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Peace of mind when on holiday

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Seaside

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July 2022

560 posts

Posted Wed August 23, 2023 12:09pmReport post

Hi everyone,

I'm due to go on holiday with my OH in the next couple of weeks leaving my son behind at home.

We've been away a few times before for short periods of time and it has been fine but this is for a longer period of time.

How can I stop myself worrying about my son whilst I'm away ?- he is employed so won't be at home alone for long periods of time and we will be checking in with him whilst we're away but I don't want him to feel like we don't trust him as he's working very hard to regain our trust and has really made progress since the knock.

Any advice would be appreciated-we really really need some time away as things have been very difficult lately apart from all this nightmare.

Webb89

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July 2022

438 posts

Posted Wed August 23, 2023 5:57pmReport post

Could you set a time when you will contact him to see if he ok. Then the rest of the time enjoy your time away. Will he be able to contact you if there is a problem? If yes then at least you know if he does have any rpoblems you are only a text away. I used to send a text of good morning and goodnight when i left my children for the first time. It is just a soft touch but enough i knew they were ok.



just a thought. Hope you manage to have a nice holiday. X

Edited Wed August 23, 2023 5:57pm

Seaside

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July 2022

560 posts

Posted Wed August 23, 2023 6:02pmReport post

Thank you Webb yes that's what I'm thinking of doing and he will be able to contact us too.

Smile through tears

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September 2021

2549 posts

Posted Wed August 23, 2023 6:07pmReport post

I know it'll be hard but it's important you relax as much as you can and enjoy your holiday.

just give him a daily call and a contact number...... that's all you can do.

have a good time!

Seaside

Member since
July 2022

560 posts

Posted Wed August 23, 2023 6:08pmReport post

Thank you Smile my dear friend

rainyday52

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April 2023

447 posts

Posted Wed August 23, 2023 7:57pmReport post

We went away for 10 days about a month after our son's arrest, leaving him home by himself. I was so scared he'd harm himself but once we were at the airport and on our way I was able to put my fears to one side and just rely on a daily Whatsapp message - plus knowing my daughter had promised to keep in touch with her brother over the time we were away. Our problem was disciplining ourselves to NOT talk incessantly about everything which was quite hard but would have spoilt the holiday big time. It was actually quite nice to chat to people who knew nothing whatsoever about us, so no worrying about awkward questioning. I do hope you manage to have a really good and restful time away.

xxx