Any financial help out there if partners get a custodial sentence.
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I was just wondering if anyone knows if there are any benefits or help financially to us if our partners get a custodial sentence?
Really don't know how I will afford mortgage etc.
I don't suppose there will be for me as my children are now adults.
Thanks for any advice as always.
I was just wondering if anyone knows if there are any benefits or help financially to us if our partners get a custodial sentence?
Really don't know how I will afford mortgage etc.
I don't suppose there will be for me as my children are now adults.
Thanks for any advice as always.
Thanks lee1969, yes it does make sense. Just think I will probably end up getting a second job. Was hoping to be winding down a bit not doing more hours than ever. O well it's a waiting game. Xx
Hey dottie, the only financial support I recieved was through a charity that funded travel costs to the prison once a month.
Hi SallyBlue,
Didn't think there would be a lot of help out there. I did some research and wasn't coming up with anything much. Just thought I would ask to see if anyone had any other info.
Thanks for replying. Are you only allowed to visit prison once a month? I am really clueless with all this. Never envisioned myself being in this situation, like all the rest of us on here. Not what we would have imagined in our wildest dreams.
What was your partner charged with and sentenced if you don't mind me asking. I'm trying to get some idea of what to expect with my husband who is under investigation. Xx
Didn't think there would be a lot of help out there. I did some research and wasn't coming up with anything much. Just thought I would ask to see if anyone had any other info.
Thanks for replying. Are you only allowed to visit prison once a month? I am really clueless with all this. Never envisioned myself being in this situation, like all the rest of us on here. Not what we would have imagined in our wildest dreams.
What was your partner charged with and sentenced if you don't mind me asking. I'm trying to get some idea of what to expect with my husband who is under investigation. Xx
Hey Dottie,
It will depend on which prison and their visitation limits. He was allowed to have one visit a week, it was on a rota. There was one morning, one afternoon, one evening and one weekend in the 4 week period. You got to chose which suited. Unfortunately he was in a prison 100 miles away so I could only make an afternoon and a weekend. Only one of those was reimbursed.
He recieved a 9 month custodial (reduced to 6 for his guilty plea and released after 3)for possession of indecent images. He was also given a fine but as he was in prison it wasnt payable so they added a week onto his sentence.
It will depend on which prison and their visitation limits. He was allowed to have one visit a week, it was on a rota. There was one morning, one afternoon, one evening and one weekend in the 4 week period. You got to chose which suited. Unfortunately he was in a prison 100 miles away so I could only make an afternoon and a weekend. Only one of those was reimbursed.
He recieved a 9 month custodial (reduced to 6 for his guilty plea and released after 3)for possession of indecent images. He was also given a fine but as he was in prison it wasnt payable so they added a week onto his sentence.
SallyBlue,
Thank you for replying.
Thats a long way to travel, but then I suppose they can put them anywhere they like.
Did your partner do any therapy or the inform plus course? I hear this all helps with the sentence, although ultimately it seems to go down to the judge on the day.
We all seem to be wanting to guess the outcome, but I suppose that just isnt possible. The waiting is horrendous and im only on week 6. I know I just need to try and get on with my life but it is just so hard.
xx
Thank you for replying.
Thats a long way to travel, but then I suppose they can put them anywhere they like.
Did your partner do any therapy or the inform plus course? I hear this all helps with the sentence, although ultimately it seems to go down to the judge on the day.
We all seem to be wanting to guess the outcome, but I suppose that just isnt possible. The waiting is horrendous and im only on week 6. I know I just need to try and get on with my life but it is just so hard.
xx
Hi Dottie, it might be worth speaking to your mortgage lender or bank manager. Depending on how old you are you might be able to extend your mortgage e.g. pay off over a longer period of time. They might also let you pay less for a period of time.
Hi Puffin,
Thank you. Yes when the time comes, if it's custodial then that's what I will have to do. I had to do so when I divorced my first husband, but I'm 50 now and can't extend it by too many more years. I'm just trying to think ahead but it's impossible not knowing what the outcome will be. Xx
Thank you. Yes when the time comes, if it's custodial then that's what I will have to do. I had to do so when I divorced my first husband, but I'm 50 now and can't extend it by too many more years. I'm just trying to think ahead but it's impossible not knowing what the outcome will be. Xx
Hi Dottie, there is also potential for a mortgage holiday to buy you some time. I also changed all my suppliers for tv, internet, phone, electric, gas etc. Saved about 800 quid for the year. I realise it's a lot to face when you are going through this but it gave me a sense of regaining some control. In one aspect of my life. Financial stress is horrendous.
Hi Bubble, thank you for your suggestions. A mortgage break sounds like it could help. I have started to try and cut the bills. The first to go was my husband's sky sports. Well he isn't living at home at the moment, and he understands he has put us all in financial difficulty maybe for a very long time.
I will keep trying to whittle down costs and bills.
I will keep trying to whittle down costs and bills.