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Minerva

Member since
September 2023

2 posts

Hi,

It's day 6 since the knock. I can't see the light. I'm trying as hard as I can to regain some sense of control in this hellscape.

I won't make any rash decisions yet- I've got so many emotions to process.

But, knowing that I have choices over certain things makes me feel calmer.

Does anyone have any recommendations for decent divorce solicitors that specialise in this?



Thank you. X

Posted Thu September 7, 2023 7:44amReport post

loulou74

Member since
September 2022

257 posts

The 2 year wait doesn't apply anymore (in England and Wales). Once you've applied for the divorce, you have a 20 week wait before applying for the conditional order and then another 6 weeks for the final order. Between conditional and final is when you get the finances agreed. Assuming you are in England or Wales, divorces are now no fault so it doesn't matter about the offence and when splitting the assets, the offences aren't taken into account, though if you have children and they cannot live with their dad, then you are likely to get a bigger share of the assets as you will be housing them 100% of the time. It'd be worth having a chat with a solicitor so you know where you stand if you decide to split, but don't rush into a decision while it's still so raw. I couldn't speak to my husband for the first 6 weeks, let alone make a rational decision. I didn't decide for definite until after sentencing. Solicitors have come across all sorts, especially in family law, so don't worry about finding someone who knows about these types of offences, they've probably come across far worse.

Posted Thu September 7, 2023 7:06pmReport post

Parkerpoo1

Member since
July 2022

252 posts

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loulou74

Member since
September 2022

257 posts

Hi Lee, yes completely changed to make it easier to do yourself, though a solicitor is still needed for part of the finance agreement. It's not a conditional order and final order.



Hi Parker, yes Scotland is different. I think you still have the 2 year wait unless you can prove unreasonable behaviour or adultery. I think it's quite hard to prove unreasonable behaviour though obviously he has been unreasonable. Though it can be one year if you both agree.

Posted Fri September 8, 2023 4:50pmReport post

Anxious mummy

Member since
February 2023

102 posts

Hi

I would give yourself a good month before deciding on a solicitor. I made a rash panicked decision the week after the knock and appointed quite an aggressive male lawyer who has turned out to not be very empathetic. I have just changed lawyer to a female lawyer who after just one meeting has been amazing. I know in my gut she will be great, whereas I felt unsure with the first one. If you would like a recommendation message me and I will send details.

Posted Fri September 8, 2023 10:34pmReport post

Minerva

Member since
September 2023

2 posts

Hi Anxious Mummy, please could you PM me your solicitors details? I'm not able to message you directly for some reason. Thank you!

Posted Mon September 18, 2023 10:26amReport post

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