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First of all, I want to give you a big hug, if that's okay. You are going through hell at the moment and it's okay to have so many different conflicting feelings. Someone you have loved dearly has betrayed you.



None of this is your fault. You are not stupid of naïve or any of it. Why wouldn't you believe what he told you? They have a way of coming up with perfectly believable explanations because if you've had no involvement in the system that deals with these offences how are you going to know anything different to confront them otherwise?



You say you've lost your family because of him. Is it totally impossible for you to reach out to them and try to open up to someone? I think you need some support from familiar faces if it's possible.

Sending you love and strength x

Bless you. That is heartbreaking. Do you have any friends who could be a source of support? X

That's okay, moan away! I have a cat I talk to a lot even though she spends most of her time asleep. Animals are a huge comfort even though they can't give advice or tell us everything is going to be alright. Maybe that's why they're a comfort haha.

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L4W, we're all taking it one day at a time. So what's your next move? Head somewhere else? Find a job there and then a place of your own? When's he in court? Will you sit it out there in case he goes to prison and you can have the place to yourself?

They're very good at drip feeding us information, but forget we'll get the truth eventually when it goes to court. My ex OH is moving out this weekend leaving me with having to pay all the rent and bills, and I gave up work in March because my mental and physical health was sufferiing.

I have contingency plans. Nothing set in stone. Just ideas to give me possible plans for the future.

Not a lot to offer, Lost, but a hug of sympathy and comfort. When these things come out it's just unbelievable isn't it? The shock is immense and unfair (to say the least) how us relatives have to suffer the consequences of their actions.

Years later I still struggle to understand what my son did - i carry a very heavy burden of guilt and secrecy in my decision to support him. But you make the best you can of a bad thing, folk will find impossible to understand my loyalty but he's my son and I love him., full stop.

im not sure if I'd feel the same if it were my husband or partner to be honest. You ladies I feel have ultimate dilemmas to face :-(

Anyway - my lovely, two hugs sent. We are here for you x