs, the love and care I might need...... is anyone out there for me.

I understand how you must be feeling Bitterbean.

A bit yelly :)

He's stressed, you're stressed. Sip your wine, let it take the edge off tonight, but then you put it down.

No advice, just solidarity and love and a hug xxxx

Sending you so much love strength and solidarity I know exactly where you're coming from on this and as Smile says we carry so much on our shoulders that at times it is hard.

Youre both stressed at present so deep breath sip your wine and then put it down you will get through this xx

Bitterbean x

Our shoulders can only carry so much x

A journey we didn't want to be on but the strength we find keeps us going

Sending strength and hugs to you xx