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Anxious mummy

Member since
February 2023

99 posts

Posted Wed September 20, 2023 12:20pmReport post

Hi

my husband is going to court next week and fear it will come out in the press. I run my own business and it is now my sole income now my husband has lost his job. I wonder if anyone else had the same scenario? I thought perhaps I should prepare an email statement to send to my clients should my name get dragged in to an article. I feel so angry that the business I have spent years growing could be destroyed by the reputational damage. He has crushed every part of my life - our son, selling our house and the affect on my mental health. I am so angry my business might be at risk too. I love my job and it gives me escapism from all this mess

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

766 posts

Posted Wed September 20, 2023 12:39pmReport post

It's such a worrying time for you. I guess it wouldn't hurt to prepare a statement but when my persons case hit the media (paper and online) it only mentioned his name and no one else in the family was identified in any of the articles.

BaffledB

Member since
July 2021

876 posts

Posted Wed September 20, 2023 12:51pmReport post

I wouldn't send the email I'll be honest, we never know what's going to happen and it's unlikely you would be named. The anxiety is horrific and you think the worst but it doesn't always end up being the worst outcome. I hope it doesn't hit the media and you continue to operate your business x

loulou74

Member since
September 2022

255 posts

Posted Wed September 20, 2023 1:47pmReport post

I wouldn't worry about it. As a friend of mine said, it's nobody else's business and you don't need to say anything. We're post sentencing, it was in the media, my name wasn't mentioned but they did include our home address despite him not living here anymore and it is linked to my business as I worked from home in the early days of my business. The article also said his family were supporting him, we split up after sentencing. Some of my clients know, most don't, though know I'm divorcing as name changed . The ones that know have been amazing, everyone has been supportive, I network a lot and people know. But I've been fairly open about it, and told friends early on. As long as his offence doesn't impact your business directly, I wouldn't say anything. Maybe prepare something to say in case someone mentions it, so you're not caught off guard.

Melody8

Member since
March 2023

8 posts

Posted Wed September 20, 2023 2:07pmReport post

Hi so we got the knock last March. My husband was charged. We have a 11 year old son and the first social worker was a nightmare, basically telling me I could loose my son. My son was placed under CP and the SW often ate his lunch whilst on the monthly conference calls. He was coke and still have nightmares to this day.



my long term SW was incredible knew I was at no fault and was the victim in all this. He was so supportive and helped me keep this quiet and not let my son know anything.

roll on 14 months and we are out the other end. My biggest fear was alway it all getting out in the press. Luckily however st the plea hearing the press were there but took no notes, for the scenticing again no press in the room at all.



it's just been so emotionally draining now and unfortunately I just can't stay in my marriage as I'm just so broken.



all I would say is fear the worst and hope for the best. I was almost sure his would hit the press and it didn't.



he was very very close to going to prison. He got 300 hours community service and is on a tag. He isn't living with me and my son which is heartbreaking as he was me soul mate.



best of luck



stay strong

Edited Wed September 20, 2023 2:08pm