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Hi me and my partner, 5 yr SHPO to share internet history when requested by MOSOVO. Non contact offence - indecent images zip file downloaded. Social care involvement since self referred last August after pretrial hearing and interim SOR hearing. Since then we've had nothing but exhausting sessions, the goal posts changed constantly intensive assessments of us both. It has been truly horrible. We have 2 children they are 8 years old and 3 months old. We currently cannot live together and have paternal grandparents as supervisors. My partner has almost completed his MAPPS and I've just completed my protectors work (breaking the cycle) these conditions were set as part of our recommendations to move in together. I have never minimised offense or acted in a way that I do not understand the need to be vigilant. We are now child in need however as of today I believe we will be moving back to child protection as I refused to share the storyboard they put to me. They are expecting our 8yr old to be told that her dad viewed explicit images of children and that these images included sex and harm to children. The other professionals involved; probation, Mosovo, school, health visitor.. do not believe this is necessary as this offence occurred isolated and in the 2 and a half years since the offense there has been no signs of repeat behaviour. They have all agreed when we moved from child protection that we should have contact in the family home being supervised by myself. Social services have said no not until I agree to the storyboard. I've put together my own focusing on PANTS and how the oldest can protect herself, speak up, talk to trusted adults, household boundaries etc... this was ignored. We are now at the stage that I won't do what they've asked as frankly I think it's detrimental to our daughter and completely damaging to make her fear her dad.



I am asking regarding national solicitors and if anyone can suggest a decent firm, I suspect this will escalate to child protection again as I'm refusing their recommendation and I'm preparing for a PLO as I'm not willing to adhere to their demands. I've been bullied. Treated as if I'm odd for wanting to maintain a relationship, my partner was asked why he didn't kill himself after the offence as he said it made him feel like this. Their lack of respect and "strengthening and support" as the team says has been non existent. I'm beyond burnt out and need next steps advice.



Thanks, from a very tired and down trodden woman.