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I appreciate this may be a bit neiche however me and my person live separately and his home address is registered at his parents where he resides for most of the week if not all week. He does have my address down as a property he visits for more than 12 hours that has children because he comes to spend time with the kids we didn't want the hassle of going to the station if planning a day which would take us over the 12 hours and getting caught out.
So on Sunday the Visor visited my home address, they had not attempted to visit his main addresss (we know this as his parents were in all morning). I can understand if they can't locate him at his home address on multiple occasions then it would be reasonable to attempt my house however it doesn't sit right with me that this had not taken place first. Plus they already had a meeting arranged this week. if he is here it's bacause he's caring for the children and a visit wouldn't be appropriate anyway so I don't see the benefit of coming here.
Part of the reason why we are not together and not living here as I don't want to deal with all of of this stuff. I know they are not here for me but I don't want a police officer in my home or even have to answer the door to them you know the 'knock' heart pounding each time the door goes.
I know they have to monitor people fine but surely my children and I have rights in my own home to privacy? Or maybe I don't ? Where can I find if attending my home address is reasonable and proportionate
So on Sunday the Visor visited my home address, they had not attempted to visit his main addresss (we know this as his parents were in all morning). I can understand if they can't locate him at his home address on multiple occasions then it would be reasonable to attempt my house however it doesn't sit right with me that this had not taken place first. Plus they already had a meeting arranged this week. if he is here it's bacause he's caring for the children and a visit wouldn't be appropriate anyway so I don't see the benefit of coming here.
Part of the reason why we are not together and not living here as I don't want to deal with all of of this stuff. I know they are not here for me but I don't want a police officer in my home or even have to answer the door to them you know the 'knock' heart pounding each time the door goes.
I know they have to monitor people fine but surely my children and I have rights in my own home to privacy? Or maybe I don't ? Where can I find if attending my home address is reasonable and proportionate
Hi Summer, I'm afraid I don't know anything about visor, what they can or can't do, but I do understand how traumatising it is for them to just turn. I think you are completely correct in what you say, you and your kids should not be involved.
Sending hugs
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If it is a property where he spends some time, even if only occasionally, then the police could probably make a safeguarding argument for visiting, because there are children there.
You don't have to let them in, or answer any of their questions though.
You don't have to let them in, or answer any of their questions though.
Thanks for your replies I have messaged you lee
Yeah I have gone back 9 months in my anxiety after feeling I've dragged myself out of this Drama.
Out of interest Edel when you say safeguarding he's allowed to have his children unsupervised and he sees them here in thier home because they have all their familiar things here. I don't think at all they came becasue of safeguarding. If they had a safeguarding concern then they should send a social worker because they are not trained to speak to the children.
I feel they came to show the fact they can turn up wherever they want!
There has been no Benifit to them turning up other than giving me sleeplesss nights and anxiety
Yeah I have gone back 9 months in my anxiety after feeling I've dragged myself out of this Drama.
Out of interest Edel when you say safeguarding he's allowed to have his children unsupervised and he sees them here in thier home because they have all their familiar things here. I don't think at all they came becasue of safeguarding. If they had a safeguarding concern then they should send a social worker because they are not trained to speak to the children.
I feel they came to show the fact they can turn up wherever they want!
There has been no Benifit to them turning up other than giving me sleeplesss nights and anxiety
This happened to us they never went to his parents house. It's because they knew he would be here because if what time it was if he hadn't of been here they would of gone to his primary address. Only way around it is not let him around so he only as one address and if his not there say his not in if the pop by
The police will do their own risk assessment, independent of anything that the SW does. The visit will form part of their inteligence gathering and because this is an unusual arrangement, I expect they are curious.
But you are right. Their visits are unannounced for a reason. They can turn up whenever they like and I'm sure they would say that it helps them catch people who are up to no good.
But you are right. Their visits are unannounced for a reason. They can turn up whenever they like and I'm sure they would say that it helps them catch people who are up to no good.
So Visor made a referral as he was here unsupervised but they wasn't that bothered they left her here with him and I got a call Thursday. Now social want another assessment even though 5 months ago a senior social work left the choice with me. What's changed nothing? Probation were aware of this months ago and visor was emailed 5 months ago about having unsupervised with his children and not a dicky bird from either having issue with it. Lord give me a break!!