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My partner had a court hearing yesterday in regards to him trying to get supervised contact with his kids, who hasn't seen since 2017. Sentenced in 2019.
He applied just before COVID lockdown to the courts, and it is all meant to be wrapped up by the end of the month. So many ups and downs.
In the hearing yesterday it was said if they can't get the professional who did the assessment to attend the end of sept hearing then it would need to be postponed again for an estimated another 6 months.
I cannot cope with this anymore! I ja e been supportive as best as I can, but it has come to the point where I genuinely believe he should drop the court case and hope his kids reach out one day.
The professional opinion of nyas is that it has been too long and it is not in the kids interest to pursue. The kids were so young and have shown no interest in knowing him.
My partner wants to keep this going to the end. But when is the end!
I want to get on with my life. I am now worried that he won't get his shpo amended in time before people I know have kids. The financial impact is also getting too much for me.
But if he does stop the process because of my suggestion, and not because he genuinely wants to, I worry he will resent me for it.
I'm near breaking point and it isn't like me to 'give up'. I'm not great at following my own advice tbh. If anyone else was in my shoes I would say to move on. But I am struggling to come to terms with that.
He applied just before COVID lockdown to the courts, and it is all meant to be wrapped up by the end of the month. So many ups and downs.
In the hearing yesterday it was said if they can't get the professional who did the assessment to attend the end of sept hearing then it would need to be postponed again for an estimated another 6 months.
I cannot cope with this anymore! I ja e been supportive as best as I can, but it has come to the point where I genuinely believe he should drop the court case and hope his kids reach out one day.
The professional opinion of nyas is that it has been too long and it is not in the kids interest to pursue. The kids were so young and have shown no interest in knowing him.
My partner wants to keep this going to the end. But when is the end!
I want to get on with my life. I am now worried that he won't get his shpo amended in time before people I know have kids. The financial impact is also getting too much for me.
But if he does stop the process because of my suggestion, and not because he genuinely wants to, I worry he will resent me for it.
I'm near breaking point and it isn't like me to 'give up'. I'm not great at following my own advice tbh. If anyone else was in my shoes I would say to move on. But I am struggling to come to terms with that.
Hi Majestic
I have no suggestions but I can completely empathise with the bind you are in. Although my situation is different I do feel similarly conflicted in terms of thinking I'm not sure I can carry on living like this, or I'm not sure if the relationship is is worth the stress and the effect on my mental health.
Are you able to sit down and talk honestly about all this? Does he know how youre really feeling? I had a frank and homes t conversation with my Oh recently and although he found some things I said upsetting and hurtful, I think he does now have a better understanding of where I'm coming from and things are better between us.
Still don't know how long I can carry on living like this, though. I'm digging into my reserves now!
I have no suggestions but I can completely empathise with the bind you are in. Although my situation is different I do feel similarly conflicted in terms of thinking I'm not sure I can carry on living like this, or I'm not sure if the relationship is is worth the stress and the effect on my mental health.
Are you able to sit down and talk honestly about all this? Does he know how youre really feeling? I had a frank and homes t conversation with my Oh recently and although he found some things I said upsetting and hurtful, I think he does now have a better understanding of where I'm coming from and things are better between us.
Still don't know how long I can carry on living like this, though. I'm digging into my reserves now!