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Confused123

Member since
July 2021

22 posts

Posted Tue August 29, 2023 7:01pmReport post

I don't know why I am posting here or what I am hoping to achieve. I think it's because I lost so much of myself through this whole process and forgot about me so I am basically alone with very few friends and family. I live 200 miles from my family. My OH got the knock, phone laptop taken, 2 years later, no further action. No evidence found.

Fast forward eight months after 2 holidays and what I thought was rebuilding our lives I have found he has been ringing sex chat lines and potentially using escorts and specifically asking for 19/20 yr old girls.

I am so angry. And I'm scared. I feel so alone and I have nowhere to go, limited funds and friends and I'm terrified to be on my own which is probably why I haven't left sooner.

I know I need to walk away now but this whole dam situation for the past three years has broken me and I'm a shell of a person that I once was.

I guess I just needed to post somewhere that somebody might understand

Nemesis

Member since
July 2021

125 posts

Posted Tue August 29, 2023 8:18pmReport post

I a really sorry my lovely.

I learnt the hard way. But in hindsight there were choices, we are worth more. It may take time, but get a plan, speak to those you need to and do why is right for you.

Protect yourself, do what you need to do, and get yourself medically tested. If the partner is doing these things, you need a clinic,

Massive hugs

Sad and confused

Member since
November 2022

32 posts

Posted Wed August 30, 2023 8:18pmReport post

I'm so sorry to hear that you have been let down so badly by the person who is supposed to love you. It's no wonder your confidence is at an all time low. Could you speak to your doctor? Or The Samaritans? Just being able to talk through your feelings might make your next steps a little clearer.



I myself have asked to be referred to a counsellor through work today as I just need to make some kind of sense of my feelings.



Sending you a virtual hug! Things will get better I promise x

BaffledB

Member since
July 2021

876 posts

Posted Wed August 30, 2023 9:30pmReport post

Confused,

I'm so sorry you are going through this, you absolutely deserve more. Can you contact Womens Aid or perhaps another women's refuge charity to see if there is any help they can offer you? Some can allocate funds and support for women who need it xx

K4

Member since
October 2022

611 posts

Posted Thu August 31, 2023 7:11amReport post

Oh I am so sorry to read your story. I am sending you all the hugs. I hope you find the strength and means to leave.



xxx