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Hi my story is long but I'm now at a stage where I could do with some advice. My husband got arrested 2 years ago at the time my daughter wasn't living with me ( due to my ex (her dad not my husband) manipulated the situation before this happened so she went living with him. Sometime after the knock me and husband split up he moved out. After this happened me and my daughter had an argument about something her dad had done (not my ex husband) and she didn't speak to me for months. I was living in a town where people was spreading rumours I hated going to get the bus to work so I decided I was going to move and get a fresh start I got back with my husband and we decided we would need 2 wages to get our fresh start. We got a place after 6 months and I have to request my keys back from my daughter who still hasn't spoke to me. When she found out I was moving away she started wanting to see me again which we facilitated (husband stayed in a hotel) and my daughter would come down as we never asked for supervised contact as I knew daughters dad would fight me and I knew ss would be 100% backing him. When I moved I had a couple of alarming phone calls off my daughter about what her dad had done so I got ss involved as I was worried about his behaviour. Then an early care worker got involved. Without asking we got supervised contact. Then my daughter gets kicked out of her dads. They ask me to move daughter in so I say you know what position I'm in they said yes. We was trying to get hubby a separate place but it all happened so sudden. Supervised contact was so hard to maintain with work and other things. Husband went to court got his sentence it was a none contact offence there was just rules around the internet. A bit after daughter moves in get call from new sw.They came round to tell me he's high risk when I seen paperwork from his report before court saying he's not. They wanted me to kick him out and end it I couldn't as I wouldn't have got this place just on my wage alone. I told them if they were willing to pay for accommodation for husband we were happy to do that. Sw had a meeting with early care worker came out of that meeting saying she was going to speak to her legal team but told me I don't need to speak to someone legal but I did anyway solicitor told me at first I would be in court that afternoon by what was said but then rang me back to ask for daughter's dob and said it has to be exceptional circumstances for them to take me to court because my daughter was 16. They said just listen to ss. So after that after saying no to pay for hotel they agreed. Husband found a place week later they told him it was so an assessment could be done. Daughter had a hard time finishing her GCSEs and I was finding it tough as some of her behaviour was challenging sw then suggested an intense support worker that took a month to come through which by that time my daughter had finished school and a lot had calmed down. The intense support worker has since said she thinks we are ok and thinks we would benefit from being left alone. Before that our sw cancelled last meeting and we haven't heard anything since. My husband is in his place and he got a new probation officer last month she went to introduce herself to social worker and she is a bit annoyed that she's not heard back from them in a month as she wants to know how long this assessment is going to take. I have not received anything saying when the next meeting is I don't know what's going on. Can anyone give me any advice if they went through anything like this I would be great full.
Hi there , not much advice but my daughter is 16 also (not my partner) , his shpo states no unsupervised contact with anyone under the age of 16 . His then probation officer told SS I was thinking of sleepovers with him (I wasn't he has his place we make it work ) I got a very very threatening phone call from sw, staying they be takinge to court , yes court , just for talking to him . I was told to cut all contact . I got advice of few lovely ladies here , and rang them back telling them where to go . They'd no grounds and his new po and visor manager said the referral shouldn't have been done in the first place . So I'd say check what's on his shpo first then speak to his po . It's probably just a scare tactic. Would be thrown out of court . X
His shpo is all on declaring his devices having his phone monitored telling them passwords etc there is nothing on there that states he can't have contact with under 16 or even under 18 year olds.
Thank you new lady yes his new probation officer I think wants to ask some questions to social worker but she not heard anything. They have even tried to use my daughter to get rid of him my daughter told them she doesn't want them and they said they have to while I'm still with him