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I discovered you today, kicking myself that I hadn't sought you out sooner. I no longer feel so alone and isolated. Your testimonies, questions and answers have helped me tremendously.
I'm 14 months post the knock. OH of 15 years arrested for downloading images. The shock of my life. I was numbed by it, for months, still am. I was prepared to wait for more info before making a decision to kick him out. Then, he suffered a devastating stroke (last Summer), one side paralysis. Spent 3 mths in hospital. At home now but requires full time care. I am his carer.
The worry and stress obviously deepened. BUT it has made me, us, evaluate life. He did wrong, drawn in by the 'teen' option on the adult sites he was using. Stupidly and naively thought that online age rules were the same as consent. I make no excuses for him here.
He has now been charged. He takes full responsibility for his actions and ignorance. Fully remorseful.
I guess i wanted to say that after 14 months of hell, upheaval, upset, fear (of course sadly you all know those feelings) I am accepting of the fact that he only has me to help him through his recovery. How can I leave him now. I just couldn't/wouldn't. We'll get through this together, I won't ever forget but can forgive.
Thank you for listening X
I discovered you today, kicking myself that I hadn't sought you out sooner. I no longer feel so alone and isolated. Your testimonies, questions and answers have helped me tremendously.
I'm 14 months post the knock. OH of 15 years arrested for downloading images. The shock of my life. I was numbed by it, for months, still am. I was prepared to wait for more info before making a decision to kick him out. Then, he suffered a devastating stroke (last Summer), one side paralysis. Spent 3 mths in hospital. At home now but requires full time care. I am his carer.
The worry and stress obviously deepened. BUT it has made me, us, evaluate life. He did wrong, drawn in by the 'teen' option on the adult sites he was using. Stupidly and naively thought that online age rules were the same as consent. I make no excuses for him here.
He has now been charged. He takes full responsibility for his actions and ignorance. Fully remorseful.
I guess i wanted to say that after 14 months of hell, upheaval, upset, fear (of course sadly you all know those feelings) I am accepting of the fact that he only has me to help him through his recovery. How can I leave him now. I just couldn't/wouldn't. We'll get through this together, I won't ever forget but can forgive.
Thank you for listening X
Hi Grapefruit - nothing to say really other than thank you for posting and sharing. All the best to you and your OH - 'in sickness and in health' is absolutely true for you both regardless of the offence situation. I admire your strength of love and commitment xxx
Thank you rainyday52
Yes, "in sickness and in health".....a tinge of "for better for worse". The irony.
I do have very tough days, still anger, disbelief, dread etc. Will never be the same, but I'm hanging on to the wish that there are brighter days ahead. Couldn't be any worse than this last year, surely.
Yes, "in sickness and in health".....a tinge of "for better for worse". The irony.
I do have very tough days, still anger, disbelief, dread etc. Will never be the same, but I'm hanging on to the wish that there are brighter days ahead. Couldn't be any worse than this last year, surely.