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Hi everyone,
I wanted to put a message on here as I'm feeling really stuck at the moment. My boyfriend was released from prison in April after doing a 10 month sentence, I was a little unsure about him coming back as I was ok with being alone, yes it was hard but I had my own space to think, I could look forward to him ringing, and also I could keep a tidy space( being tidy wasnt his best talent) A few times I've lost a little bit of trust with him mainly from me over thinking things. I have got only one chnace left for him and recently I've started to feel unhappy.
He has started to do things that I do not like ( nothing illegal) and it has made me feel different about him. I'm away in a few months time seeing family, and I do not trust him to be alone at home.
How do I tell him once again that I don't have any trust? I know he is trying to be good and change but I'm so scared from before that in a split second things will change for the worst.
His offending manager was great and he has now left so I also now don't have someone I can talk to as such.
I haven't called this helpline in a while as I don't want to sound like he is doing anything he shouldn't be as that's not the case.
I want to do something with my life and feel happy but I do not know what. I am so scared to leave because yes this is a horrible situation to be in but it's all I've known for a few years.
I do not know what to do or what is for the best, I feel really stuck in all of this.
As crazy as this sounds and as painful it was with him being inside, I miss it.
I don't miss the visits but I miss being excited to see him, to feeling so much love when I walked into the room, and I see him now I just feel dread and empty. I wonder what my future would be like with and without him, and it worries me both ways.
thank you for reading this :)
I wanted to put a message on here as I'm feeling really stuck at the moment. My boyfriend was released from prison in April after doing a 10 month sentence, I was a little unsure about him coming back as I was ok with being alone, yes it was hard but I had my own space to think, I could look forward to him ringing, and also I could keep a tidy space( being tidy wasnt his best talent) A few times I've lost a little bit of trust with him mainly from me over thinking things. I have got only one chnace left for him and recently I've started to feel unhappy.
He has started to do things that I do not like ( nothing illegal) and it has made me feel different about him. I'm away in a few months time seeing family, and I do not trust him to be alone at home.
How do I tell him once again that I don't have any trust? I know he is trying to be good and change but I'm so scared from before that in a split second things will change for the worst.
His offending manager was great and he has now left so I also now don't have someone I can talk to as such.
I haven't called this helpline in a while as I don't want to sound like he is doing anything he shouldn't be as that's not the case.
I want to do something with my life and feel happy but I do not know what. I am so scared to leave because yes this is a horrible situation to be in but it's all I've known for a few years.
I do not know what to do or what is for the best, I feel really stuck in all of this.
As crazy as this sounds and as painful it was with him being inside, I miss it.
I don't miss the visits but I miss being excited to see him, to feeling so much love when I walked into the room, and I see him now I just feel dread and empty. I wonder what my future would be like with and without him, and it worries me both ways.
thank you for reading this :)
Hi
I couldn't not respond, my first thought is harsh for you to hear, but where there's no trust, there's no relationship.
If you really think that there's something worth salvaging, I would suggest you could both try relationship counselling. Or just get some counselling for yourself. It might help you unpick your own feelings about this, from my own experience it's hard to see straight when you're in the middle of it.
I couldn't not respond, my first thought is harsh for you to hear, but where there's no trust, there's no relationship.
If you really think that there's something worth salvaging, I would suggest you could both try relationship counselling. Or just get some counselling for yourself. It might help you unpick your own feelings about this, from my own experience it's hard to see straight when you're in the middle of it.
Hi, I'm sorry you're going through this.
In my opinion, you know how you felt without him around and it sounds like you felt more comfortable and peaceful. You also know how you feel being around him and you cannot trust him. To me, because we know the outcome of both scenarios, your life is somewhat easier without him. A lot of people are scared to leave because they don't know what will happen and that's what puts them off leaving. But you know and I hope you can get some reassurance from your previous experience that life will be better x
In my opinion, you know how you felt without him around and it sounds like you felt more comfortable and peaceful. You also know how you feel being around him and you cannot trust him. To me, because we know the outcome of both scenarios, your life is somewhat easier without him. A lot of people are scared to leave because they don't know what will happen and that's what puts them off leaving. But you know and I hope you can get some reassurance from your previous experience that life will be better x