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Anxious mummy

Member since
February 2023

99 posts

Posted Wed August 16, 2023 10:50pmReport post

My OH went for his second interview yesterday - his three devices have been checked and there were 100 images, with 15 cat C (from one night). Possession but no distribution. Plus 3 vile abuse chats on Kik. We are divorcing but trying to stay civil for our son. Last night I dreamed about those poor children that had been abused for the cat c images. I still just can't understand how he could look at abusive images and wonder if I should do the Inform course? Anyone else done this course? I am also struggling with the supervised visits and the idea of doing this until our son is 18. When my OH has gone through Inform etc can they be rehabilitated and no longer be a risk to my son? I genuinely don't believe he would touch our son but the evidence is now there about what he has looked at and I don't want to be naive In a case like this would a judge or police ever allow unsupervised contact? I am also struggling with juggling school holidays, my work, divorce paperwork and putting our house on the market next month. I have no idea where we will live or how I tell my son. Its just so overwhelming.

K4

Member since
October 2022

611 posts

Posted Thu August 17, 2023 6:58amReport post

I don't have any advice but to take deep breaths. you're managing a lot and if I knew you IRL then I would be giving you a hug and bringing you cake.



my (male) children are still supervised with their dad, but from what I can see from people on here, that unsupervised isn't out of the question. I don't know what your ex has looked at, but the fact your child is male might help with getting unsupervised.



thibking of you lots



x

Deedee86

Member since
April 2023

54 posts

Posted Thu August 17, 2023 7:21amReport post

Hello



i have completed the Inform course and would whole heartedly recommend it. Took me ages to get a spot, a few months but it was worth excellent.

loulou74

Member since
September 2022

255 posts

Posted Thu August 17, 2023 8:11amReport post

We're 7 months post sentencing and it was communication, not images, but we now have unsupervised contact (though no overnights yet). My boys are teens so age played a part as they can advocate for themselves. It can be done. We're no longer together. I try not to think about the offence though it maybe easier as it was decoys and he didn't believe they were really kids, but it does get easier with time. I do sometimes look at him and think "who are you?".