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Hi, not sure if anyone has been in similar situation but my persons bail is up beg of next month which will be 3rd time extension. How likely is that the extension will be granted? From my understanding from the police we seem to be low priority with the amount of images he was arrested for (2). Not sure if this makes any sense. Just wanting to know what the likelihood of it being dropped, etc? thanks
My oh kept being extended he was on bail for 18 months all together
My OH bail date is in 2 weeks and it will be the 4th time extended. It never ends and the police are in no hurry. Honestly through all this I have realised how many of these "authorities" don't actually care/ want to help. Me and my 5 year old are treated as though we are guilty of the offence! They don't realise there are other hidden victims. It's something I want to fight to change for the future. The police and Social Services have both done significant mental harm to my 5 year old, and once this is over I will be taking it further with the correct authorities. They actually took away his human right stopping him playing with any of his friends outside of school! He didn't understand why and still doesn't! He had SEN needs prior to the knock, and this all made it worse.
has anyone else been told their kids can't play with neighbours or friends? Both my neighbours know what's happened and are happy for their kids to play with mine but the police and ss won't allow it. My OH bail keeps him away from the property so I really don't understand how they can justify taking away a child's friends when they still need the distraction and emotional support. Makes me sick thinking about what they have done to him and I'm going to keep fighting it until he gets an apology and the justice he deserves!
has anyone else been told their kids can't play with neighbours or friends? Both my neighbours know what's happened and are happy for their kids to play with mine but the police and ss won't allow it. My OH bail keeps him away from the property so I really don't understand how they can justify taking away a child's friends when they still need the distraction and emotional support. Makes me sick thinking about what they have done to him and I'm going to keep fighting it until he gets an apology and the justice he deserves!
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Iv 2 children primary and secondary and not been told they can't play with any other children. This doesn't seem right, how the hell can they stop a child playing? Who told you they cant play? Get them to put it in an email as to why. Honestly don't understand how any authorities would do this.
Iv 2 children primary and secondary and not been told they can't play with any other children. This doesn't seem right, how the hell can they stop a child playing? Who told you they cant play? Get them to put it in an email as to why. Honestly don't understand how any authorities would do this.
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my partners was extended twice then he was Rui, the oic rang him to tell but also said he has to still stick to the bail conditions which was a load of rubbish. My partner's solicitor wasn't happy and rang the police and then spoke to her boss who confirmed she told him wrong.
im guessing they put him on Rui because he's so far down the line as it's been almost a year of Rui.
my partners was extended twice then he was Rui, the oic rang him to tell but also said he has to still stick to the bail conditions which was a load of rubbish. My partner's solicitor wasn't happy and rang the police and then spoke to her boss who confirmed she told him wrong.
im guessing they put him on Rui because he's so far down the line as it's been almost a year of Rui.
@Wolf_pack - Oh my goodness, that is SO awful. Your poor little boy. i absolutely agree; They have no regard for us as the ones innocently suffering in all of this and despite social workers supposedly wanting whats best for the children, they never take their emotions and mental wellbeing into account. Its something that i've found the worst too. How they treat my daughters is disgusting, and i'm currently in the process of complaining because like you say, they do cause significant harm. This is already a lot for the children involved without anything else, i do hope your little boy is ok, and i'm so sorry they are doing this to him. Our social worker is awful too. Sending you love, and hope you fight against them. X
@Confusedwife - Thanks for your reply. Sounds like a nightmare having to go back and re-confirm everything when they shouldn't be making mistakes like this! So is he still under his bail conditions? do you have social involved? i wonder if that makes any difference at all.
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so he has no bail conditions at all since last October, which was a relief as we had a holiday booked for the November which was a holiday from pre covid rebooked I was so thankful for that holiday.
social services closed our case a week or so before he was Rui she assumed he would have bail extended again and told me it would be, so when he didn't and was Rui she rang me back up and asked my intentions now. She just wanted to know if he was moving back in as legally he could, but i decided not to let him move back in because I didn't want to confuse the kids moving back in and then possibly him then having to move back out or even if he went to prison.
iv only actually seen the sw twice it took 5 weeks for them to agree for my kids to see their dad again. The second time she spoke to my children by themselves and told them dads done something he shouldn't of online!! Didn't tell me she told them that, then my youngest asked him on FaceTime then got upset thinking she'd done something wrong. Really annoyed me cause that's my job to tell them not hers, so when they come back they won't be speaking to them alone again.
so he has no bail conditions at all since last October, which was a relief as we had a holiday booked for the November which was a holiday from pre covid rebooked I was so thankful for that holiday.
social services closed our case a week or so before he was Rui she assumed he would have bail extended again and told me it would be, so when he didn't and was Rui she rang me back up and asked my intentions now. She just wanted to know if he was moving back in as legally he could, but i decided not to let him move back in because I didn't want to confuse the kids moving back in and then possibly him then having to move back out or even if he went to prison.
iv only actually seen the sw twice it took 5 weeks for them to agree for my kids to see their dad again. The second time she spoke to my children by themselves and told them dads done something he shouldn't of online!! Didn't tell me she told them that, then my youngest asked him on FaceTime then got upset thinking she'd done something wrong. Really annoyed me cause that's my job to tell them not hers, so when they come back they won't be speaking to them alone again.
