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This is so so wrong - to leave people in limbo for years - it's cruel.

My sons case was sorted out pretty quickly so we were fortunate in that respect. But my heart goes out to you ladies (and I think it's most of you by what I read on here), where there's no end in sight.

nothing to offer here, except a hug xxxx

I am so sorry you have waited so long, it's hideous. We are just over 18 months and that's bad enough. Still nothing. I find it so infuriating. We are lucky in that we have been allowed to live together as a family, but it makes me hopping mad for those families out there who haven't been allowed to live together since the knock. My OH went to his SAA meeting last night and he said there is one guy who has been waiting since 2015, and still nothing. Unbelievable......

That is such a long time to wait and nothing happen!. My partner got the knock Jan 21, so we've waited over 2.5 years. He waited over 6 months to get the charges after his 2nd interview. He goes for sentencing next month. The limbo stage is horrific, so much time to sit and over think. The worst for me is the worry about media and it all going in the papers

We're at 14 months now and oic emailed the other day to say because of the backlog they've had to outsource the device check which is average 500 days!!! Absolutely crazy that they think this is ok, we're living life normally atm as husband is Rui but I just feel like in a year or whenever they feel like it they're gonna come pull the rug beneath us and god knows what will happen. It's really not fair I don't want to have to rebuild are life/ marriage again. It's tiring and exhausting.

All the best for sentencing Louise49, keep us posted, and if you need to rant, go for it! We are all with you

T2021

I wish the police were honest at start with how long these cases can take, we were originally told a few months!! I'm also not even sure when the 500 days actually started as they only told us last week after 14 months.

Hi, we were 2 years this September since the knock and apparently with the CPS in march this year, told a few weeks ago that CPS are checking evidence for the second time!!! Not sure if that's cos they couldn't find anything the first time or because they're making sure they haven't missed anything lol.

My person is RUI for communication too xxx

Hi we are 11 months in ... husband RUI for ioc (how funny that my predictive text for ioc was idiocy! Sums it up!)

We were told 3 months then 6 months and have now been told 'our cases are not taking a year'.



But still no news ... genuinely feel that I am on the verge of a breakdown most days .. the fear, the 'putting on a happy face', the lies that I feel I am telling to cover up what's happening is suffocating.



Thankfully my children are grown up so totally unaware of what's happened. I feel so sad for those families who have been ripped apart ... financially, emotionally and physically. How can that be right? What ever happened to innocent until proven guilty. I also acknowledge that children in families need to be kept safe. But to leave people hanging on for sometimes years is cruel and protects no one.

I hope that you hear something soon and to all those in limbo I send a virtual hug x

It takes a really long time.

My husband was arrested in July 2022 (also for indecent images) and still no outcome.

His phones have been returned to the police about two months ago, but they still haven't received the forensic report from the agency that forensically searched the phones.

Hi it's been 18 month since the knock we were told 9 months initially I'm waking up every day with a sick feeling is it gonna be today ,I feel the last 18 months of my life has been a lie I have to put on a brave face every day as if I have a wonderful life when really I'm living someone else's life I'm still with my oh and I love him don't think I'm in love with him how could you been after something like this. He is a very troubled man at the age of 12 he was sexually abuse by a teacher over a period of 12 month growing up he has questioned his sexuality visiting gay sites I only found this out after being together 25 yr. This has led him onto a kik platform and into chat rooms with lots of people he tells me he has no interest in children and these images cat c that were put into chat were not asked for but as he has viewed them I suppose he is as bad as someone that has asked for them. We have 3 children 24 22 and 17 but ss have been involved which was terrible as my sons school were involved aswell. I just wish this nightmare was over im so afraid of how I'm going to cope with the outcome if it goes into media and people find out. We have now been together 34 years and don't want this to end but really don't know what's gonna happen

1 attempted communication here knock june 19 sentancing feb 23