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Today we attended a meeting with my person's probation officer and the facilitator of the Horizon course that he's just completed.
I think it went really well although I could do with a holiday or perhaps a lie down in a dark room as it was incredibly emotionally draining.
None of it was a shock to me as we have had conversations throughout the course about the things he has put in place. That being said the list of things he has put about himself and his previous views on sex seem a million miles away from the partner he was, particularly around boundaries. He was always very respectful and not at all pushy in any way. Sorry for tmi but I don't have another space to air this right now aside from him and we've exhausted our conversation for today.

I think it was a positive for me to be there for both of us. I was able to discuss our future plans about our relationship and I felt heard which is something I'd been worried about due to my previous experience with his first probation officer.



Something I've taken away from today is that we are strong as a couple and although our relationship is not anywhere close to perfect that's ok for now. We've come really far in the three years since his arrest both individually and as a unit and I'm immensely proud of both of us.



My older children saw him today too as they had little one while we were at the meeting. Things were awkward but there was some small talk. I'm so incredibly grateful for that breakthrough. I hope that this post helps to show others that hard work and honest communication pays off. None of us choose to be thrown into this situation and honestly I don't think I ever saw us getting anywhere close to this point in our relationship again