Family split in two
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Evening all,
So I had SS out to see me again now my OH has pleaded guilty. They are happy for him to have supervised contact with our son but have now said that he can not have any contact with my two girls (even supervised with me) he can only come to the house if they are out, even though they've allowed it since the knock (Aslong as it was supervised) So now I have to try and split myself between my OH and our son and my two girls who love their step dad.
SS argument is that because they do trust him they are vulnerable which I do understand but if I am supervising and they've agreed they're happy with me to do that... why can't that happen?
I feel like I'm being punished.
OH has done all the courses, going to counselling to deal with past traumas and triggers. I've read books done courses on safeguarding. Has anybody had this situation and been able to move forward?
SS did say it's not necessarily for forever but it's down to his probation officer or sex offender manager (neither of which he's met yet) and whether they deem him high/low risk...
Also surely there's exceptions for Christmas Day, birthdays etc. they said we can't even go out for a walk as a family now...
really trying to stay positive and hope it's a temporary measure.
Also had the SS pressure of "if you left him you'd never see us again" so basically making their job a whole lot easier. Very frustrating but trying to keep calm for the time being.
So I had SS out to see me again now my OH has pleaded guilty. They are happy for him to have supervised contact with our son but have now said that he can not have any contact with my two girls (even supervised with me) he can only come to the house if they are out, even though they've allowed it since the knock (Aslong as it was supervised) So now I have to try and split myself between my OH and our son and my two girls who love their step dad.
SS argument is that because they do trust him they are vulnerable which I do understand but if I am supervising and they've agreed they're happy with me to do that... why can't that happen?
I feel like I'm being punished.
OH has done all the courses, going to counselling to deal with past traumas and triggers. I've read books done courses on safeguarding. Has anybody had this situation and been able to move forward?
SS did say it's not necessarily for forever but it's down to his probation officer or sex offender manager (neither of which he's met yet) and whether they deem him high/low risk...
Also surely there's exceptions for Christmas Day, birthdays etc. they said we can't even go out for a walk as a family now...
really trying to stay positive and hope it's a temporary measure.
Also had the SS pressure of "if you left him you'd never see us again" so basically making their job a whole lot easier. Very frustrating but trying to keep calm for the time being.
Thank you Lee,
OH has pleaded guilty to communicating, no iioc found on any devices. He has completed the inform plus course and has put blocks on his phone for gambling as that is the trigger and dealing with past traumas. He is trying to keep himself busy with new hobbies (gardening, learnt a new language) and exercising. Is there any other courses he could do?
I have completed courses for keeping children safe online and am waiting to do the inform course.
When will he get his shpo? Is this done with probation?
I am on a safety plan with SS and have a good support network. There issue is me being complacent. How do you prove you won't be? Do they really think we'd forget any of this?!
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OH has pleaded guilty to communicating, no iioc found on any devices. He has completed the inform plus course and has put blocks on his phone for gambling as that is the trigger and dealing with past traumas. He is trying to keep himself busy with new hobbies (gardening, learnt a new language) and exercising. Is there any other courses he could do?
I have completed courses for keeping children safe online and am waiting to do the inform course.
When will he get his shpo? Is this done with probation?
I am on a safety plan with SS and have a good support network. There issue is me being complacent. How do you prove you won't be? Do they really think we'd forget any of this?!
x