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Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2401 posts

Posted Fri August 18, 2023 3:19pmReport post

Afternoon lovlies x

I hope this week has been kind to you all

I had a weeks holiday from work which has been really refreshing, the weather has been hit and miss but still found lots of things to do, I had my furbaby for a few days while my daughter and her boyfriend moved in to there own place, so had lots of lovely walks in the fields near me,

Then on Weds I went to visit them (gave them a bit of space to get things sorted :-)

Just seeing them so happy really made my heart want to burst, I am so incredibly proud of her, as much as I miss them this is a start for them to flourish together

My son is keeping well, we have a visit in 2 weeks so I will start to save up the pennies for the canteen:-)

Love sent as always xx

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2549 posts

Posted Fri August 18, 2023 3:52pmReport post

Good to hear your ok Upset. We have a new fur baby in our family, such a cutie and opening a whole new doggy world for us. I carnt wait for our walks.

Had time off work too and I've felt adjusted and normal. I'm so proud how far we've come as a family to survive this. Never be back to how we were or sure of what the future holds BUT we carry on with our baby steps.

My boy is well and sounds much stronger, I'm proud of how he's coped in prison and took it all on the chin. I can sense his determination to rebuild his life, why would you not give these men a chance........ but that's a personal decision isn't it.



love to all my friends on here xxxxx

rainyday52

Member since
April 2023

447 posts

Posted Fri August 18, 2023 5:02pmReport post

Hi again- glad your weeks have been good (in the grand scheme of things!) and especially happy for you both that your daughter, Upset, and son, Smile, are doing well at the moment. And Upset, I expect your son is busy working up his appetite for a fortnight's time!!!

As for me - an unexpected meet-up with an old friend who lives in Cyprus but was so fed up with the heat that she came back here for a few days to cool off. She has no awareness of what's happening with our son so we had lots of chit chat about life in general over lunch.

Yet another theatre trip for me (my happy place!) and on impulse I got a day seat for the Wizard of Oz at the Palladium. It was fabulous - done so well and a bit of Ashley Banjo does the heart the world of good. He was the tin man, Jason Manford was the cowardly lion and he brought the house down as he was so funny. Fab sets and costumes and faithful to the original film but with the songs brought up to date. Fully recommend it for some light hearted distraction!!!

On a more serious note, our son had the pre-proceedings meeting for his children who SS want removed from their mother's care. It's the right thing for them (long story) but obviously complicated by our son's offences meaning he can't have them with him. Luckily there's us and also his sister-in-law who are all keen to foster them and we want the best for them so can put aside personal feelings about stuff. Next step is for us to have assessments done as family foster carers but that's some weeks away.

Lots of love to all of you reading this thread. Onwards and upwards, everyone xxx

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Confusedwife

Member since
October 2022

169 posts

Posted Fri August 18, 2023 8:55pmReport post

Hi upset,



fur baby's really do help we took ours to the beach yesterday. We have a mini labradoodle we call her the golden child lol we've had a busy week making memories, trips to water parks and beaches. Although I did break my toe swimming we still had so much fun.





rainyday- Iv been looking at booking tickets to see wizard of oz, was it good? I took my youngest to see frozen the musical a few months ago and absolutely loved it. There's so many I want to go see my eldest really wants to see six.

rainyday52

Member since
April 2023

447 posts

Posted Fri August 18, 2023 10:22pmReport post

Confused - musical theatre is my big love (after my human beings - although sometimes I prefer it!) If it mirrors my life in some way it's really cathartic and if it's just another world it does me good too. Two hours or so of escapism really helps my mental health. I saw Frozen last year and agree it was great - although Elsa's dress malfunctioned in Let it Go when it changes magically and she fell over and showed us all her knickers!!! Got up and belted out the final line and got a standing ovation!!! I love Six as well - learnt more about Henry Viii than I ever did in History at school.

Yes, Wizard of Oz was very good - they use CGI to show the tornado and lots of the weird Oz locations, plus really strong performances all round, and being in the Palladium is special as it's such an iconic theatre. We're taking our grandkids to see the Spongebob musical next week so fingers crossed they like it as it's a first for the younger one (I took the older one to see the Lion King a few years ago.) I was weaned on all the old school musicals as my mum sang the songs to me instead of nursery rhymes.

I agree there is so much to see in London - and very expensive. I do go with friends or one of my daughters but I enjoy solo visits too as i can see exactly what I fancy and usually get a cheap day ticket.

Webb89

Member since
July 2022

438 posts

Posted Fri August 18, 2023 11:31pmReport post

Hello friday check in

Been away for a few days last week had a great time, but did not want to come home. Finding life hard at the moment. Feeling fatigued all the time and not helping when i am working and OH is watching the football. This is my life now. I cannot see a way out. I get anxious about everything. now i find my friends, who once had loads of time for me, now dont. I get they have their lives to lead but it has left me feeling very lonely. My wedding anniversary is soon. Last year friends and family who ususally sent me cards didnt anymore as they presumed i would not want to celebrate. Just finding things hard at the moment.

Heres to another week.

rainyday52

Member since
April 2023

447 posts

Posted Sat August 19, 2023 9:21amReport post

So sorry about friends and family backing off, Webb. That's harsh, and it's not too hard to remember an occasion without sending a gushy 'happy ever after' type of card. Yet again people don't like confronting their own awkwardness about our situation so just retreat when a kind word would make all the difference. Well, plenty of kind words available here and I hope your wedding anniversary can be a day to hang onto the expectation that there are better days ahead for you xxx

Seaside

Member since
July 2022

560 posts

Posted Sat August 19, 2023 10:55amReport post

Upset and Smile so pleased to hear that your boys are doing well and I'm sure the hungry caterpillar will be preparing a list ready for your next visit Upset xx

Rainyday I love the theatre too there's something so magical about waiting in the audience for the curtain to go up .

Webb I'm sorry to hear that you have had people walk away its just so hard and unfair but we're all here for you always.

I've had a good week as my eldest son came to visit which was just lovely he has been so supportive of me throughout all of this nightmare and non judgemental regarding his brother he understands that people make mistakes and that this behaviour doesn't define him.

Son is doing well and we are getting by.

Love and strength to everyone here xx

Webb89

Member since
July 2022

438 posts

Posted Sat August 19, 2023 1:44pmReport post

Thank you rainyday52 and Seaside, and your message upset mum. I was just feeling sorry for myself. I have a severe eye infection which is making my life miserable. Cannot take sick off work as was on long term sick last year due to the knock and i will be on a warning if i take anymore more. As my work is screen based i am suffering and it is making me miserable. But as always the support and kindness on this forum makes life a little better. I truly do not know where i would be without this forum.



But, i will put a smile on my face (read somewhere it is hard to stay miserable when phyiscally smiling) and hopefully have a nice weekend taking my puppy out. She is still in the stages that everything is an adventure.

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2549 posts

Posted Sat August 19, 2023 5:51pmReport post

webb - So sorry to hear your feeling down in the dumps at the moment, it's a bloody hard journey for sure, in a blink of an eye you can plunge into misery....... hug sent.

Webb89

Member since
July 2022

438 posts

Posted Sat August 19, 2023 6:22pmReport post

Thank you Smile through tears. Hug received. X

Blue Sky

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February 2023

205 posts

Posted Sun August 20, 2023 4:59amReport post

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