Struggling with the media
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Feel like I'm really struggling tonight my mind won't switch off with worry and anxiety about our case getting in the media.
iv seen on Facebook tonight 2 cases in my local area shared by the police and I stupidly read the comments, now I'm filled with anxiety again.
im so worried about the affects it'll have on my children, is there anything we can do to stop it getting out? My youngest is autistic and finally has a good group of friends at school after struggling to make friends. I'm so worried about the affect it'll have on her if the parents find out and stop them being friends. Since the day her dad was arrested she has been too scared to sleep in her own bed and has slept in my bed for 13 months now, she struggles with anxiety.
Has anyone else had luck with keeping their cases from the media?
iv seen on Facebook tonight 2 cases in my local area shared by the police and I stupidly read the comments, now I'm filled with anxiety again.
im so worried about the affects it'll have on my children, is there anything we can do to stop it getting out? My youngest is autistic and finally has a good group of friends at school after struggling to make friends. I'm so worried about the affect it'll have on her if the parents find out and stop them being friends. Since the day her dad was arrested she has been too scared to sleep in her own bed and has slept in my bed for 13 months now, she struggles with anxiety.
Has anyone else had luck with keeping their cases from the media?
Just wanted your enquiry to be bumped to the top. I did not have young children so knew nothing would help. I have read on here that other people have written to the judge and it has helped regards media.
sorry not to be much help, hope some one reads this that can help you. X
sorry not to be much help, hope some one reads this that can help you. X
Confused x
The worry of the media puts such a strain on your already worried mind, the OIC told me they have control over their FB page so I asked her if they could refrain from posting my sons case, not because I was ashamed but I wanted to protect my other 2 young adults, she said yes she understood, and guess what they shared it, I made the mistake of reading it the one any only time I have looked after my sons sentancing, it was awful, and I say that not to scare you even more, they keyboard warriors were out in force, I wanted to reply to say how it was reported was absolutely bullshit, I know what he was charged with as I was in court, but then I thought they do not deserve to have my energy wasted on explaining as they already made there minds up , you could speak to your solicitor and they can write to the judge but honestly as daunting as it is we have had no repercussions, it is today's news tomorrows chip wrap paper and it really is not worth giving it the time of day xx
The worry of the media puts such a strain on your already worried mind, the OIC told me they have control over their FB page so I asked her if they could refrain from posting my sons case, not because I was ashamed but I wanted to protect my other 2 young adults, she said yes she understood, and guess what they shared it, I made the mistake of reading it the one any only time I have looked after my sons sentancing, it was awful, and I say that not to scare you even more, they keyboard warriors were out in force, I wanted to reply to say how it was reported was absolutely bullshit, I know what he was charged with as I was in court, but then I thought they do not deserve to have my energy wasted on explaining as they already made there minds up , you could speak to your solicitor and they can write to the judge but honestly as daunting as it is we have had no repercussions, it is today's news tomorrows chip wrap paper and it really is not worth giving it the time of day xx
Agree with Upset, the police were evasive when we asked about media coverage, they said as my sons 'crime' was in the family it would not be reported, lies.
We had the full works and it was devastating, apparently our story was 'of public interest. We hid away, scared and shaking in our home for three days. Comments made were like a knife being twisted, that was my son they were openly discussing with their vile words.
Fortunately all we got was our neighbours and friends offering support. But I remain cautious years down the line.
The press do not directly lie with the facts - but twist things to make the circumstances look sinister and have no mercy just wanting to create a dramatic story. But again as Upset says you hold your head up high and do your very best to move on through the dark cloud of ignorance. Eventually it moves on to some other poor sole.
We had the full works and it was devastating, apparently our story was 'of public interest. We hid away, scared and shaking in our home for three days. Comments made were like a knife being twisted, that was my son they were openly discussing with their vile words.
Fortunately all we got was our neighbours and friends offering support. But I remain cautious years down the line.
The press do not directly lie with the facts - but twist things to make the circumstances look sinister and have no mercy just wanting to create a dramatic story. But again as Upset says you hold your head up high and do your very best to move on through the dark cloud of ignorance. Eventually it moves on to some other poor sole.
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My coping mechanism was to write to the judge as I had nothing to lose, I had absolutely no dialogue with the police as they are not on your side, they lie and they don't care, I shut down social media and didn't actively scroll looking for media coverage. I have no idea if anything is out there. We are 7 months post sentencing and my husband is serving a custodial sentence. It's incredibly difficult but make a conscious effort to deal with the challenges each day presents and with what you can control as this journey is tough enough x
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Thank you everyone! I just had a bit of a wobble, I think I feel ok ish now less anxious (for now) when the time comes I shall ask his solicitor to ask our address to not be released and photo hopefully!!
I'll also write a letter asking myself to the judge, my youngest has autism so I'm hoping the judge will understand that I need to protect her. Also as he is no longer allowed to live with us I'm going to remove him from council tax and bills, and hope they see that this isn't his address right now.
then I'll deactivate my fb account just in case.
I'll also write a letter asking myself to the judge, my youngest has autism so I'm hoping the judge will understand that I need to protect her. Also as he is no longer allowed to live with us I'm going to remove him from council tax and bills, and hope they see that this isn't his address right now.
then I'll deactivate my fb account just in case.
Definitely do write to judge . I did it through the barrister, they cleared the court . We were lucky .
Newlady
thats reassuring to read I will definitely write a letter. I also thought about asking my gp to write one as my youngest has autism and anxiety, she's slept in my bed every night for over a year now and won't sleep unless im in bed.
thats reassuring to read I will definitely write a letter. I also thought about asking my gp to write one as my youngest has autism and anxiety, she's slept in my bed every night for over a year now and won't sleep unless im in bed.
Yes definitely do ! The more letters the better , hopefully it works as you've all been through enough x