@Confusedwife - Isn't it strange how all social workers in different areas work so differently. Ours never leave us alone! currently on CIN plan, i have two children from previous relationship who aren't allowed any contact at all, and our baby together who has supervised contact.
I'm hoping the police might drop the bail conditions too.. and under rui until a conclusion. Maybe i'm being too hopeful. At least for the moment they are leaving you to it. - They did that with my two older children, its horrible! I also have made it very clear that no conversations are to take place without someone present.
I'm hoping the police might drop the bail conditions too.. and under rui until a conclusion. Maybe i'm being too hopeful. At least for the moment they are leaving you to it. - They did that with my two older children, its horrible! I also have made it very clear that no conversations are to take place without someone present.
so both the ss and police have said it. I have it as part of an email conversation. Both neighbours have also put in complaints to both authorities bevause their children are upset about not being able to play with mine.
the solicitor has told me it's against his human rights and I have the right to decide along with the other parents.
once they have finished and this is over I am planning on counter suing. All 3 families are. There are no other children on our street their age.
it's been heartbreaking over the school holidays they talk over the fence they play catch and had water fights but all with a 6ft fence in between them.
my oh hasn't been charged he is only under RUI just can't live with us. Doesn't restrict him going anywhere public where there may be kids etc and he can spend time supervised with ours. But even when he's not here the kids aren't allowed to play. They are punishing incident children and it's not fair. Social Services have closed we are literally waiting on device check. Luckily he has some very close school friends. And we have spent time with them over the school holidays etc. but my wrath towards the police and ss is at an all time high. I know it's not something people do in our situations but when the time is right I plan to go public with what they have done to my child's mental health. I know I will get trolls and keyboard warriors etc. but I want it out there because I feel like I have to protect my child from the authorities who are supposedly in place to protect them. And they don't.
the solicitor has told me it's against his human rights and I have the right to decide along with the other parents.
once they have finished and this is over I am planning on counter suing. All 3 families are. There are no other children on our street their age.
it's been heartbreaking over the school holidays they talk over the fence they play catch and had water fights but all with a 6ft fence in between them.
my oh hasn't been charged he is only under RUI just can't live with us. Doesn't restrict him going anywhere public where there may be kids etc and he can spend time supervised with ours. But even when he's not here the kids aren't allowed to play. They are punishing incident children and it's not fair. Social Services have closed we are literally waiting on device check. Luckily he has some very close school friends. And we have spent time with them over the school holidays etc. but my wrath towards the police and ss is at an all time high. I know it's not something people do in our situations but when the time is right I plan to go public with what they have done to my child's mental health. I know I will get trolls and keyboard warriors etc. but I want it out there because I feel like I have to protect my child from the authorities who are supposedly in place to protect them. And they don't.
@Wolf_Pack - How awful. Utterly heartbreaking. The poor children! Are they at school? - If so, can they intervene and fight your corner? I know that our headteacher is very supportive with my girls in all of this and has many conversations with SS.
Good, I'm glad you're all planning on fighting back with the complaining. But it does make you think how many children this is happening too. It's just disgusting. I'm sure they make the rules up as they go along too. It's always changing for us. I can't keep up with their nonsense! It's just not fair.
Good, I'm glad you're all planning on fighting back with the complaining. But it does make you think how many children this is happening too. It's just disgusting. I'm sure they make the rules up as they go along too. It's always changing for us. I can't keep up with their nonsense! It's just not fair.
@Wolf_Pack - How awful. Utterly heartbreaking. The poor children! Are they at school? - If so, can they intervene and fight your corner? I know that our headteacher is very supportive with my girls in all of this and has many conversations with SS.
Good, I'm glad you're all planning on fighting back with the complaining. But it does make you think how many children this is happening too. It's just disgusting. I'm sure they make the rules up as they go along too. It's always changing for us. I can't keep up with their nonsense! It's just not fair.
Good, I'm glad you're all planning on fighting back with the complaining. But it does make you think how many children this is happening too. It's just disgusting. I'm sure they make the rules up as they go along too. It's always changing for us. I can't keep up with their nonsense! It's just not fair.